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dark academia with extra appreciation for androgynous fashion and historic buildings at dusk

i do not own these photos. photos with links can be found on my pinterest: marieinanutshell (dark academia board)

i hope this will help some of you!!! i know online classes are awful, but we will get through this!!  

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Because of coronavirus, a lot of recent grads are moving back home. After four years (or more) of freedom, being back home is a big adjustment and it’s easy to revert back to our teenage behaviors. Here are some of the things I’m doing to feel a little more like a grown up while I’m living at home!

i. make your space your own

Just cleaning out your room can make a huge difference. Donate your old clothes and take your old posters from high school down. If you’ve got the time and resources, a fresh coat of paint or new bedding can also do a lot to make your old room feel more adult. You can also rearrange furniture to make a workspace if you’ll be working from home or applying to jobs.

ii. set boundaries

Lovingly set some ground rules about how you can best support each other. This is especially important if you’ll be working or taking classes from home – let them know you’ll be unavailable during certain hours so they don’t barge into a Zoom meeting. 

iii. build a routine

Even if you’re not working or in class at the moment, it’s important to be intentional about your time. The biggest thing that contributed to me feeling like a kid when I first moved back was spending my days watching Netflix and napping. Which are totally valid! But add in other daily activities, like taking your dog for a walk and making yourself a nice breakfast.

iv. make time for friends

I normally hate virtual hangouts, but they’ve been so important for my mental health during quarantine. Schedule a weekly Zoom coffee date with your group of friends. FaceTime your old roommates. Meet your high school bestie in the park and have a distanced picnic (don’t forget masks!). Having a support system is so important right now!

v. find new hobbies

This is the perfect time to try out new hobbies. Plus, craft stores have been having great sales since they know everyone is cooped up all summer. I found some really fun craft kits that I never would have tried normally, and now I’m the proud owner of a woven frog wall hanging. A few ideas: painting, tie dying, embroidery, yoga, running, learning a new language, reading, etc.

Having a long-term project to work towards – like a larger art project or trying to master a difficult yoga pose – helps to keep the days from running together.

vi. find ways to feel “normal”

Everyone, no matter their living situation, is feeling really upended right now. Find the little ways to bring back pieces of your “normal” life. Learn how to make your favorite coffee shop drink at home. Cook for yourself. Wake up at your normal time even if you don’t have to. Keep up with your normal exercise and self care routines – they’re more important now than ever!

things I'm good at

- going to bed at a normal time and staying awake for 3 more hours - replaying scenes of past events in my head and overthinking them - buying even more books although I have a huge stack of unread ones - procrastinating. everything.

she-ra: icons!

are you a warm bread, sunshine, honey, sunflowers type person? a strawberries, bunny rabbits, fairies, dresses type person? or maybe a green tea, painting, jewelry, gardening type person?

just a quick note- no trans person has ever said “did you just assume my gender.” trans people are very aware of how their gender and physical appearance differ and that visually one might assume that they are a man/woman when they are actually not. that’s kind of the whole idea of gender dysphoria. 

i am manifesting an extraordinary reality and deserve the abundance that is coming my way. i am divine. i exude confidence. i am aligned with my highest self. any opposing energy, i quickly release. i move from a place of love and gratitude and the universe is conspiring in my favor.

the universe conspires in my favor. good fortune and positivity have arrived. my dreams are physically unfolding. i deserve prosperity and fulfilment and release any unconscious resistance to this. i have the power to create my reality and this is the reality that i choose; my blessings are abundant and multiplying. i naturally attract the flow of divine riches and welcome the uninterrupted stream of this.