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Insult names to use instead of "idiot,"
None of these are actually meant to be hateful, if any of these have truely offensive meanings (such as the r word) that I was unaware of, please tell me so I can remove it! Tried to avoid cursing, but it contains some!
Jerk
Ass-hat
Dumb-dumb
Dummy
Doofus
Dork
Stupid
Moron
Fool
Nincompoop
Oaf
Ninny
Blockhead
Dunce
Imbecile
Jack-ass
Dope
Nit-wit
Numbskull
Simpleton
Twit
Birdbrain
Bonehead
Buffoon
Dullard
Half-wit
Knucklehead
Ignoramus
Dingbat
Dumbbell
Loser
Addlepate
Muttonhead
Cretin
Goon
Pea Brain
Dull Pencil
Mole Rat
Turd
a few tips for the new semester
after a pretty intense exam session and a few days of rest i am ready for the new semester, which for me starts tomorrow. here are some things i did to make its start a little smoother! they aren’t only applicable to semester start though, you can use them basically whenever
make sure you have all (or most of) your materials gathered - textbooks, any necessary handouts and printables, as well as stationery. as a stationery nerd i was sure i would have nothing to worry about, only to find out i ran out of whiteout tape. checking inventory won’t do any harm and can save some stress
test your connection - you can use an internet speedmeter or even do a video call with your friend to check where the data transfer is fastest. because of that method i moved my desk and suddenly my online class experience improved tenfold!!
try new routines - being inside so much has made my life pretty monotonous, so i decided to introduce some variety and change my routine. trying out new ones made me realise that i can actually be a morning person if i want to! now i wake up early and have more time for myself
state your goals - simply write them down or tell them to the mirror. put it out there in the universe and know what you want! they don’t have to be big goals, but know what you want to achieve in the upcoming weeks/months. (for me, i want to be able to place a coffee order in welsh confidently and do all my readings on time)
clear out your e-mail - oh, emails. the most dreaded thing at uni. i don’t know about you, but my faculty loves sending a bunch of unnecessary emails right before the new semester. to prepare for that, i deleted/opened all the earlier messages. that way i know exactly how many notifications are actually relevant and i don’t get overwhelmed by hundreds of unopened spam messages when the notifications are pinging.
i hope you have a great spring semester, regardless of the time it starts/started!!! remember to stay hydrated and look away from your screen every once in a while
university studying tips
i’m returning to university after taking a year hiatus, so here are some study/uni tips that i discovered the first 2 years of uni/wish i had implemented more often
study every day for at least an hour
write down study notes + lecture notes
rewrite these - both by hand and typing - as often as possible
seriously. rewrite your notes. have them down somewhere so that they’re legible, but then handwrite your notes as many times as you can, even if it isn’t legible
repetition helps with not only memorization, but comprehension as well
say notes aloud as often as possible
if you’ve safe access to a library, take yourself out on a date
make it a habit 2x-4x a week at specific times going to your library and finding a spot and just studying for 3-4 hours
i would always go tuesday, wednesday and thursday nights from 2pm-8pm. this is when i would get my homework assignments and reading done for most of the week/get ahead where i could
grab yourself a coffee and a snack and remember to take breaks in between!!! every 45 minutes, take a 5 minute break <3
use gum, perfume, or [**diluted**] essential oils as aids during studying, and remember to repeat when taking exams
if you’re studying for an exam and chewing peppermint gum, by chewing the peppermint gum during the exam, it can help trigger the memories of what you were studying
plan ahead
mark out in a planner or calendar when all of your weekly assignments are due, quizzes, exams, and papers
set time aside each day of the week where you are able to work on upcoming projects
for papers that are due in, say, a month
as soon as you have the topic picked out, spend a few moments each day finding academic sources
when reading the material that will be pertinent, highlight/bookmark as you go along. this will help you in the long run (especially if you are using secondary sources and need a quick quote or citation)
send rough drafts to your professor or your schools writing services for thoughts and additions; it can be super nerve-wracking at first, but i promise it helps a lot
you don’t need to color coordinate, but it can help
keep it simple, too much color can and will distract you. but highlighting vocab words, dates and other important things like that can help a lot if you’re trying to find something specific in your study notes
take breaks often, but don’t procrastinate or get distracted (i’ll write another post soon on how to specifically avoid distraction and burn out)
know that grades do not define you. i promise, they don’t.
speak to your professor or advisor if you are falling behind in a class or multiple classes and need aid or extensions. they are there to help you and to teach you. they are your biggest resource. use it.
if you need someone to talk to, i’m here <3
i hope this will help some of you!!! i know online classes are awful, but we will get through this!!
my masterposts
Julio Cortázar, Hopscotch (trans. Gregory Rabassa)
a uni survival guide: tips from a phd
if there's one thing i know about, it's college. i've done it, i've taught it, i've lived and breathed it. these tips are for first years in particular, but honestly for everybody. i think it's so important for people to have balanced lives in these years -- academics are not everything. you know what didn't help me in the real world when i was afraid i wouldn't live through it? my fancy college note-taking format. you know what did help me? the friends i made there who i knew would get on a plane and fly across the country in a matter of hours if i told them i needed them.
academic
- figure out where class is held ahead of time: don't be that kid who's late on day one, i beg of you
- use the writing center: especially for basic grammatical editing, which a lot of professors don't have time to mark on papers
- speak up in class: talking through ideas helps you work through them, and asking questions about something you don't understand can open up great lines of conversation
- find a regular schedule that works for you and stick to it: my college schedule was morning free time, class, lunch, class, practice, homework. that consistency was a life-saver
- keep a planner: it's so important to have a central place to track deadlines, assignments, and engagements
- annotate your reading: when you're stressing about a paper topic, being able to go back to what you've highlighted and written in the margins is a life-saver
- color-code your coursework: i use the same color highlighter, pen, and notebook for any given class. it's super helpful
- if you can't focus while studying with friends, don't: i reserved group studying for days when i didn't have important work because i can't be in a room with other people without talking to them. if your school has one, the quiet floor of the library is your best friend
- treat yourself to a "fun" class: art was always my place to just sit back and chill, a way to end the night all zen in the darkroom instead of conjugating russian verbs in a fluorescent-lit cinderblock prison. for you, it could be gym, it could be pottery, it could be some random course about, like, the history of cooking or something -- explore!
- profs are people too: don't be too nervous around them. also, know that if you're struggling -- even b/c of something in your personal life -- you can admit it, and they'll almost always understand why you missed a deadline or bombed a test
- go to office hours: it's the only way to get to know professors in big courses, and it's so helpful for both your grades and learning how to navigate relationships with authority figures
social
- don't let academia keep you from your friends: it's a case-by-case basis, but sometimes it's okay to let the reading slide and spend time with friends. i graduated seven years ago and my college group text still talks every day. that's so much more important to me than the fact that i never finished brideshead revisited
- joining a club is one of the best ways to make friends: i played ultimate frisbee through college and it was the source of so many lasting relationships, as well as the way i met all my local friends when i was abroad
- say yes to things you don't know if you'll like: you'll surprise yourself. me? turns out i love drinking games. and theme parties. and skinny dipping. and rock climbing
- don't be that person who looks down on their peers for partying: honestly? that person kind of sucks. you don't have to party if you don't want to, but actually, a lot of those people are super nice and also good at school -- don't just write them off!
- show up for your friends: go to their games, their concerts, their art shows, their standup nights. show them that what matters to them matters to you, too
- set aside a night to do a group activity with others: whether your vibe is wednesday night trivia, a weekly "terrible movie" showing, or a get-high-and-watch-nature-documentaries-type thing, these are great ways to liven up the week and de-stress
- this is a great time to figure out who from high school really matters to you: you don't have to force relationships that were built mostly on convenience if there are friends at uni with whom you click more. people you became friends with purely based on the coincidence of where your parents lived do not have to be your forever friends. they can be! but they don't have to be
personal
- don't expect too much of yourself: a 4.0 is not the end-all, be-all. if your family or somebody tells you it is, tell them to call me, and i will personally talk some sense into them
- take advantage of university support services: mental health counseling, free yoga classes, multi-cultural societies, etc
- drink water: please, please don't get kidney stones in the middle of the semester, says the girl who got kidney stones in the middle of the semester
- let yourself take breaks: if you need to lie to a professor and say you're sick when really you're just feeling down and you need to sit in bed and watch a movie, that's totally valid
- don't freak about individual assignments: my students come to me freaking over a B+ and i tell them, honey, no job interviewer is ever going to ask you about your second paper from communications 101. i wish i'd known that
- go see speakers if there's someone interesting coming to campus: these talks are always cooler than you expect. i'll never get over the fact that i didn't go see anita hill when she came to my undergrad
- do your laundry on the same night every week: i can't explain why this is so helpful but it really is
- keep up on the news and the memes: read the school paper, the school blog, the memes page -- college politics and inside jokes are fun and convoluted and fascinating
- set the groundwork for long-term self-care: all of the above is really just to say -- university isn't just for learning about the french revolution, it's also about learning how to balance, how to handle failure, how to ask for help, how to make a salad that doesn't totally suck, etc
AUGUST-DECEMBER 2021 MANIFESTO FOR MY LIFE
it’s time, now, for something different. it’s time for orange-pink tulips, embracing curls and waves in your hair, fey mischievous laughter echoing in your mind long after the joke is done with, cartoonish margin-drawings of chubby tinsel-foil stars hanging radiant over the dome of the world, soft jazz barely heard over the murmur of evening voices, keeping a diary written in heart-blood in black-inked words, listening to the melody and rapture of chaos till it becomes harmless and loses its edge, flinching at what terrifies yet still moving forward and doing what is necessary, keeping pain private and keeping joy occasionally expressed, surprising good friends with warm gifts, tolerating emptiness without losing sight of what matters by remembering what fullness is when you have it, working every day at the right things without downplaying how much of a struggle they are, no longer martyring yourself for the betterment of the world but making yourself an immovable part of it much like the stones and trees, fondly referring to god as a distant loved one you still dream of every now and then, picking up the pieces, resuming the task you have set yourself—to live right, live nobly—once more, and letting love back into your life.
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if i don’t periodically remind myself that there are a LOT of other ppl in their 20s who currently do nothing at all but lie in bed and type on various different screens all day then i start having heart palpitations
june:
> letting go of all that has held us back
> welcoming & radiating love
> being our best selves
> only looking into our souls for guidance
> honouring our psyche
> appreciating ourselves, & those around us
> abundance, prosperity, & purpose
good emotional skills to know 4 college but also in general
this is stuff that i’ve found helpful and am in the process of working on. they may not be achievable for you without help and may not work for your specific circumstance, but this is a list of suggestions that you might be able to think about. i am also not a mental health professional so please do feel free to contradict me!!
self soothing. having a toolbox to take care of yourself by yourself. bc sometimes nobody else is available and you just gotta put some lotion on, listen to a tune, and go to bed early.
checking in. checking in with yourself to see if you’re okay. knowing how to alter your strategies when your strategies aren’t working. knowing when your strategies aren’t working. this is just taking some time every day to reflect on what goals you didn’t meet and why and what you can do to fix that.
there’s nothing you “should” be doing. if you get caught up thinking “i should be doing x” that’s false! stop that! “should” be doing better implies that you have some obligation to do whatever it is that you “should” be doing. you don’t owe anybody except yourself. analyze why you think you should be doing that thing and change that into…. “i want to be doing x because…” or “doing x will make me happier, because…”. overall, more productive and less self-shamey.
disconnecting from the crowd. eating in a crowded dining hall can be stressful! knowing how to be alone in a crowd and stay calm is helpful
being okay with being alone. tbh college is kind of… being alone a lot, in my experience. even though you’re surrounded by people, a lot of time is spent alone. making friends is hard. your friends have different schedules. you’re busy. shit sucks. we make the best of it.
knowing yourself. this relates to a lot of what i’ve already said but like. knowing your emotional state and knowing what helps trick the monkey brain is helpful. stop repressing your feelings, friends.
talking to strangers. ordering from a menu! paying library fines. going to office hours. asking for a cashier at the register if there isn’t one. ya this is hard. ya you gotta expose yourself. sometimes i just try playing a persona. like this isn’t me ordering a sandwich. this is a cool me who knows how to talk to people who is ordering a sandwich.
you don’t have to be friends with your roommates. you just have to live together in a way that doesn’t make you two hate each other. ideally, you two will coexist in a way that doesn’t interfere with the other’s daily life.
give and taking. on the topic of roommates, sometimes your roommate can be a shitty person, but sometimes you are the shitty person! give a little but if they’re negatively impacting your life, communicate.
communicating during disagreements. explain what your emotions are instead of blaming them. “i feel hurt when you…” or “i feel frustrated when” or “i feel unappreciated when.” if things get heated, ask if you both can take a ten minute break and then come back. and don’t bring up disagreements when the other party is preoccupied or going somewhere. you can legitimately schedule a discussion.
it’s okay to apologize. learning to swallow your pride gets easier each time.
knowing that people work differently than you. some people are not gonna click with you and it’s gonna seem like they have this whole brain process up there that is totally unlike yours. and yeah! that’s how it is. and that’s chill if they aren’t hurting anyone else. work with them and be flexible!!
comforting people. you will probably/definitely see someone cry! hell if i know how to comfort people. someone please help. but some things i’ve learned are: 1) different people need different things. different people need different things! 2) people need different things at different times. 3) you can ask them what they want and it won’t be weird. 4) apparently a lot of people like hugs? but ask. and it’s okay to not want a hug. 5) just show that you care in some way if you don’t know what they need. i used to think that if somebody needed to tell me what they needed it was a sign that i just didn’t know them well enough and we weren’t compatible or i wasn’t being a good friend. that’s fake! friendship isn’t based off of fitting naturally in every way and making an effort to be good for them is important.
knowing it’s okay to not be liked by everyone. it’s okay if strangers think you’re dumb because you said something dumb in public. you know you’re not dumb. it’s okay if not everybody you meet likes you. it’s okay if you do something cringey. everybody has their own shit to deal with and you will not shatter their world. grow and move on!
forgiving yourself. i’m trying this new thing where when i feel embarrassed about something i say. out loud. “i forgive myself.” and then i just try to grow from that and move on without getting caught in a spiral of shame.
knowing what you need vs what you want and what is better at the time. what you need: a shower. what you want: to not do that. solution: take a shower! or maybe what you actually need is to go to sleep? but guess what. you probably know what is good for you. the hard part is actually doing it.
realize that building habits is less work than discipline. emotional effort is expended every time you have to make yourself do something. just make it part of your routine and you’ll just think it’s normal to do all the good things! like, for example, i’m trying to make it a habit to eat structured meals instead of a “eat when i’m hungry” thing because i know that makes me skip meals, which is bad!
you won’t be able to do everything. forgive yourself for that. write down things that are top priority and focus on them. everything else is not important right now and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for not being able to do them.
your health is important. i’m not saying health will solve all your problems. it won’t! but health will cause a lot of your problems to go away. because let’s face it. not sleeping causes a lot of problems.
it’s okay to ask for help. we say this a lot but it’s hard to internalize it. here’s a thought: there’s so much shame and hesitation about asking for help so by doing that you’re actually being proactive (which is respectable) and mature, and therefore… not weak or stupid. ask for help even before you need it! most people love to help others. and especially take advantage of people who are OFFERING help. for example: counselors at school or TAs. it’s literally their job. they want to do it. and if you don’t want to talk to anybody in real life, my inbox is always open.
Black Mirror - “San Junipero”
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For when you need distractions
If you are bored or just need to distract yourself, here are a few cool things that may help you <3
• Do nothing for 2 mins
• Take an interactive 3D tour of our galactic neighbourhood
• For every question you get right on this vocab test, 10 grains of rice are donated
• Make your own galaxy
• Make cool symmetric patterns
• Hacker typer - type any gibberish and it will make it seem like you’re a hacker hackin’ your way in a sci-fi movie
• Astronomy Picture Of The Day by Nasa
• Click to remove - a pretty useless game where you have to click on words to remove them from the screen. Recommended for people with adhd.
• I am awesome - it will tell you if you are awesome
• Engrish - misspelled word of the day that made it to hoardings (very funny)
• Spend bill gates money
• Gravity points - a digital pen that lets you add gravity centers to any part of your screen. The more gravity points you add, the more particles get absorbed, eventually forming a black hole.
Robert Kushner - The Queen in Her Boudoir, 2019
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How do you cope with seasonal depression
i moved to california
but before that:
therapy and medication management (always good ideas).
lots of socks/hoodies/blankets + anything to maximize coziness and improve sensory wellbeing. seriously, buy a super soft blanket.
asmr videos
special attention to sleep schedule to maximize daylight.
spent time researching tropical places/playing theoretical beach vacations. digital tropical wallpaper, followed photo-heavy blogs featuring things like travel, flowers, sun, etc, anything to change my mental landscape
cultivated soothing rituals. this can be anything (e.g. lots of people like tea). i personally loved taking long hot showers
big one: kept my room clean and inviting. when the outdoors becomes uncomfortable, it’s extra important to make your indoor environment as welcoming as possible.
made a list of favorite shows/movies/comics/books/etc, stuff i’d seen a dozen times before. when worse came to worse, forced myself to choose something to watch/read. really helped distract me through the bad patches.
force-fed self mellow-but-upbeat soundtracks. the music we listen to has a big effect
found exercises i could do easily indoors for 5-15 min at a time (it turns a few minutes of push-ups here and there are way more doable for me than say, jogging or getting to the gym). also a good way to keep my toes warm during winter.
feel free to add!
Pierrot le fou (1965) // dir. Jean-Luc Godard
Read More, Read Better
Many of us are looking for more ways to enjoy our time at home in these stressful circumstances. Some of us have turned to books. But how can we make sure we get the most out of them?
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some classics-themed valentine’s day cards for y’all as per the tradition
you’re in her dms i’m in her extant lacunal lesbian poetry we are not the same
just a quick note- no trans person has ever said “did you just assume my gender.” trans people are very aware of how their gender and physical appearance differ and that visually one might assume that they are a man/woman when they are actually not. that’s kind of the whole idea of gender dysphoria.
these are the five browser extensions (that aren’t momentum) i use the most as a university student! if anyone has recommendations for any other extensions, please drop them below :)
now that we’re here and it’s 4am here’s some paintings that make me go absolutely bonkers
In The Kitchen by Helena Janecic, Untitled by Daniel Gerhartz, Compassion by Daniel Gergartz, L’abandon (Les deux amies) by Henri de Tolouse-Lautrec
Girl Interrupted (1999) dir. James Mangold