when are privileged people going to realise that bringing diversity to media and the market does not mean privileged people writing marginalised stories, but rather it means uplifting marginalised creators so we can all exist on an equal playing field
(this is not to say don't write a diverse range of characters — that's great when you do it with good research and respect — but i want to see equal platforms for marginalised creators, not just marginalised characters)
the thing that pisses me off the most about this whole "haha trans men in womens bathrooms will make them reconsider" spin going around is that it basically pretends trans men and mascs of color dont exist and arent in very real danger
like, think about for even one second how, historically, white women have weaponized the perception of moc as inherently masculinely savage to get them killed for being threats to fragile helpless white girls
do you think the lady who calls 911 on black men birdwatching in the park is going to see a trans man of color in the womens bathroom and go "gosh! i never thought about it that way. you've really exposed the flaw in my arguement"? no. shes going to call security and that man will be brutalized or killed
(and dont even for a second think that woc will be safe either. i was getting side eyes and pointed questions long before i ever came out because my skin was brown and i had short hair. tmoc and our sisters arent fucking safe and we deserve better than being used as some white posters pithy "gotchya")
On the topic of trans men experiencing erasure and other problems that are not talked about, we should probably talk about when we actually DO get recognized and it's usually the white skinny trans men who get the most recognition. Which, is awesome and I'm not complaining because getting any recognition is a win. But we need to start also having our black poc, asian, native, hispanic, etc brothers in mind if you have not done so already. They have been erased from history even more than us. The same goes for the fat plus size men, the men who don't pass either because they can't or just don't want to (which is valid!), the men who can't transition or feel comfortable in their agab body (which is also valid), the men who are femme presenting, the men who are butch, men who are disabled etc etc.
Listen to when your black poc, asian, hispanic, native, etc men SPEAK. Listen to them. Listen to the men who are severely underrepresented in our community. Don't you DARE tell them to sit down or shut them out when speaking up about their experiences as trans men. If you see it shut it down immediately! That toxic shit is not safe in our spaces and we will not be quiet about it.
Keep our brothers safe!
can we normalize talking about how fucking debilitating agoraphobia is cool thanks
anorexics i am begging you to stop putting your thinspo in the binge eating tags please and thank you
It always hurts me to see people on here call 200kcals worth of food à “binge” because it’s not. A binge it’s a large (and I mean large by general social standards) amount of food that you eat in an uncontrollable way. Not a bit over your limit. We should bring more awareness to the effects of binging and what it actually is because stuff like this can be very alienating to those of us who actually struggle with this
nobody talks about how hard it is to exist in social isolation.
i forgot that it's normal to have a friendship group.
i forgot that it's normal to be invited to things.
i forgot that it's normal to leave the house.
i hope that people with friends never take that for granted because some of us don't have that and it fucking sucks.
begging for pmdd resources to be written with gender neutral language. it's not a women's only condition. i'm unstable enough as it is i don't need to be driven to a dysphoric breakdown every time i look for help.
people who've taken birth control (progesterone only) or ssri's to try to deal with pmdd how did it go and is it worth it
reminder to my fellow trans folks that it's okay to hate being trans.
it sucks. it's uncomfortable. it's painful.
trans joy and trans pride is very real and i'm glad it exists, but there needs to be more acceptance for those of us who don't experience it.
mental illness is supposed to be mental wtf is this aching pit in my chest