It Always Hurts Me To See People On Here Call 200kcals Worth Of Food à “binge” Because It’s Not.

Love the word "also". I have more things to say

A little reminder that the "scary" neurodivergents belong in the community too. The ones with intrusive thoughts. The ones who seem self-centered.

The people with ocd, bpd, npd. Stuff like that. They belong here too.

skinnytok is actually making me laugh. why do they look so pleased with their little quotes as if they're original and not copy+pasted directly from pro ana tumblr.

sometimes adhd is forgetting where you put your keys but other times it's having executive dysfunction so bad you haven't left the house in weeks, dropping out of work/school because you can't focus on it, cutting people off when the novelty of the relationship fades, and spending all your time binge eating to find the right level of stimulation and i think that needs to be talked about more

pmdd is having a little guy in your head whose solution to any and all issues is “just kill yourself” and you have to be like. sigh. NO, that’s not an option. and they’ll be like “…unless??” and it’s just that for a week and then they clock out and you wave to each other and say see you next month

The fearmongering around medical transition for transmascs will never not be upsetting to me.

“you’re gonna look ugly as a man” “but you’re such a pretty girl, don’t change that” Wrong. You will look different after T, but you will look happy. You will probably grow hair and gain weight and look pretty different, and none of that is bad or makes you less desirable. You are going to look like you and that’s all that matters.

“T makes you angry” “you’re gonna be a scary man i won’t feel safe around you” Wrong. Testosterone does not “make” you angry. Messing with your hormones will mess with your emotions for sure, but you will not immediately become some scary predator when you start T. Being a man/masculine does not make you a threat, a predator, or inherently angry. That’s radfem shit.

“bottom growth is gross” “no one will want you with bottom growth” Wrong. Bottom growth is cool and a LOT of guys end up loving theirs a lot more than they thought they would. For a lot of people it is a desirable trait, there are people who find bottom growth hot and attractive. And! If you’re sure you don’t want it there’s things you can do to work around that, just talk to your provider.

“bottom surgery is super painful and not worth it” First off, call it phalloplasty, because that’s what you’re talking about. Second, yes it’s painful, it’s surgery. There are risks to it and complications can happen, but that’s true of any surgery. Phallo might not be for you, but it is life saving care for other folks. It is beautiful and should be talked about as life saving care and not as some afterthought thing that no one actually does.

Being transmasculine is a beautiful thing. Transitioning medically is not something every trans person wants, but if you notice yourself holding back for the reasons i’ve listed above (or similar) maybe reconsider.

What are you supposed to do when you’re agoraphobic but you don’t have any hobbies to pass the time being inside the house?

I’m terrified of the outside world but I’m also terrified of being trapped inside with my own brain

I’m spiralling

the moment an eating disorder isn't restrictive or doesn't "compensate" for behaviours that could lead to weight gain, nobody gives a shit. and it's exhausting.

as someone with binge eating disorder, i'm tired of being dismissed, humiliated, and ridiculed by everyone.

i've had psychiatrists tell me that my eating disorder isn't real and that i just 'have no self control'.

i've had anorexics call me a disgusting pig and use my mental illness as something to laugh at.

i've had bulimics say similarly horrible things, which is hypocritical given their disorder involves binging as well, but when i pointed that out they told me that 'at least they do something about it.'

binge eating disorder is horrible to live with. at the very least we could be given some respect.

tw: eating disorder mention (not abt me)

i feel like we dont talk about binge eating disorder enough. a lot of people talk about anorexia, a decent amount of people talk about bulimia, but ive barely heard people talk about bunge eating disorder. it's a very serious disorder, just as serious as anorexia and bulimia, yet it doesn't get as much recognition as it should. i find that odd.

no??

someone else invalidating your disability is not the fault of higher-needs disabled people, it's because of a lack of understanding and an ableist mindset.

high support needs and 'more disabled' people are not a threat to those of us with lower support needs, and we need to stop pretending that they are.

to say that they are 'only acknowledged by the public to invalidate less visibly disabled people' is a harmful statement that perpetuates infighting and lateral ableism within the disabled community, and erases the very real dangers and challenges that higher-needs disabled people face.

being disabled at any level sucks, but there are some of us with more privilege than others. independence is a privilege. mobility is a privilege. mainstream communication is a privilege. yes, invalidation hurts, but it is far from the biggest issue that disabled people face, and we need to be uplifting the most marginalised in our communities instead of shunning them further.

the problem is not people who are more disabled than you.

the problem is the system that is not designed to accommodate all of us.

it is possible for someone to be 'more disabled' than you, and that's okay. all it means is that they have higher support needs and their disability disables them more than yours does.

that is not an attack on your validity as a disabled person.

that does not mean that you are not disabled.

someone else's disability has no impact on your own. there will always be someone more disabled than you. that is completely okay.

to the next person that says adhd isn't disabling i wish you a very week of isolation, binge eating, and getting kicked out of your job because executive dysfunction wouldn't let you do your work