Step 1: Rewire Your Gym Mindset With Main Character Energy

Self worth vs Empathy for yourself.

Both self worth and empathy for yourself are important to your mental and physical health. But what is the difference between the two?

Self Worth - Defined

Self worth is understanding your importance as a person. Understanding that you can accept and give love, and knowing your values.

Self Empathy - Defined

Empathy for yourself is slightly different and can be absent when self worth is present. Having empathy for yourself is setting boundaries with you. This includes making promises to yourself and following through with them (ex. I will exercise for an hour… and then actually doing it) and listening to your body and brain when they are communicating (an example of this would be hunger/thirst signals).

How do these feelings work together?

Self worth is a great foundation!! Knowing what you deserve and how you should be treated is meeting your basic needs. Practicing empathy for others is easy, but practicing empathy for yourself will help you build routine and increase productivity. If it’s a statement you wouldn’t say to a friend, don’t say it to yourself, and turn the positive beliefs about your worth into positive actions that reflect how you feel. <3

How to Prep Your Meals Like a Hot Girl (And Actually Stick to It)

by Soleau Club / www.soleauclub.com

Meal prepping sounds like a dream—until it becomes a nightmare of Tupperware, random ingredients, and not being able to tell the difference between your quinoa and your brown rice after a long week. But if you’re here, it’s because you know the secret to looking hot, feeling good, and living your best life is consistency—and that starts with what’s in your fridge. So, let’s break down how to prep your meals like the boss you are (and actually stick to it).

1. Keep It Simple, Babe

One of the biggest mistakes I see is trying to meal prep like you're about to enter a Michelin-star kitchen. Newsflash: You don’t need to be gourmet to eat well. Keeping it simple is key. Think protein, veggies, and grains. It’s easy to mix and match, and you won’t feel overwhelmed by 15 different ingredients.

Protein: Chicken, salmon, tofu, ground turkey, eggs—whatever floats your boat.

Veggies: Broccoli, kale, bell peppers, spinach—buy a few of your favorites and get creative.

Grains: Quinoa, rice, or sweet potatoes—these are your base.

If you stick to a few basic ingredients that you love, you’ll be able to rotate meals easily and always have something tasty (and hot girl-approved) waiting for you.

2. Invest in Quality Storage (Trust Me, It's Worth It)

Hot girls know the value of a good container—it's not just about looks, it’s about keeping your food fresh and your life organized. Invest in airtight, stackable containers that you can grab easily when you’re rushing out the door. Bonus points if they’re clear, so you can see what’s inside (no one has time for mystery meals).

Pro tip: Get a set of glass containers. They’re durable, microwave-safe, and won’t stain with your marinara sauce. Plus, they look way more Instagrammable than plastic containers.

3. Plan Your Week, Then Prep for It

To keep the meal prep vibe smooth and easy, plan your week first. Are you going to be extra busy one day? Maybe prep a bigger portion of your favorite salad or stir-fry. Are you going out on the weekend? Plan your meals around that so you’re not scrambling to cook the night before.

A simple plan for the week can be as easy as:

Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Salad bowls with grilled chicken, avocado, and quinoa

Tuesday/Thursday: Stir fry with tofu, veggies, and brown rice

Snack: Pre-portioned hummus cups, protein bars, or fruit

Planning ahead means you won’t have to think about what to eat at the end of a long day—and we all know, decision fatigue is real.

4. Make It Fun with Flavor & Spices

Nothing gets boring faster than bland meals. Hot girls don’t do bland, and neither should you. Spice things up with a range of herbs, spices, and sauces that can turn your meal into a masterpiece.

Herbs: Fresh cilantro, parsley, thyme, basil. They’re easy to add and totally elevate a meal.

Spices: Cumin, smoked paprika, turmeric, chili flakes. A little spice goes a long way.

Sauces: Make a batch of your favorite sauce—think tahini dressing, spicy mayo, or balsamic glaze—and drizzle it over your meals for an instant flavor upgrade.

By mixing up your spices and condiments, you’ll make each meal feel new and exciting, even if it’s the 4th time eating it in a week.

5. Prep for Busy Days (And Don’t Forget Snacks)

The key to sticking to your meal prep routine is being prepared for those days when you’re too tired or busy to cook. That’s where snacks come in, and trust me, having your go-to snack stash will save your life.

Healthy snacks: Think pre-portioned bags of almonds, protein bars, yogurt, or even pre-chopped veggies with hummus.

Meal components: Have cooked protein and grains ready to go so that on crazy days, all you need to do is assemble. Mix-and-match bowls are your friend here.

Hot girls never let themselves get hangry. Prep for your busy days, and you’ll never fall victim to fast food again.

6. Get Comfortable with Batch Cooking

Batch cooking doesn’t mean cooking for hours on end. Instead, cook a big batch of something versatile (like grilled chicken or roasted sweet potatoes) that you can use in different meals throughout the week.

Roast veggies: Roasting a big batch of veggies (sweet potatoes, Brussels sprouts, zucchini) means you’ve got a flavorful side dish or base for bowls that’s ready to go.

Grill protein: Grill or bake a large portion of protein and store it in your fridge for easy additions to salads, bowls, or wraps.

Batch cooking means you’re saving time and energy, which makes sticking to your meal prep routine way easier. And trust, once you get into the groove of it, you’ll feel like a wellness queen.

7. Make It a Ritual, Not a Chore

If meal prepping feels like a chore, you won’t stick with it. Hot girls don’t do things they hate. Instead, turn meal prep into a relaxing, fun ritual.

Put on a podcast or your favorite playlist: Set the mood while chopping veggies and grilling chicken. You’re not just cooking, you’re curating your wellness.

Get creative: Experiment with new recipes, sauces, and combinations that make your meals feel more like a treat than a task.

Meal prep doesn’t have to be boring—it’s your chance to take control of your week and fuel your body like the goddess you are.

8. Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Sometimes, life happens. Maybe you forgot to prep one week, or you get too busy and skip a meal. That’s okay. The key to sticking with it is not letting one missed meal prep session throw you off completely. Take it as a learning moment, reset, and come back stronger the next week.

Perfection isn’t the goal—consistency is. So, be kind to yourself and just keep showing up for your wellness.

So...

Meal prep doesn’t have to be a daunting task. With a little planning, some quality containers, and a pinch of spice, you’ll have your meals ready to fuel you through your busy days. The secret is to keep it simple, make it enjoyable, and never stress over a little imperfection.

Ready to go hardcore with your clean girl routine? Follow Soleau Club on Tumblr for more daily challenges, catch our YouTube videos every Sunday for new routines, and stay connected with us on TikTok and Instagram (@soleauclub) for all the inspo and accountability you need. For it-girl wellness accessories and free US shipping, shop online at www.soleauclub.com

The “Reset Day” Ritual Guide for Girls Who Love a Checklist

by Soleau Club

If you’re the kind of girl who gets high off freshly made beds, alphabetized spices, and checking boxes like it’s a sport—welcome home. A Reset Day isn’t just about cleaning your space, it’s about clearing your energy, resetting your mindset, and realigning with your main character self.

This is your go-to ritual for stepping into the week like the It Girl you are—organized, glowing, and deeply unbothered.

Morning: Set the Tone

☐ Open the windows, let in natural light ☐ Light your favorite candle or incense ☐ Put on a feel-good playlist (no sad girl vibes today) ☐ Drink water before caffeine—your organs will thank you ☐ Journal 1 page: "How do I want to feel this week?"

Mid-Morning: Body & Space Reset

☐ Movement (Pilates, walk, light stretch—nothing intense) ☐ Lymphatic drainage moment: dry brushing or gua sha ☐ Full body shower—scrub, shave, rinse off the week ☐ Fresh sheets, fluffed pillows, reset your bedroom ☐ Start laundry (bonus points if it smells like eucalyptus)

Afternoon: Mind & Mood

☐ Grocery restock with your wellness girl essentials ☐ Prep one or two meals/snacks for the week ☐ Do a 10-minute calendar audit: appointments, workouts, money moves ☐ Set 1 goal for your glow-up—mental, physical, or emotional ☐ Tidy high-touch zones: desk, bathroom, kitchen

Evening: Soft Girl Slow Down

☐ Diffuse calming oils or do a 10-minute meditation ☐ Skincare routine that feels like a mini facial ☐ No phone after 8PM (try a book or podcast instead) ☐ Stretch or foam roll—your future self will notice ☐ Choose your Monday outfit and set the vibe for the week

Reset Days are how we stay elevated without losing our minds. Think of them as a love letter to your future self—and your future self? She’s thriving.

Follow @soleauclub for more main character rituals, hot girl routines, and wellness that actually fits your life.

Crafting a Life You’re Obsessed With (No Manifesting Required)

by Soleau Club / www.soleauclub.com

We all love a good vision board moment, but let’s be honest—no amount of sage or Pinterest quotes is going to replace actual effort. Manifesting is cute, but crafting a life you’re genuinely obsessed with? That takes moves, not mood boards.

This isn’t about “waiting for alignment” or “raising your vibration”—this is about designing a life that makes you excited to wake up, look hot, make money, and not spiral every time something doesn’t go your way.

Here’s how I built a lifestyle that feels like a luxury product—without faking it for Instagram or pretending meditation fixed everything.

Start with clarity, not chaos

You don’t need a 5-year plan—you need to know what lights you up right now. What do you keep daydreaming about when your mind wanders? What’s the version of you that feels so magnetic it’s lowkey intimidating? That’s your blueprint. Not some vague “dream life” concept with no soul behind it.

Design your day like you’re the creative director

What do the little pieces of your day say about you? Your coffee ritual, your phone wallpaper, your Google Calendar—it all matters. A hot life is built from hot micro-decisions. Romanticize your systems, not just your skincare routine.

Audit your inputs

Who are you following? What are you listening to? What’s on in the background when you cook? That stuff is programming your brain whether you realize it or not. If you want to live a luxe, confident, energized life, you better be consuming energy that actually reflects that. Delete, mute, unfollow. Zero guilt.

Build habits that give ROI

I don’t do things just because the internet said so. I walk because it clears my mind. I journal because it calms my nervous system. I strength train because I like looking toned in backless tops. Every habit I keep adds value to my life—not pressure. That’s the new standard.

Find your fun again

Productivity culture tried to convince us that if it doesn’t “scale,” it’s not worth doing. Boring. I started dancing around my room again. Taking myself on flirty solo dates. Baking banana bread I have no intention of eating all at once. The joy is the glow-up.

Cut the noise, boost the main character energy

You’re not behind. You’re not late. You’re not supposed to have it all figured out. You’re building. And when you approach your life like a creative project—not a checklist—it gets way more exciting (and honestly, way more successful).

You don’t need to visualize yourself in a silk robe on a balcony sipping green juice in Paris. You need to build a life where your Tuesday morning feels almost that good. That’s real abundance.

Ready to go hardcore with your clean girl routine? Follow Soleau Club on Tumblr for more daily challenges, catch our YouTube videos every Sunday for new routines, and stay connected with us on TikTok and Instagram (@soleauclub) for all the inspo and accountability you need. For it-girl wellness accessories and free US shipping, shop online at www.soleauclub.com

Breaking Free: How Societal Stereotypes Limit Young Women and How to Reframe Those Beliefs

Let's talk about something real: societal stereotypes. From a young age, women are constantly told throughout our lives about who we're supposed to be. We're supposed to be quiet, agreeable, nurturing, and perfect. These stereotypes not only shape how others see us, but they also shape how we see ourselves. These stereotypes can create fixed mindset beliefs that limit our sense of identity and potential.

Think about it:

“I’m not good at math or science.”

“I shouldn’t be too ambitious or assertive.”

“I need to prioritize being liked over being heard.”

Sound familiar? These beliefs aren’t just harmless thoughts. They’re barriers. They tell us what we can’t do, who we shouldn’t be, and where we don’t belong. But here’s the truth: you are not defined by stereotypes.

How Stereotypes Create Limiting Beliefs

Internalization: We absorb societal expectations and start believing they’re true.

Fear of Failure: Stereotypes make us afraid to step outside the box, so we avoid risks.

Imposter Syndrome: We doubt our abilities, feeling like we don’t deserve success.

How to Break Free and Reframe Those Beliefs

Challenge the Narrative

Ask yourself: Who told me I can’t? Why do I believe that?

Replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones: “I am capable of learning and growing in any field I choose.”

Embrace a Growth Mindset

Believe that your abilities aren’t fixed. You can develop skills, overcome challenges, and redefine your identity.

Celebrate effort, not just results. Progress is progress, no matter how small. Even if it's 1%, it still counts towards the 100%.

Surround Yourself with Support

Find mentors, friends, and communities that uplift and inspire you. You can join communities on Tumblr or search for Discord servers you align with.

Share your goals and struggles with people who believe in your potential.

Redefine Success on Your Terms

Success doesn’t have to look like what society says it should. What matters is what you value. This is your life after all.

Do not be scared to take up space. Be bold. Be unapologetically yourself. Live in your authenticity. It is what makes you you.

Take Action, Even When It’s Scary

Start small. Apply for that opportunity, speak up in that meeting, or try something new.

Remember: Courage isn’t the absence of fear. It’s acting despite it.

You Are More Than a Stereotype

Your potential is limitless, but it’s up to you to claim it. Reframe those beliefs, challenge the status quo, and step into the person you’re meant to be. The world needs your voice, your ideas, and your brilliance. Don’t let anyone (including yourself) tell you otherwise.

Homework time!📝

What’s one limiting belief you’re ready to let go of? Let’s cheer each other on in the comments! ✨

Simple full glow up list for 2025

📋— Take it one day at a time and remember: small, consistent changes lead to big results.

—🧁Skincare

Cleanse, treat, and moisturize daily.

Apply sunscreen every morning.

Exfoliate 1-2 times a week.

Use sheet masks weekly.

DIY rice water for face care every 15 days

—🧁Haircare

Use an anti-dandruff shampoo.

Apply nourishing hair masks weekly.

Get a flattering haircut every 3 months (if you want ofc)

—🧁Body Care

Moisturize daily.

Exfoliate weekly with a scrub.

Maintain consistent hygiene.

—🧁Diet and Health

Eat nutrient-rich meals and snacks.

Stay hydrated with at least 3 liters of water.

Get 7 or 8 hours of sleep nightly.

Incorporate workout or stretches.

—🧁Mindset and Mental Care

Journal thoughts and feelings.

Meditate or practice deep breathing.

Write and read daily affirmations.

Focus on self-love and avoid overthinking.

don't give a fuck about how people see you

— 🧁Style and Presentation

Organize and refresh your wardrobe.

Keep nails clean and shaped.

Experiment with simple makeup looks.

— 🧁Academics and Productivity

Stay consistent with studies.

Use a planner to track tasks.

Keep a tidy and cozy study space.

— 🧁 Social and Personal Growth

Be kind and polite but set boundaries.

Avoid unnecessary drama.

Dedicate time to hobbies and self-growth.

🍨. @bloomzone !

Maintenance Routine?

This is pretty much what it looks like when I’m at uni.

✧ if it doesn't align with the dream life, it's a distraction ✧

hey lovelies!! 🦢

omg, so, i was literally journaling last night & this phrase just hit me like… so hard. "if it doesn't align with the dream life, it's a distraction." i had to stop writing and just sit with that for a min.

because honestly? i've been feeling so scattered lately. like my energy is going in a million directions but none of them are taking me where i actually want to go. and i realized that's exactly what happens when we don't have clarity on our it-girl blueprint.

so what even is an it-girl blueprint? it's not just aesthetic or vibes (tho those matter too!!) but it's this deep knowing of who you're meant to become. it's that version of you who wakes up excited, who feels aligned, who's living in her dream apartment with her dream career and her dream people. she exists!! she's waiting for you to become her!!

this post is a bit different from my most recents, i wanted to take a little tinyyy break from my pop culture series', like the pll x glowettee and vampire diaries x glowettee series' and just focus more on self-improvement again. i also wanted to take a break from the overwhelming aesthetics i've been using in my posts, and justtttt write~~ (no small text, no crazy colors, just my thoughts) and i realized that distractions have been very prominent in my life lately... so i wanted to address it in this post, and some possible solutions <3

✧ what's actually distracting you? ✧

okay so grab your journal rn and let's get super real about what's pulling you away from your dream life, feel free to use these prompts:

that situationship that makes you feel anxious every time they text (you know the one)

the hours of scrolling that leave you feeling empty inside

saying yes to plans when your body is literally begging you to rest

the "friend" who always has drama and makes everything about them

that project you started because you thought you "should" but you actually hate

staying in that job/class/situation because you're scared to disappoint someone

comparing your chapter 1 to someone else's chapter 20 (guilty!!)

i've been doing this work myself and it's kinda scary how many things i was pouring energy into that weren't actually taking me anywhere i wanted to go??

✧ getting clear on your actual dream life ✧

before we can align with our dream life, we need to know what it actually looks like! not what instagram or your mom or society thinks it should look like, but what YOU want.

some journal prompts that helped me:

when do i feel most like myself?

what activities make me lose track of time?

who makes me feel seen, safe, and supported?

what would my perfect morning routine look like if i had zero obligations?

what kind of spaces make me feel calm and inspired?

what would i do with my time if money wasn't an issue?

what parts of my current life would i keep even if i could change everything?

i did this exercise last weekend and realized that so many things i was chasing weren't even in my dream life blueprint?? like i was stressing about getting into this super competitive program but when i really thought about it, it wasn't even aligned with what i actually want. wild.

✧ how to actually make decisions that align ✧

okay, so here's my little framework for making choices that actually build your dream life:

the body check: before saying yes to anything, check in with your body. does it feel expansive and light, or contracted and heavy? your body literally knows before your brain does!!

the future self question: what would the version of you who's already living your dream life do? she knows!! trust her!!

the energy audit: does this person/activity/commitment give you energy or drain it? only say yes to energy-givers (this one changed my life omg)

the alignment test: ask yourself "does this move me closer to or further from my dream life?" be brutally honest!!

the joy metric: if it doesn't bring you joy or lead to joy, why are you doing it?? (unless it's like… taxes or something lol)

✧ how to let go of the distractions ✧

this is the hardest part tbh. because we get attached to things even when they're not serving us! here's what's helping me:

remember that saying no to something is saying yes to your dream life

start with the easiest distractions first (for me it was unfollowing accounts that made me feel bad)

create little rituals around letting go (i write things down and then burn the paper)

remind yourself that outgrowing things is part of becoming

be gentle with yourself when you slip back into old patterns (we all do it!!)

i had to let go of a friendship a few months that was taking so much energy, and it was really hard but also?? i suddenly had all this space to focus on things that actually matter to me.

✧ your dream life alignment practice ✧

here's a little daily practice i've been doing:

morning: set an intention to notice what aligns and what distracts

throughout the day: when making choices, ask "dream life or distraction?"

evening: celebrate the aligned choices you made + gently note the distractions

it's not being perfect!! it's becoming more conscious of our choices. because every tiny decision is either building your dream life or… not.

i've been doing this for about three weeks now and i already feel so much clearer and more focused. like i'm finally moving in one direction instead of being pulled in a million different ones.

remember: you deserve your dream life. and it starts with choosing it, over and over, in all the tiny moments.

question from mindy:

what's one distraction you're ready to let go of? and one aligned action you're ready to take? (feel free to send me a message in my inbox, or just reblog answering this question.)

xoxo, mindy 🤍

Your Life’s Not Boring—You’re Just on Your Phone Too Much

If you’ve been feeling glued to your phone—especially apps like TikTok and Instagram—you’re not alone. So many of us are stuck in this loop, and it can seriously mess with our energy, motivation, and overall health.

One thing I’ve struggled most with lately is comparison. Feeling like what I do just isn’t... enough. If you’ve felt that too, this post is for us both. A little reminder that:

✨ You are enough, just as you are. ✨ You’ve survived every hard day, and your inner child and I are so proud of you. Don't ever forget how far you've come as a person! If all you did was make your bed and hydrate today, that's a win worth celebrating. You're doing just fine, and you'll do all that you wish to on your own divine timing.

And yes, your life isn’t boring. You might just be too distracted to see how beautiful it really is. So instead of escaping it, let’s try to romanticize it!

10 Ways to Romanticize Your Life & Be More Present

Wake up a little earlier. It doesn’t have to be 5 AM (unless that’s your thing). Even an hour earlier can give you quiet time to get things done without distractions.

Take an "everything shower." These are pretty meditative for me in a way. I like to imagine the water washing off all my stress and stagnant energy I may have accumulated throughout the day. Like a reset button!

Make a breakfast you’d actually get out of bed early for. Pancakes? Fruit? Whatever makes your inner child happy.

Play jazz or soft instrumentals while doing everyday activities. Instant cozy vibes.

Read outside. Sitting on your porch or even by a window gives you that vitamin D and a fresh perspective.

Find a screen-less hobby you enjoy. Try crochet, painting, poetry, LEGO kits, pottery, etc. Block-building kits are my fave—they’re so fun and satisfying. Just remember to take breaks and stretch!

Re-watch something comforting or start something new. That show you keep skipping past might become your next obsession.

Connect. If you’ve been stuck in your room all day, talk to someone. Call a friend, hug your pet, or chat with family. A quick convo with my mom always boosts my mood!

Learn something new! When was the last time you went out of your way to explore something you didn’t already know? (and nope, school doesn’t count.) Take a moment to find a subject you’ve never looked into or dive deeper into one you already know a little about. Pick up on a new language, study an unfamiliar culture, or even try learning a random skill just for fun. Expanding your mind keeps life feeling fresh and exciting.

Travel (if you can). I can't stress this one enough!! Even just getting out of town for a single 24 hours can give you a whole new perspective. A change of scenery does wonders, especially when life feels repetitive. It doesn't have to be far, either. You can travel to the next city over and explore what it's like there!

Remember: Social media is NOT real life. That influencer who’s always partying in Miami with a closet full of designer bags? You’re seeing their highlight reel, not the full picture. Some even goes as far as faking luxury lifestyles for the views. Don’t compare your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s curated feed. At the end of the day, it's all for the aesthetics/entertainment.

Be gentle with yourself. You're doing better than you think, angel. xo, Kay 🪽