fogboundxelian

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Double date!

Close ups~

I love aquarium dates.

i really realllyyy like ur drawings can i please use them as a pfp? ill credit u 🙏🙏

No, Im not really comfortable with people using my art for anything, but thanks for asking! sorry :,)

dumb ass system communication where there's either nothing or everyone all at once and always when it's the most useless and annoying 🙏

not complaining, just complaining

edit to add the original joke coz it's killing me why did I spend more time on the joke one

just met hugh. waiting for the panel. apparently he said my art was fantastic idk i blacked out. i feel like ive come home from war. dhmu.

hi scarlet macaw therian here ^-^ hehe

hate it when people pull the "therians only identify as canines and felines" card

i have seen every kind of nonhuman identity, from apes to insects to cetaceans to civets to prehistoric animals to animals that never existed on earth

literally just look somewhere that isn't tiktok and you'll find us. just because most of the ones you find follow a certain pattern doesn't mean we're faking.

we are everywhere. we always have been. we are not leaving.

Psychosis vent drawing (version 1 is more accurate to how i feel but its a pain to look at lol,,,)

Do not use or post my drawings anywhere.

(reblogs are okay)

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

when people talk about intentional plurality i beg them to look into IFS. I saw a post recently about someone praising plurality as an intentional coping mechanism rather than a trauma response through dissociation, and how it can be helpful to imagine different “alters” for different situations to make life a little easier.

yes, this is a coping strategy— internal family systems. this is NOT plurality.

i will always come back to this: if you have to pretend to be someone else, that’s not plurality. recognized plurality ONLY stems from intense, repeated trauma and some form of dissociation/derealization that happens unconsciously as a result.

DID ≠ a coping mechanism

DID = a trauma response!!!

narcissistic traits/npd culture is believing narcissus was based asf

reblog to blow up an ableist

That NPD Feel When while I’m not abusive towards my romantic partner & am pretty interdependent and healthy around them, I can definitely can be a terribly distant friend with avoidant attachment style and can definitely can behave horrendously towards strangers and acquaintances alike bc they have to “earn” their place as my equal. And it causes problems with cognition and relationships. u_u

Secret life scar he’s so pretty also new brush whoopee

I just remembered a thing I used to do that should’ve been a major sign of NPD, so now I wonder: how many people who were the “therapist friend” or had a “saviour complex” as a child developed NPD or some other illness?

Is this an NPD thing?

Because of grandiosity I don't see other people as like "worthy" of giving me approval? Like people describe npd as like constantly seeking approval or attention and i do do that sometimes, but more often even if I was seeking it, if someone compliments me I'll feel irritated they'd think I want or care about their approval.

I get angry when people give me too much praise or whatever cus it feels like "what?! You think my ego's so fragile I actually need your worthless opinion?" (even if I was intentionally trying to get their worthless opinion)

Like people talk about having a self worth determined externally by others but I don't see people as smart enough to determine my self worth. Most people are stupid so why would I rely on them for that?

Sometimes I even get the inverse of what people intend like of someone tells me I'm bad it feeds the grandiosity and if they tell me I'm good it makes me feel worthless and defensive

But if I respect the person this flips around

What's up with that? Is that an npd thing?

One thing that makes me sad to see in the communities of people with disorders that cause highly volatile, intense or irrational emotions is the common sentiment that such emotions cannot be safely expressed to the person that they are about without hurting them.

People seem to feel trapped in not speaking to others about their feelings, making them stew in them alone while the feelings get worse and worse, or letting them explode out at the person in a hurtful fashion.

I wanted to share what works for me. This may not work in every relationship that you have, but it will at least be a way for you to communicate your emotions and know that you are not doing anything wrong by doing do.

The core of this is basically I statements. It sounds very simple and like it should not work, but it is very helpful. It is a bit more complicated than that and I will get into it but tldr; is just make sure you are phrasing things like 'i felt x' or 'i have urges to y' rather than to just say x or y.

For example, I have told my partner that I felt like I hated them and I have urges to cut them off. By phrasing it in this way, they can see that I am having a split, am recognizing that I am having a split, and am trying to communicate with them in a healthy way. Even if I am having negative thoughts about them, by phrasing it as an I statement I am indicating my desire to work through it. This would land very differently if I just said 'I hate you, I am cutting you off' which is a statement of fact and a life altering decision. They would not attempt to comfort me in this situation, they would instead say 'okay bye i guess. fuck you also'

It can feel like it would be terrible to tell them I even felt like I hated them because I worry they would take it as a statement of fact. But by phrasing it as a feeling, they are able to recognize it for what it is and approach me with compassion. It helps if, before you have a split on a person, you explain this to them, especially if they are unfamiliar with disorders that cause splitting. This can help prepare them to read what you are saying correctly as an attempt to communicate rather than a statement of fact.

Doing this can be difficult when you are gripped by a very strong emotion. What I like to do is to write it all down, exactly as it feels. Write in the notes of your phone or in a journal 'I hate you' and whatever else you are feeling without censoring yourself or trying to make an I statement. Then, you can go back over what you wrote and pick out what things you need to talk about, and rephrase it in a constructive manner. Or, if you are close enough to a person that you are both okay with this, you can ask them if it is okay to show them the raw emotions you wrote, with the important disclaimer of you telling them this is how you feel in the moment, and not objective fact.

You do not have to be alone with your emotions. It is okay to talk about your big emotions, even irrational ones, even ones that feel mean. It is just important that when you do, you say it in a way that acknowledges them as emotions and not fact, because presenting it as fact will hurt. Presenting it as the emotions that they are can help the other person to help you, and hopefully you will both be closer at the end, even if the conversation is a difficult one to have.

YES. THIS^^^^^^^^

okay do any other systems have the problem of “I’m not sure who I am because we have so many headmates we literally can’t remember all of them so I can’t go through the list to narrow it down unless I open simply plural” or is it just us

bad boys attempt to rizz each other up

based on this post by @opti-mized

unidentified 🛸 fishing 🎣 object ‼️‼️🌟

never kill yourself. i spent my sunday staying up all night playing a furry fishing game because some random person on the internet decided to sit down behind me and dedicate the next three hours of their life to playing undertale music on a shitty 18 fret guitar. the beauty of this world cannot possibly be overstated.

it sends me when rad fems tell me not to call myself a dyke because im a trans man. yeah tell that to my mom, sister, ex best friend's mom AND brother, countless strangers and nearly every classmate i've ever had. see if they would've listened and stopped calling me a dyke. my mom was the first person to ever call me a dyke- she used the term bulldyke, no less. i wasn't even a teenager yet when she started calling me a bulldyke and butch dyke. i think maybe, just maybe, i'm allowed to reclaim that slur. but who am i to know, i'm only the person who lived my experience and got called that slur for the first 21 years of my life. somehow i'm the problem, here, and not the decades of transphobes and lesbophobes attacking my person.

dyke then, dyke now; i'm a big fat fucking transmasc bulldyke and it's Mr. Dyke to you.

ok this is my list so far-

NPD:

chosen person (CHP)

equal person (EP)

worthy person (WP) <- coined by Belladonna the Narc anon

respected person (RP) <- coined by @wittness

higher person (someone above equal person; less common)

favourite person (FP)

Ego person / supply person (person who helps with crashes and provides a boost)

BPD:

favourite person (FP)

fixated person

supply person

focused person

PPD:

safe person (SP)

trusted person (TP)

ASPD:

chosen person (CHP)

exception person (EP/ECP)

partner in crime (PIC)

Social person/circle

HPD:

attention person (AP/ATP)

attentive person

AVPD:

safe person (SP)

indulgent person (coined by an anon and their friend)

DPD:

depended person (DP)

reliant/relied person

SZPD:

interest person (IP)

safe person

OCPD:

Obsession Person

Compulsed person (when one is the subject of their compulsory thoughts)

Exception Person (EP/ECP)

STPD:

Familiar person

Trustable person (TBP)

Any PD can use:

Partner in crime (PIC)

Favourite Person (FP)

Grounded/grounding person

Comfort person

Attentive person

Attention person

Protected/protection/protective person

Connected person (similar to grounded or could be social)

Stable person (similar to grounded)

safe person

special person

love person or special love person (from anon)

Protected person (im, mod weeping, coining this one. Someone you would do anything to protect)

Protective person (i, weeping, am also coining this. Someone you’re very protective of or someone who is protective of you or both)

WHOEVER IS EDGING THIS SWITCH STOP - Core

If you grew up constantly apologizing and then apologizing for apologizing and you were/are afraid (or unable) to express your emotions and feelings because it was seen as “manipulative”, or for any reason, I love you and I hope you’re having a good day

today's mini fella is melloz's tanuki joel! 🌸✨

Autism Test

Shark Culling Laws Poster

Designed by Matteo Musci

Logged into minecraft today and...

Everytime I look at it it gets better.

The title

The mispelled kills

Scar riding Grian.

bigcreak 🌲

rbs appreciated!!

(responding to this reblog) i use platonic scarian because i like to ship scarian as a platonic/queerplatonic relationship, and not just friends (like desert duo suggests)

did anyone else get double life flashbacks… holy shit