Something my friend posited to me which I thought was excellent today:
We have a problem when we choose, as a society, to define ‘transgender’ as that which is necessarily causing unhappiness. “Being trans is bout being unhappy with the body you were born with” “Being trans means you feel distressed with your gender” “Being trans means you don’t like X, Y and Z about your life and want to change it.”
It’s important to recognise and support transgender people through suffering. But I question how healthy it is to actually define transgender life by that suffering, on a day to day basis, in the real lives and dialogues with real trans people. Let’s flip it for a second:
“Being trans is about realising what you need to be happy in your body.” “Being trans is about rejecting what hurts in favour of what brings joy and meaning.” “Being trans mean’s looking forward to changes in life that will improve general wellbeing.”
This label shouldn’t be associated in the public mind with self-loathing- it should be associated with self-love.
Harrison Wood Hsiang
and forever!
Mouse from Space Station: Silicon Valley
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Hi there. Are you autistic? Do you currently feel like shit and don't know why? Try this checklist to see if you can Fix The Problem!
When was the last time you used the bathroom? If you answered "I don't know" or "at least 3 hours ago", go now!
Do you need a drink? Go get one if you don't have one in front of you.
When was the last time you ate? If you haven't eaten yet today, consider eating A Meal, or perhaps A Snack. Something is better than nothing, eat whatever you feel able to!
Is there something in your immediate surroundings that is bothering you? If the light is too bright, turn it off. If there is an annoying sound, make the sound stop or reduce your ability to hear it (earplugs, headphones, etc.). If your clothes are bothering you, change them.
Is your space messy? Pick one area of your room and clean it up as best you can. Clean your whole room if you have the energy!
When was the last time you did An Activity? Scrolling on social media doesn't count. Try actively doing something fun! Play a game you like, read a book, make something, or go for a walk.
When was the last time you Spoke to a Person? Consider talking to a person you like if it has been a while.
How long has it been since you did something Special Interest related? Make some time to do that today. Infodump to a friend, have a nice long research session, look at related images or gifs, make art about it, whatever works best for you!
Try stimming actively! Put on some music and dance, spin in circles, go to the park and use the swings!
If you still feel like shit after trying all of these things, you might be tired or sick. Go to bed early and get some rest. Hopefully you will feel better tomorrow!
Hope that helps :)
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