No It Would Never Be A Problem.

It really is the perfect training setup. Edge them until they know nothing and will do anything 😍

Red heads with freckles. #immelting

Staying the Submissive Course

A D/s dynamic is consent based and the submissive can always say no,  can maintain boundaries, and can even opt out. Agreements can be renegotiated, terms of engagement changed, new boundaries discovered.

And for me an essential part of submission is staying the course even when interest wanes. Keeping to the role and the agreements when tired, desires shift, or you are feeling distracted. Actually feeling a diminishment in energy or interest is all the more reason to lean in for by leaning in to your dynamic, the protocols, the agreements, you are cultivating the connection.

Don’t feel libidinous but your dominant wants sex? Focus on their desire and have sex anyway. Serve them and let that service be the satisfaction.

Work is demanding and you feel too distracted for your assigned edges (or nipple pumping or fill in the blank)? Keep your promise and find your center in the protocol. Allow it to be the counter balance to the call of work.

Gave control of your orgasms to your dominant but now really want to orgasm? Remind yourself the pleasure you derive from the control and maintain your commitment.

Staying the course is not always easy nor is it always fun, but keeping to your commitments and maintaining your connection occurs when you lean into your dynamic rather than away from it. Give up the notion that you have to personally want to do something in order to do it. Instead embrace the notion that you want to do it because your dominant wants you to do it. That is to me the big shift in mindset needed for a solid D/s foundation.

#goals

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Tips for going down on a girl?

Don’t be a bitch. If you’re gunna do it, do it well. 

Tease the fuck out of her before going in. Put that tongue away. Kiss every inch of her, except her pussy. Inner thighs, neck, lips, nipples. Start at her mouth, work your way down. Did you get her neck already? Good, now do it again. Build the anticipation. She’ll love it even more.

When she can’t handle the anticipation any more, go in for the kill. Eat that pussy like you’re on death row and it’s your last meal. 

Most girls respond really well to clit stimulation, but don’t over work it. Some girls like it when you stick your tongue in, some don’t, so be cautious when exploring that option.

The best way I’ve learned to do it is to start off slow. Long licks. Cover all of it. Slowly work your speed up. Go a little faster. Every been told to write the alphabet with your tongue? Fuck that. It’s stupid. 

Have her lay on her back, put her legs over your shoulder. That’s the one of the best positions for her to get max pleasure. It also allows you to use your hands. While your mouth is going to down reach up with your hands, grab her breasts, (some girls like their nipples squeezed when getting eaten out. Try exploring that option if she’s down). You also have the options of using one of your hands to finger her or rub her clit while you lick. If you get into a good motion of licking while you rub her clit with your tongue, I can almost guarantee that she will go crazy.

Think you’re done after she cums? WRONG. You’re not done until she grabs you by the hair and pulls you up because she can’t take it any more.

Now go my student, go and eat that pussy like it’s your sole purpose in life to make that girl scream your name, Gods name, and every swear word she’s ever heard in her life.

Milk me please daddy

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