no??
someone else invalidating your disability is not the fault of higher-needs disabled people, it's because of a lack of understanding and an ableist mindset.
high support needs and 'more disabled' people are not a threat to those of us with lower support needs, and we need to stop pretending that they are.
to say that they are 'only acknowledged by the public to invalidate less visibly disabled people' is a harmful statement that perpetuates infighting and lateral ableism within the disabled community, and erases the very real dangers and challenges that higher-needs disabled people face.
being disabled at any level sucks, but there are some of us with more privilege than others. independence is a privilege. mobility is a privilege. mainstream communication is a privilege. yes, invalidation hurts, but it is far from the biggest issue that disabled people face, and we need to be uplifting the most marginalised in our communities instead of shunning them further.
the problem is not people who are more disabled than you.
the problem is the system that is not designed to accommodate all of us.
it is possible for someone to be 'more disabled' than you, and that's okay. all it means is that they have higher support needs and their disability disables them more than yours does.
that is not an attack on your validity as a disabled person.
that does not mean that you are not disabled.
someone else's disability has no impact on your own. there will always be someone more disabled than you. that is completely okay.
to the next person that says adhd isn't disabling i wish you a very week of isolation, binge eating, and getting kicked out of your job because executive dysfunction wouldn't let you do your work
nobody talks about how hard it is to exist in social isolation.
i forgot that it's normal to have a friendship group.
i forgot that it's normal to be invited to things.
i forgot that it's normal to leave the house.
i hope that people with friends never take that for granted because some of us don't have that and it fucking sucks.
OCD symptom i struggle with but don't see talked about a lot: inability to trust your own memory and/or perception.
as an example: i put my headphones in my bag. i say im sure they're in my bag, but what if i imagined putting them in my bag? i have to check, so i stick my hand inside and grab them. but then i have to check *again* because what if i just so happened to have another object shaped and sized exactly like my headphones that i just forgot about? so i have to pull them out of my bag and look directly at them to fully confirm they were in my bag
this is a fairly benign example but this also happens with other worse scenarios for me and it's. not fun
“kids spend too much time on their devices” well what else are they supposed to do? there’s no corner shops with pinball machines in them on every corner anymore. there’s no malls or stores in small towns for teens to hang out in without being suspected of shoplifting or kicked out for loitering. sidewalks are too broken for them to ride their bikes and there’s no bike lane in the street to make it safe for them. i just don’t understand where they expect these kids to go when they keep taking places away from them. and yes having no safe public places for them is what leads a lot of teens into addiction if they end up at a place where people aren’t truly looking out for them.
Inside you there are two wolves…
anyone else with pmdd more cross at the fact it's their period causing their symptoms than the actual symptoms themselves
please invite your disabled friends to things.
"we didn't invite you because we didn't think you'd want to/be able to come" is not a kind statement.
just ask us. if we say no, then we say no. but what if we say yes?
parties, social events, theatre, cinema, theme parks, museums, whatever. if you're inviting the rest of the friendship group, invite your disabled friends too.
people who've taken birth control (progesterone only) or ssri's to try to deal with pmdd how did it go and is it worth it
this 🤏 close to clawing out my ovaries with my nails
mental illness is supposed to be mental wtf is this aching pit in my chest