How To Transform Her Into A Hotwife.

Great advice!

Looking to get my gf into the lifestyle or even just open up more sexually without telling her outright, any tips would be welcome!

Show her you love her.

not just in your words, but in your actions too. buy her flowers, buy her a card for no reason, help her around the house, and don’t forget to tell her you love her. Both men and women need to hear “I love you.”

Build her confidence.

Compliment her, tell her she is beautiful, tell her she looks nice in certain outfits, etc. If she has a nice ass, tell her. If she has great tits, tell her.It is important that the compliments are sincere. She will know if you are faking it.  During sex tell her how good it feels, how good she feels, how good she tastes. Tell her how good she is at sucking dick or how good her pussy feels.

Make her feel safe.

She has fantasies, even if she does not tell them to you or says she doesn’t. Open up about something you have never shared. She her it is safe. You’re together and you’re not going to judge each other.

Be honest.

If she asks you a question, no matter how embarrassing or hard the answer is, be honest. Trust is key to a woman’s ability to open up sexually.

Share some porn.

Text her a sexy picture or see if she will watch a porno with you. This is a great way to introduce kinks or to get the conversation started.

TALK.

After you have watched some porn or shared a few tumblr pics, flirt and tease about them. See if she is receptive. If she resists, back off and try again at another time. Once you plant the seed, water it from time to time and her mind will do the rest. She may be into some of the same things, but like you she does not know hot to bring them up. Crack the door for her.

You may need to do these steps for a several months before she starts to feel secure enough to open up, so have patience. If you rush it or try to force it, she will retreat. Remember your relationship should always come before sexual fantasies. Our fantasies are part of who we are, but we all guard them for fear of judgment or rejection. It is YOUR job to take those fears away from her and provide the environment she needs to relax and let go of her fears.

I hope this helps and good luck.

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Buena nota

http://www.elgrafico.mx/especiales/tarea/14-09-2017/disfrutan-ser-cornudos Cecilia Rosillo 14/09/2017 - 09:57 Así son los hombres que se excitan al ver a sus mujeres con otros hombres Aunque parezca extraño hay hombres que no sólo disfrutan de ver a sus mujeres teniendo sexo con otros hombres, sino que se excitan hasta el orgasmo. Se les llama Cuckold, término en inglés que significa “cornudo”, es decir, quien tradicionalmente es engañado por su pareja. “Cuckolding” es el acto en sí, que se emplea para la escena de ser engañado de forma consentida. Los Cockold no son swingers, sino matrimonios estables en los que ella se acuesta libremente con todos los hombres que quiere aún delante de su marido, que le es fiel hasta la tumba. Es un estilo de vida alternativo que cobra cada día más adeptos. De hecho, es una práctica más común de lo que muchos piensan y está muy presente en las fantasías eróticas dde hombres y mujeres. Evidentemente van en contra de la idea convencional de que el sexo siempre tiene que quedar dentro de la pareja. Él se mantiene al margen disfrutando de que su esposa tenga sexo con otros hombres más guapos, más dotados o más salvajes. Para estos hombres es un estilo de vida, además se mantienen cien por ciento monógamos mientras la mujer puede disfrutar libremente de su vida sexual; es decir, no hay un límite en sus amantes, tiene licencia para hacer lo que quiera sexualmente, pero siempre informando lo que hace a su pareja y, lo más importante, con quién lo hace. Ellos se asumen como parejas que han dado un paso más, con un grado más de confianza, donde todo se convierte en sexo y nada más. No hay enamoramiento con un tercero. Únicamente es un recurso más para explorar su sexualidad. Este comportamiento de los hombres se ha estudiado desde 1889, se explica a través de un término médico que se refiere al impulso psicológico de un sujeto de exponer a su pareja sexual o imágenes de ella ante otras personas para obtener una gratificación erótica. En una variante de este trastorno del comportamiento sexual, el hombre obtiene placer obligando a su compañera a realizar actos sexuales con otra persona. El fenómeno de excitación dicen los hombres de ciencia, se explica en parte de la siguiente manera: Cuando el hombre está en un grupo donde hay un macho alfa y tiene coito con tu pareja, le entra un instinto de competencia. Entonces hace que se vuelva más cariñoso, más atento, crea estrategias para conservar a esa persona pese a todos los demás. Entre las reglas que existen en ésto está la de que no se incluye a más de tres, porque se consideraría una orgía; ella debe informar a su esposo de sus relaciones con otros hombres sin esconder nada; si el hombre no está durante el sexo, debe recibir material que compruebe los cuernos; debe ser sexo con condón.

http://www.elgrafico.mx/especiales/tarea/14-09-2017/disfrutan-ser-cornudos

This deserve to be readen

I like all of the "kinks" you explore on your blog and tend to agree with you about how they are natural and evolutionary advantageous. I would love my wife to partake in bareback with some else than me, group sex, multiple partners, threesome, and double vaginal-however, there are also evolutionary reasons why culture has developed to limit these tendencies-STDs-viruses, bacteria, & other microorganisms! An argument can be made that prudish cultural norms took hold to limit our cheating urges.

Real talk for a minute. You should be getting tested, and verifying that the partners you hook up are tested too. 

Most clinics have an online portal so you really just need to go in, pee in a cup, and let them draw some blood. It’s not expensive and you can screenshot the results to prove you’re clean. Women can often just request these tests when they go in for their pap smear.

If your future fuck buddy doesn’t want to get tested then they are either dirty, broke, or lazy. 

Bareback is better, but I don’t play roulette with my health.

#get tested or GTFO

Nice advice; thank U

Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.

Other good definition

Bravo

Memes are NOT real life…

Can we make an effort to create and promote better lifestyle content?

I’m tired of seeing all these repetitive posts with the same unrealistic Hotwife captions that are clearly written by porn-addicted men. No woman is telling strangers to “fill their slutty married pussy with hot cum”. I get that most people come to these blogs for fantasy, but it’s really damaging to actual couples who dabble in the lifestyle. It sets unrealistic expectations and creates a pool of unqualified suitors when real couples are looking for another man to join them.

No, a Hotwife is not a cum dump.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck anyone with a big dick.

No, a Hotwife is not just a fuck toy for your pleasure.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck some one else every chance she gets.

I’d love to see more blogs create realistic images and captions that reflect real relationships.

*rant over*

Great way to start a fantasy! Congrats and thank you for sharing your story.

Our First Step - True Story

This story is a little bit old. We never posted anything on the blog about this event when it first happened because we weren’t really sure how muchof our journey we wanted to chronicle but we’ve recently decided we want everything that can be on the blog to be on it. Its not quite as dirty as the last two either, but its a very important chapter to Amy and me. This was our very very first time of trying anything involving sharing and was the point when we knew it was something we definitely wanted to pursue.

Anyway, avid fans may remember around June Amelia and I disappeared for a few days. We went up to Edinburgh (Scotland for foreign followers) for a few days to celebrate our engagement. While we were there we had a guy from kik offer to meet up with us for drinks at some point during the holiday. Amy wasn’t too sure about this (bear in mind it was literally only a few months previously that I had told her about my fantasies) but I was up for it. After a bit of discussion we decided it was a good opportunity to meet someone new and we were under no obligation to actually do anything with him so we agreed to meet.

We met the guy in a pub and had a few drinks. Amelia was wearing a gorgeous corsetted top that showed off her big tits and neither me or the guy we met were able to keep our eyes off her cleavage! We all hit it off really well and had several drinks together. In fact we got on so well with him that, while he was off getting another drink, Amelia and I were disccusing what we should do with him. We really appreciated him making the effort to come meet with us and wanted to give him something to remember, so we decided Amelia would give him a goodbye kiss. I know that doesn’t sound ground breaking, but keep in mind, this would be the first guy Amy had kissed (that wasn’t me) for seven years and the first time I would see her with another man in any form.

Unfortunately he had to get the train home so we had to cut the party a little shorter than we would have liked. We walked him to the train station and said our goodbyes. Amy gave him a hug and, as he went to move away, pulled him in for what was, in my opinion, the perfect kiss. It was sudden enough that there was no way he could have expected it but lasted long enough for him to know it wasn’t an accident. Then we went out serperate ways. The walk back to our hotel was agonising for me. Just seeing her kiss the guy made me incredibly horny. I was full of energy and unable to stand still. I’m not sure I slept much that night because of the adrenaline!

The next day we decided we had enjoyed ourselves so much the night before that we asked him whether he wanted to meet up again that night as well. He agreed and we made plans to buy alcohol and bring it back to the hotel room this time. We made it clear to him that it wouldn’t go as far as sex but we left the possibility of other things happening open. We met at the same pub as the night before and had a drink there before heading back to the hotel.

Remember, this is the first time we had ever done anything like this, so we were both a little nervous. We knew we wanted something to happen but were a little lost as to how to initiate it so we came up with a bit of a plan. I would go to the bathroom leaving the two of them alone, wait a few minutes, then by the time I came out hopefully stuff would be happening.

The evening went on and we continued having a good time and a laugh. Finally, about an hour before the guy had to go get his train, I got a text from Amy saying simply, ‘Go to the bathroom’. I followed her instruction and waited for a few minutes full of nervous excitement. This was something I had wanted for a long time and it was surreal to me being so close to it. I listened at the door intently, desperately trying to hear what was happening. I could hear them talking but couldn’t make out what was being said. Eventually I had to just leave the bathroom, otherwise I’d have looked a little weird, so I pushed open the door to be greeted to the sight of Amelia making out with him!

She was sat on the edge of the bed, him in a chair next to it and she was proper making out with him. I had to stand in the doorway for a few minutes to take it all in. After a while he moved onto the bed next to her. He had a hand on one of her boobs while she sat on his lap but she grabbed his hand and moved it down between her legs so he could rub her through her tights!

“I saw that, Amelia, you fucking slut,” I said to her with a smile.

“You love it. And so does he,” she replied with cheeky smile before going back to making out with him. Well she definitely wasn’t wrong! I remember this bit vividly. It made me lightheaded and super horny watching her move another guys hand to her pussy!

They were so preoccupied Amy didn’t noticed me move behind her and undo her bra. She slipped it off and let him play with her tits a bit before straddling him on the bed. I got comfy on a chair nearby and watched as she undid his pants and played with his cock while his hands explored her entire body. She spent a bit of time licking his balls (which were really big and nice! Amy said she loved how big and full they were) and started sucking on his cock while he held her hair.

We all wanted to stay like that but we were quickly running out of time so the two of them had to tear themselves away from each other. There was enough time for us to finish our drinks and for Amelia to show us a sexy outfit she had brought up with her before we had to walk him to the station.

This one!

We left our room and they made out more in the lift. Then we walked to the station and they made out more on the platform. Once again we were both incredibly horny but we were forced to say our goodbyes and part ways. The guy said one of the guards watched him and Amy make out, then me walk away with my hand on her ass and gave us a funny look. Hahahahaha!

We still keep in contact with our friend and were very lucky to have found such a nice guy for our first time. I can’t imagine where we would be right now if the meeting had gone badly. It could have put us off the whole thing! 

So, that was our very very first first time doing anything with another guy. And look where its led us! Amy and I are closer than I ever thought possible and we’re hurtling towards my ultimate fantasies coming true!

I just hope we’re able to meet our Scottish friend again so I can thank him for his kindness by letting him fuck the hell out of Amy! ;) - D

Thanks for sharing this great advice!

The dangers of the lifestyle

Many ask how to begin living this lifestyle; often, how to convince the wife. My answer is always the same: don’t.

I want to use the perfect words I found online time ago (here http://bit.ly/2wRyUEv , all credits due to the original poster):

When me & my long term girlfriend were thinking about this, both of us were incredibly turned on physically about it, but she just would not take the final step because of the emotional dangers. She said because we men can easily separate the physical & emotional we don’t understand that very few women can, and the same thing that makes them lust for a man in bed (which is what guys in this situation want) is the same thing that makes her become emotionally attached to him.

My partner’s last words on the subject were ‘if we go through with this, you will lose me emotionally, and once you’ve lost me emotionally, the physical won’t be far behind, and then it will be the beginning of the end.’

This is so very true.

Over the years, I witnessed so many times the same pattern. Of all the other couples we met living the lifestyle, from cuckolds to hotwives, every possible variation on the theme, I can say ALL split. All but one: the one where both partners were already living the style before meeting.

All the couples that began experimenting together, eventually broke up. The change in the bond between them, which silently grows over time, in the end destroyed them as a couple.

The woman feels less and less 'bound’ to her man, and she usually starts feeling emotions for someone else. It’s almost like breaking the physical limitation opens a breach in her emotions.

The man is pulled towards a spiral of personal fantasies, growing detached not only from his woman, but from her desires and wishes. In divergent directions, he usually loses the capacity to listen to her, and he doesn’t ultimately notice that she’s slowly slipping away.

So, here’s my advice. If it’s a shared fantasy, something both partners were willing to try for a long time, you’ll find the way to try. Internet offers plenty of options. In all other cases, don’t ever try to convince her or him; in the end it will destroy her or him, and you as a couple.

Your blog gets me sooooo wet. I’ve always loved the thought of banging multiple dudes. Then my hubby admitted to wanting to share me and when I asked how long he said he’d never even been interested in wife sharing until he met me and that turns me on in itself. Trying to work up the courage to post a pic of my big pierced tits on here and see how many guys would be willing to fuck me ;)

Some women are naturally sluttier than others. These women have a high libido and can basically have anything they want once they realize the power of their pussy. Your husband realized this and put you on a pedestal fast. He wants a HotWife not a cheating wife.

And yes, show us your tits, but also show us that freshly fucked pussy once in awhile so we know you’re not all talk.

#slut confession 

Great advice

We're young, and I really do think she's the one, but that makes me worried I'd ruin things by being open about wanting to see her fuck someone else. I know it's kind of contradictory, like if we are meant to be our relationship should be fine after experimenting with sharing, but it's still tough getting the balls to admit it to her.

Most hotwife blogs will tell you not to go through with it given those feelings, but this is not a hotwife blog. I think a little bit of jealousy is hot. And when two dudes are grunting away like a couple of cavemen to satisfy one vixen, I think it’s arousing.

So you don’t want to look weak right? Trust me, if you say something like,

“I think it would be hot competing for you against other alpha males. I would love to prove to you why you married me over and over again. I like the thought of putting you on a pedestal and I feel a flutter of excitement and jealousy when I catch guys looking at you.”

Now stop being a pussy and go eat your wife’s.

#want to share her