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Great text, an interesting evolution of terms allowing to disambiguate "cuckold" and "stag".

WHAT IS A STAG The term Stag differs from the term cuckold. According to Sage Vivant, author of the book ‘Your Erotic Personality’, Stag are typically heterosexual men who get off on the idea of their wives or girlfriends being with other men but do not really fit the historical term cuckold. Many such men dislike the term cuckold because society has denigrated its meaning, making it a shameful thing. This has not only been misunderstood but also rather disrespected throughout history. They were seen as weak men that in a bizarre tradition from Europe were seen to wear antlers as symbols of this supposed weakness. Thankfully in modern times we are a little more enlightened and in recent years the meaning of the word has morphed into something more empowering for both genders. The growth of the term ‘HOTWIFE’ in reference to the partners of such men is now well established in sexual subcultures. Some men are cuckolds proper in that they seek humiliation and debasement and possible homosexual encounters, and there is nothing wrong with that, to each his own fetish, however, by far more men identify with the term ‘Stag’ . They share with cuckolds the desire to see their partners take on extra lovers while they remain monogamous but that is where the similarities end. For the stag this is always by consent and any humiliation aspect is just a playful erotic teasing game with his wife rather than any real desire to be humiliated. He will never be humiliated or intimidated by his partner’s lovers. He is a strong type that simply derives huge erotic pleasure from seeing his wife or girlfriend being so alluring that nobody could resist her and considers it only natural and very arousing that she’ll need and deserve sexual satisfaction from others as well as him. He holds a genuine love and respect for his wife or girlfriend with whom he shares this erotic and fun lifestyle. For this reason the proper term for the partner of most hotwives is a STAG rather than cuckold. This behavior ranges from merely sharing the fantasy and acting out role play scenarios to full on Hotwifing. It is just one part of a relationship and many couples only dabble occasionally. Some couples discover ‘Hotwifing’ early in their relationships while others find it much later but either way it is a hugely growing phenomenon. The reasons for 'Hotwifing’ have always been around and lie deep in our evolutionary history as a species but factors such as female empowerment, better contraceptive/safer sex technologies, ease of online communication and information combined with other factors have brought it out of the shadows to the edge of the mainstream. Welcome to Stag and Hotwife Games, here we attempt to use images and captions to catch the eroticism and fun of couples that have delved into this world to reclaim the cuckold horns for the proud 'STAG’

Are you ready for an open relationship?

More and more couples are experimenting with having an open relationship - basically, a relationship where each partner is allowed to have other sexual partners outside the relationship. Open relationships are different from polyamorous relationships; typically, in an open relationship, the couple remains emotionally committed to each other and only allows sexual, non-romantic relationships outside of that couple. Open relationships can be a means to cope with long distance, avoid boredom, or just add some variety to your sex life. They work well for some people, but they do require extra communication if they’re going to work.  If you and your partner are thinking about opening up your relationship, there are some important questions that the two of you need to discuss first. Namely:

Are both of you equally on board with opening the relationship? Or does one partner feel pressured into agreeing with it because they don’t want to lose the relationship? It’s okay if you’re both nervous or hesitant, but if one person is on board and the other one isn’t, that’s a recipe for disaster.

What are you hoping to get out of an open relationship? Why is this arrangement better for you? It’s okay if you both have different answers, but you should both be getting some benefit out of this. Neither of you should feel like you’re only tolerating this for your partner’s sake.

How much do you want to know about each other’s hookups? Do you have to notify your partner in advance when you’re going to hook up with someone? Do they want to hear the details? Or would they prefer not to know anything about it at all?

Are you allowed to hook up with people your partner knows, and vice versa? Are mutual friends off the table? Are you allowed to hook up with casual acquaintances, or people within your social circles? Or total strangers only?

Is your partner allowed to “veto” certain people that you might hook up with, and vice versa? Are there any potential hookups that are totally off the table? Do you have to give your partner a chance to veto a hookup beforehand?

Are you allowed to see the same person repeatedly outside of the relationship? Or is there a one-night-stand only rule?

Are you allowed to hook up with people within the same zip code? Some open arrangements only allow for hookups when one partner goes out of town. 

How are you going to make sure that you’re both being safe and avoiding disease? Are condoms mandatory? Will you both agree to get tested regularly? The answer to both questions should be yes, but it’s important that you both understand how important it is. 

What happens if one of you develops feelings for someone else? Do you have to tell your partner about it? Or just stop seeing the other person?

Is there an end date to the open relationship? Are you only open when you’re apart? Are you going to test this out for a “trial period” and then reassess if you like it? Are you going to continue to be open if/when you move in together, get married or have children?

What happens if one person wants to close the relationship? Does one person wanting to close the relationship mean it’s closed? Or do you both have to agree before that happens?

Are you going to tell people that you’re in an open relationship? How? Are there certain people that you aren’t going to tell, like parents or grandparents? 

Are you going to be okay if your partner has an easy time finding partners and you don’t? Or vice versa? Many people opening up their relationships assume that both partners will have an equally easy time finding people to hook up with, and this is definitely not always the case. 

This seems like a lot of questions and a lot of logistics, but the more you communicate beforehand, and the clearer your boundaries and ground rules are, the more likely you are to have a successful open relationship. An open relationship is supposed to be fun, but that’s not possible if one or both of you is wallowing in hurt feelings. Communicate your needs openly, and don’t be afraid to speak up if there’s a line you absolutely don’t want crossed. 

Your blog gets me sooooo wet. I’ve always loved the thought of banging multiple dudes. Then my hubby admitted to wanting to share me and when I asked how long he said he’d never even been interested in wife sharing until he met me and that turns me on in itself. Trying to work up the courage to post a pic of my big pierced tits on here and see how many guys would be willing to fuck me ;)

Some women are naturally sluttier than others. These women have a high libido and can basically have anything they want once they realize the power of their pussy. Your husband realized this and put you on a pedestal fast. He wants a HotWife not a cheating wife.

And yes, show us your tits, but also show us that freshly fucked pussy once in awhile so we know you’re not all talk.

#slut confession 

Un video interesante, util para un corneador. Interesring video for a bull (in spanish)

Great post, you were very patient and got your reward. Thanks for sharing your experience and your amazing wife ;-) congrats man.

How did you get her to start fucking other guys. Did you start with swapping first or threesomes? Did it take long to convince her and was she keen to continue after the first. Did she want the same guy or to try others? Sorry for all the questions but am very interested and envious of you.

It took a very long time.  For years I talked about the fantasy of watching her fuck other guys- threesomes, gangbangs, etc.  She would always get very hot in bed with these fantasies.  Slowly talked her into swinging, which led to MFM threesomes, and then her just fucking guys while I was there, and then her fucking guys when I wasn’t there.  It was a progression and it took about a decade to get where we are now.  She did love fucking other guys, and at times she craves new cock, and other times her religious upbringing makes her feel guilty, so it comes and goes.  She does prefer to have one guy at a time, that is a regular fuckbuddy, but she is open to having multiple play partners.  Hope this helps.

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I recently discovered your blog, and love it!. I was just wondering; how do you get in to the lifestyle? How does it started? (Hotwifing is actualy my most erotic fantasy) Thanks for sharing :-) And congrats for being a beuatiful, stable couple for so long.

Thank you!!  We got into the lifestyle innocently partying with another couple in our hottub.  Things just kind of happened,  The girls starting flashing and making out and me and the other hubby joined. We had never had a conversation about before then.  We continued to soft swap with the couple several times until we got tired of the drunk fest it had become and the drama between the other couple.  However, we did enjoy the excitement of it and I found it a huge turn on when she was with the other hubby. So, I started looking for straight single males that wanted to play with couples on Craigslist and actually found our first victim.  It was a huge turn on and the guy suggested some Swinger Websites that we should join.  We joined and started going to parties and events to meet people and played on cam in the website chat room.  We played with some couples but mostly MFM.

Great and usefull one

Great post.

If you may ever ask if there is an undelying reason for hotwifing.

Why do I find slutty women so attractive?

This was from an email that was submitted here.

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I was wondering if you met anyone like me. I am in my 20′s and single and only attracted to hotwives or promiscusous “bad girls.” I have no intention of settling down but I definitely don’t want a monogamous girl when I do. 

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Dear anon,

Have I met other guys who only like promiscuous women? 

Yes.

It’s actually pretty common. I’ll post my sources below.

Males will often produce more testosterone when competing for a non-monogamous female than they would with traditionally monogamous females.

In fact, non-monogamous women are often more desired due to the pheromones they emit. The “slut pheromone” phenomena is not a myth.

Semen produces chemicals that will hunt out and kill other semen. 

And since semen can stay alive for up to 10 days, there is a good chance that semen from multiple males are all battling inside one female.

Just knowing your seed is in a death battle with other males is enough to trigger this chemical release in your body.

Conclusion. Wanting to compete for promiscuous women is normal. It actually boosts your testosterone levels significantly and evolved to produce the best offspring possible. 

You’ll never see animals “slut shaming” 

They are either fighting for that ass, or actually getting it.

Sources

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sperm_competition

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022519310000317

https://www.zmescience.com/medicine/genetic/promiscuous-female-mice-sexy-offspring-432432/

http://journals.plos.org/plosgenetics/article?id=10.1371/journal.pgen.0010035

Bravo

Memes are NOT real life…

Can we make an effort to create and promote better lifestyle content?

I’m tired of seeing all these repetitive posts with the same unrealistic Hotwife captions that are clearly written by porn-addicted men. No woman is telling strangers to “fill their slutty married pussy with hot cum”. I get that most people come to these blogs for fantasy, but it’s really damaging to actual couples who dabble in the lifestyle. It sets unrealistic expectations and creates a pool of unqualified suitors when real couples are looking for another man to join them.

No, a Hotwife is not a cum dump.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck anyone with a big dick.

No, a Hotwife is not just a fuck toy for your pleasure.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck some one else every chance she gets.

I’d love to see more blogs create realistic images and captions that reflect real relationships.

*rant over*