Great Advice!

I recently discovered your blog, and love it!. I was just wondering; how do you get in to the lifestyle? How does it started? (Hotwifing is actualy my most erotic fantasy) Thanks for sharing :-) And congrats for being a beuatiful, stable couple for so long.

Thank you!!  We got into the lifestyle innocently partying with another couple in our hottub.  Things just kind of happened,  The girls starting flashing and making out and me and the other hubby joined. We had never had a conversation about before then.  We continued to soft swap with the couple several times until we got tired of the drunk fest it had become and the drama between the other couple.  However, we did enjoy the excitement of it and I found it a huge turn on when she was with the other hubby. So, I started looking for straight single males that wanted to play with couples on Craigslist and actually found our first victim.  It was a huge turn on and the guy suggested some Swinger Websites that we should join.  We joined and started going to parties and events to meet people and played on cam in the website chat room.  We played with some couples but mostly MFM.

Interesante, describe un poco mas el lado "cuckold" de una pareja donde ella es hotwife. Por el comentario de la humillación.

Pero aun mas interesante es que sea una tendencia tan fuerte que los medios convencionales la tengan que publicar.

Quien dijo? yo.

Great text, an interesting evolution of terms allowing to disambiguate "cuckold" and "stag".

WHAT IS A STAG The term Stag differs from the term cuckold. According to Sage Vivant, author of the book ‘Your Erotic Personality’, Stag are typically heterosexual men who get off on the idea of their wives or girlfriends being with other men but do not really fit the historical term cuckold. Many such men dislike the term cuckold because society has denigrated its meaning, making it a shameful thing. This has not only been misunderstood but also rather disrespected throughout history. They were seen as weak men that in a bizarre tradition from Europe were seen to wear antlers as symbols of this supposed weakness. Thankfully in modern times we are a little more enlightened and in recent years the meaning of the word has morphed into something more empowering for both genders. The growth of the term ‘HOTWIFE’ in reference to the partners of such men is now well established in sexual subcultures. Some men are cuckolds proper in that they seek humiliation and debasement and possible homosexual encounters, and there is nothing wrong with that, to each his own fetish, however, by far more men identify with the term ‘Stag’ . They share with cuckolds the desire to see their partners take on extra lovers while they remain monogamous but that is where the similarities end. For the stag this is always by consent and any humiliation aspect is just a playful erotic teasing game with his wife rather than any real desire to be humiliated. He will never be humiliated or intimidated by his partner’s lovers. He is a strong type that simply derives huge erotic pleasure from seeing his wife or girlfriend being so alluring that nobody could resist her and considers it only natural and very arousing that she’ll need and deserve sexual satisfaction from others as well as him. He holds a genuine love and respect for his wife or girlfriend with whom he shares this erotic and fun lifestyle. For this reason the proper term for the partner of most hotwives is a STAG rather than cuckold. This behavior ranges from merely sharing the fantasy and acting out role play scenarios to full on Hotwifing. It is just one part of a relationship and many couples only dabble occasionally. Some couples discover ‘Hotwifing’ early in their relationships while others find it much later but either way it is a hugely growing phenomenon. The reasons for 'Hotwifing’ have always been around and lie deep in our evolutionary history as a species but factors such as female empowerment, better contraceptive/safer sex technologies, ease of online communication and information combined with other factors have brought it out of the shadows to the edge of the mainstream. Welcome to Stag and Hotwife Games, here we attempt to use images and captions to catch the eroticism and fun of couples that have delved into this world to reclaim the cuckold horns for the proud 'STAG’

A great advice

Thank you!

We have been married 18 yrs, and we have fantasized about hotwifing for about 8 yrs. Our sex life is great, and we always act out the hotwife idea everytime we have sex by dp and dirty talk. We have discussed about doing it for real several times, but she is too worried about something going wrong like std, moral values, etc. I have gotten very serious about wanting to do this but she wont plan it, although she is showing signs that she really wants to. I have thought of just making it happen.

No no no…. The basis of cuckolding is absolute openness and honesty. It’s not something you can start with deception and hope it ends well. If you want it and she wants it but she can’t pull the trigger then she’s just not ready. If you try to manufacture it without her knowing you open the relationship to resentment and guilt. Even if you could make it happen what happens if it doesn’t go well or she regrets it and blames you? These are things that need to be talked about before hand. You have to be on the same page about everything. That being said there are ways to coax it along. Playing the “would ya” game. “Out of all the people we know who would you fuck if you had the chance?” That kind of thing. Get her talking about it in a real life sense.

Also play the bar game where you go and watch her from afar while she flirts. She doesn’t have to fuck anyone. You could come over and “win” her away from the guy and then go fuck like bunnies. It’s a gradual thing. A frog in a gradually heating pot. Baby steps. But she has to be in agreement as to what the rules are.

But at the end of the day if she can’t do it then she can’t do it. At least you have a sexual wife that you love who is willing to fantasize with you about your deepest desires. There are tons of men who would give their left nut to have what you have.

Play the game but never be deceptive.

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Great post, you were very patient and got your reward. Thanks for sharing your experience and your amazing wife ;-) congrats man.

How did you get her to start fucking other guys. Did you start with swapping first or threesomes? Did it take long to convince her and was she keen to continue after the first. Did she want the same guy or to try others? Sorry for all the questions but am very interested and envious of you.

It took a very long time.  For years I talked about the fantasy of watching her fuck other guys- threesomes, gangbangs, etc.  She would always get very hot in bed with these fantasies.  Slowly talked her into swinging, which led to MFM threesomes, and then her just fucking guys while I was there, and then her fucking guys when I wasn’t there.  It was a progression and it took about a decade to get where we are now.  She did love fucking other guys, and at times she craves new cock, and other times her religious upbringing makes her feel guilty, so it comes and goes.  She does prefer to have one guy at a time, that is a regular fuckbuddy, but she is open to having multiple play partners.  Hope this helps.

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Nice advice; thank U

Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.

Interesting article It shows hotwifing as a growing tendence. Plus now it is something apearing in mainstream media.

Pure wisedon for husbands

had a threesome with my bestfriend and my girlfriend. she moaned so much more louder with his dick in her wet warm pussy. and she tells me that she fucks her better than i did

Glad you got the courage to share your girl. Now that you know he can fuck her better I hope you are taking this as an opportunity to up your game.

Watch tutorials on PornHub and eat her pussy more, start a healthy diet so your loads are bigger, and work out more so you can pound her harder. 

You need to show your female that you’re competing for her at the highest level. Otherwise, what’s the point?

#prove yourself

Gracias dir the advice, the bar part is so true

Hello, do you currently live in Italy? I was wondering if you could give us some advice. We're Americans travelling to Rome in a few months and the wife wants to find a guy for a night of NSA fun. Basically we're looking for a third for MFM threesome. Are Italian men open to this sort of arrangement? Any suggestions on where to find someone other than a bar?

HiDifficult to answer. I think most of the guys you can find in a bar will be open to have a ride with the wife, but perhaps not that open to a threesome with another man they never met.Even more important, if you rely on this kind of casual encounters you won’t be able to filter the guys, and you won’t know who you end up with.

I’d say it’s better if you get registered on a local swingers/cuckold/hotwife site, creating a couple’s profile; that will give you the opportunity to look for an experienced man (and you’ll be able to choose the one you like the most, too) and to set up a date for when you’ll be in Rome.

Have a look for example on www.thecuckold.com (it should have an English version too, and it’s basically free), or www.annunci69.it .The second one is far bigger, probably the biggest website of this kind in Italy, but the first one sometime is better.In case you might need it, Rome is in a region called Lazio (Italy is divided into regions, similar to US states even though on a smaller scale of course). It might be useful to look for singles and bull coming from this region, if not only Rome.Good luck ;)

Si se polarizara la misma fantasia un extremo seria llamado "Stag" y el otro "Cuckold".

Aqui hay una buena descripción del segundo termino. Agradezco que la publicaran.

¿ ERES CUCKOLD DE VERDAD?

Si respondes afirmativamente a los siguientes ejemplos entonces lo eres:

• Te gusta lamer el semen sobre tu esposa, aunque no sea tuyo

• Te excita que tu pareja te cuente sus experiencias sexuales pasadas

• Tu pene se pone duro solo de pensar en otro hombre follando a tu pareja

• Estas consiente que tu pene es más pequeño que el resto de los hombres

• Te excita a ver a otros hombres coqueteando con tu pareja; de hecho, prefieres que ella se vista como puta para obtener más atención.

• Prefieres ver una gran verga penetrando a tu pareja incluso más que tener sexo con ella

• Fantaseas con darle sexo oral a tu pareja mientras otro hombre eyacula en tu cara.

• No te importaría besar a tu pareja aunque su boca este llena de semen de otros hombres.

• Sabes que no tienes lo necesario para complacer a tu pareja, así que no te importa solo observar mientras otros se la follan.