For All My Smokin Hot Transfemmes, And Everyone Else Who Enjoys A Touch Of The Zaza

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser(s) were never punished.

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser is living a normal life.

Shoutout to everyone whose allegations were immediately dismissed.

Shoutout to everyone reported their abuser to the police and nothing happened.

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser was able to get out of significant legal punishment.

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser is generally seen as a good person.

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser is a “pillar of the community.”

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser has lied about you.

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser has framed them.

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser threatened them into silence.

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser discouraged them from reporting.

Shoutout to everyone who lost friends after reporting and or exposing their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who lost family after reporting and or exposing their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who received backlash for reporting and or exposing their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who has created a rift in their family or friends by reporting or exposing their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who is terrified to tell anyone about their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who never had the opportunity to talk about their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who feels like talking about their abuser is worthless.

Shoutout to everyone whose case was dismissed by the court.

Shoutout to everyone who faced backlash after their abuser was put in jail.

Shoutout to everyone who faced backlash for testifying against their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who still has yet to be believed that they were abused.

Shoutout to everyone who knows their abuser will never be punished.

Shoutout to everyone who knows their abuser will never face backlash.

Shoutout to everyone who knows their story will be dismissed by loved ones.

Shoutout to everyone who spoke out about their abuser, but wasn’t believed until something happened to someone else.

Shoutout to everyone who spoke out about their abuser and wasn’t believed until they seriously harmed you.

Shoutout to everyone who has been mocked for trying to speak out about their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who has faced social repercussions for speaking out or exposing their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone who has suffered financially for speaking out or exposing their abuser.

Shoutout to everyone whose abuser has admitted guilt, but never faced justice.

Shoutout to everyone who knows they were abused and are punished for it.

Something my friend posited to me which I thought was excellent today:

We have a problem when we choose, as a society, to define ‘transgender’ as that which is necessarily causing unhappiness. “Being trans is bout being unhappy with the body you were born with” “Being trans means you feel distressed with your gender” “Being trans means you don’t like X, Y and Z about your life and want to change it.”

It’s important to recognise and support transgender people through suffering. But I question how healthy it is to actually define transgender life by that suffering, on a day to day basis, in the real lives and dialogues with real trans people. Let’s flip it for a second:

“Being trans is about realising what you need to be happy in your body.” “Being trans is about rejecting what hurts in favour of what brings joy and meaning.” “Being trans mean’s looking forward to changes in life that will improve general wellbeing.”

This label shouldn’t be associated in the public mind with self-loathing- it should be associated with self-love.

some reminders

Some coastal wolves for you all!!

Leonard Weisgard (American,1916-2000)  

Posting this one on its own cuz I just really love this image. gently hold your teenage self and tell them it’s gonna get better one day.

Look how far we’ve come.

i found this weirdcore image on Pinterest and I'm sorry it made me laugh

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