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Reasons I prefer to have an imaginary caregiver
low social battery - I struggle to respond to texts regularly and it wouldn't be fair to them if I was only coming to them when I'm regressed or need something from them
I struggle to make new connections - the easiest way I could probably get a caregiver is by finding someone online but I struggle a lot to build connections and start trusting new people so it's easier to stick with having a caregiver that stays in my mind
They're perfect - I love writing stories about them doing exactly what I need them to do for me and I couldn't expect an irl caregiver to perfectly predict my needs like that
They're always there - I don't have to worry about them being busy when I need them or too tired to help me through my struggles
There are other ways to find community within age regression - I love texting on agere discords, texting in a group chat is a lot less stressful and it allows me to still human connections without as much pressure
I don't have to worry about harmful relationships forming - another problem with finding a caregiver online is you don't really know who that person is. As someone who is 19 I'm slightly safer from this but I still don't want a caregiver who is secretly significantly older than me or who secretly is nsfw. And I have BPD so I don't want to accidentally become codependent with someone or hurt them by doing things like venting too much or not giving them enough space.
this isn't to knock irl caregivers but just saying imaginary caregivers can be fulfilling too :3
Also always remember that irl caregivers are real people. If you have a real life caregiver they won't be 'perfect' like an imaginary caregiver could be (always being there, always knowing what you need, not needing anything in return) and that's okay because they have a ton of their own strengths (being a person you get to learn about and grow close to, being able to physically do things with you, they aren't bound by your imagination)