"They Hurt You Because They Like You." Needs To Stop.

"They hurt you because they like you." Needs to stop.

I come on here today to bring forward an issue that I have personally dealt with myself.

Most of us females, when we're young, are taught that a boy likes us if he is hurting us, by bullying us, throwing things at us, pulling our hair, pushing us around, you name it. Anything a boy at a young age could possibly think of doing, they did it. When I told my mother about a boy bullying me when I was still in elementary school, from 1st to 4 grade, and even when I see him now, in 11th grade, he treats me like shit. Any chance he got, he used it to hurt me, whether that was emotionally or physically. He'd get his little sidekick friend to chase me around the elementary playground and throw the rubber at my back, so much so that it could cause burns and bruises. I never told my mom that, because when I did, I was told "oh. that's because he likes you."

He abused me, and yet, I still liked him. I still had that stupid little crush on him, even if he hurt me. I was young and impressionable, and I didn't know any better. When I was told "it's because he likes you", that tells me, my little, underdeveloped brain, that it is OKAY for men to treat me like shit, because they love me, and THAT'S why I should stay. I should ALLOW men, with their big fat egos and fragile masculinity, to treat ME like shit because they 'LIKE' me.

In my first relationship, I was treated like shit by my girlfriend and some of her friends. People that I considered my friends. Yet I was gaslighted, I was manipulated and verbally abused by these people who I thought cared about me. People I thought LOVED me. I thought that love was enough, even if they treated me like shit, maybe, deep down, I even thought I deserved it. That I was the one in the wrong. I wasn't in the wrong. They didn't care, they didn't love me, platonically, or otherwise. They abused me, they neglected me. It's been years and still, their actions and words cover me in their shadows. I'm still healing.

Still, to this day, I let people walk all over me, because I push so many people away in fear of the manipulation and abuse that I may be put through, and I have no one else. I don't allow myself to go out and meet new people because I'm so afraid of losing them if I get attached. And I know this, but I also know where it comes from. I've let people walk over me all my life, just because I was taught that it was okay for people to do that because they love me. I was a kid, and I needed acceptance, so I let it happen, but I was never faced with acceptance.

For my whole life, I've been told "he hurts you because he likes you.", and only one time had I brought it up, recently this year, and my mom realized, "Wait... he did that to you? Why didn't you tell me?" My mom realized her error, and while I do forgive her, I cannot forgive those words that set up the first years of my life.

That is why we cannot tell children these things. If you teach your kids that it is okay for them to be abused out of 'love', then you're not only part of the problem, but you are setting them up for the life of a victim. A victim may never understand what love really is because when they think love, they think ABUSE, they think hitting, yelling, throwing things, and cursing. No one deserves to live life as a victim of anything, and it is our job to help future generations NOT grow up like we did. We're supposed to teach generations after us that abuse is never the way, that abuse is NOT love, and it never will be. Abuse. Is. Abuse. Let's start saying it like it is.

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4 years ago

reblogging this because the complainers annoy the shit outta me

Something that should really be addressed

“minors get off my page this is 18+” “minors cant be on here this is 18+” “minors this” “minors that”

YES. WE GET IT. YOU MAKE NSFW AND SIN.

As a minor, fully aware of unwholesome stuff like that, I’m fine looking at art of nsfw or sin! I actually like looking at it because it helps teach me anatomy for when I draw! (i also really like to admire people’s art and nsfw is top-notch art)

Point is. MINORS. LOOK. AT. PORN. TOO. Minors watch porn in CLASS ffs! What the hell is some nsfw drawing gonna do to us? NOTHING!

MINORS KNOW WHAT SEX IS YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE ANNOYING ABOUT IT, OKAY???

And maybe social media should learn that it’s the MINORS fault for looking at something bad, not the artist’s/author’s fault. If their parents catch it, it’s the minor’s fault, not the artist’s/author’s.

IF YOU ARE A NSFW/SIN ARTIST, AND YOU’RE IN A MESS OF MAKING YOUR ART NSFW AND SOMEONE LOOKED AT IT EVEN THOUGH THEY WEREN’T SUPPOSED TOO, YOU TELL THAT PERSON SPECIFICALLY. ALL YOU HAVE TO SAY IS THAT THEY SHOULDN’T BE LOOKING AT WHAT YOU MAKE, IT ISN’T YOUR FAULT THAT THEY LOOKED AT IT. GET THIS THROUGH YOUR THICK GODDAMN HEADS BECAUSE I AM GETTING ANGERED ABOUT THIS-

2 years ago

i just wanna say that @loverofpiggies has no idea how much love i have for them

why do you make such good art and characters

and why do i simp for the most unattractive possible character of yours (aka error) how does that even work

my standards are so low


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3 years ago

someone please make an animatic of "I love you so" by The Walters and iit's about FF1970, im actually begging


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3 years ago

okay so random headcanons i have for dsmp (in a NON-CANON universe, still characters tho ofc)

XD's name is Xander, idk why, but to me, it fits.

HD's name (GeorgeHD, aka God George for those who dont know) is Henry, because it's George's middle name. (because GeorgeHD.. HD is his last two initials... so... Henry... not Tommy's cow-)

and that's all I have for you, Tumblr, have a good day


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2 years ago

I cannot believe I'm back here with something is DISGUSTING as this.

TW// s3x, death, corpses

@/realmeowbah has to be taken down. It is not okay to sexualize a real person, EVEN BEYOND THE GRAVE! I'm asking that people spread the word and/or help report them! If you know any other of their accounts, report them too!! This is not okay!

— ecolsbn (@ecolsbn) August 6, 2022

Please take the time to read my tweet, and read meowbah's tweet with extreme caution.

I'm genuinely asking that people take the time to at LEAST spread the word if you cannot report them. If you have a twitter account, USE IT!

@/realmeowbah has to be taken down. It is not okay to sexualize a real person, EVEN BEYOND THE GRAVE! I'm asking that people spread the word and/or help report them! If you know any other of their accounts, report them too!! This is not okay!

— ecolsbn (@ecolsbn) August 6, 2022

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2 years ago

“…and what will you do if I refuse?”

“Oh, my sweet darling, my love, my everything… what wouldn’t I do?”

2 years ago

MY MEOWBAHH POST IS FINALLY HERE!

TRIGGER WARNING: RACISM, TRANSPHOBIA, ABLEISM, RAPE

meowbahh is a... well i wouldnt say influencer... social media person who pretends to be a doll. Meowbahh currently resides on tiktok and youtube, his content is similar to jellybean but worse. He has posted that his pronouns are doll/meow or something, i honestly dont care im not using those. Most people refer to him using he/him pronouns since the other ones are offensive.

Why has meowbahh gotten attention?

Well i dont know if its obvious or not but he literally pretends he is a transphobic doll. But there is more, yes it gets worse.

Do you guys remember those weird roblox kids on tiktok who would pretend to know japanese and then badly mispronounce everything, probably not. Well this is kind of like that. Meowbahh would say that he can speak japanese and then butcher every word. On top of this he is very racist. Meowbahh has a discord server(which i have joined, ya it isnt great) where he has repeatedly said the n-word to people on there. The he continues to spam his discord with messages about how anyone who raids the server will get raped.

MY MEOWBAHH POST IS FINALLY HERE!

As you can see meowbahh is also ableist as he has said the r-slur multiple times. After all these mistakes you think maybe he would post an apology or something, well he did. This "apology" is basically a muckbang. He talks about how he is sorry for offending the "disabled fandom" while he is munching on a full course meal. Did he not learn speaking with his mouth full is disrespectful.

NEXT

Meowbahh answers a comment on his tiktok asking about his thoughts on the war in Ukraine. He replies saying Russia must have their reasons for doing it. Then he answered another question where he said he could beat Allah(The god in islam, please correct me if im wrong) in a fight. This lead to him making his own cult called meowism.

PLUS supposedly he got doxxed and got his face leaked?? i dont know about this for sure but please don't go doxxing people.

NOTE: please don't attack Jellybean for any of this, Jellybean has made it obvious they don't support meowbah.

And i guess don't attack Meowbahh either?? idk i couldn't care less

3 years ago
𝐭𝐨𝐱𝐢𝐜. | 𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐭 𝐱 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫 ✓
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" 𝐈'𝐝 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐢𝐬𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧. " ...

WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS.

WHAT.

Okay... so, there is actually a lot to unpack here and I haven't even read it.

TOMMY IS NOT OKAY WITH SHIPPING.

I am aware that in this book's intro, it says shit like "tommy doesnt like ONLY nsfw and being shipped with irl friends" BUT NO WHERE CAN YOU FIND PEOPLE ASKING SPECIFIC ENOUGH QUESTIONS.

Asking a CC "Are you okay with shipping?" ISNT SPECIFIC ENOUGH. A CC may be fine with CHARACTER SHIPPING, but NOT CC SHIPPING. People are not specific when they ask this question, which is why you CANNOT assume that Tommy is fine with FAN SHIPPING.

He is a MINOR, by the way! Even when he turns 18, that doesn't mean he'll just MAGICALLY be fine with shipping! RESPECT HIS FUCKING BOUNDARIES. IT IS NOT EVEN HARD.

This is fucking disgusting. This book has 1.11 MILLION views. And not once have I seen anyone talking about this. Disgusting.


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8 months ago

i just love feeling safe and secure in a good friendship, only for them to randomly start acting abnormal, which activates my ptsd and i immediately feeling insecure again bc i think they're no longer interested in me and that they're abandoning me or don't have time for me, so i just feel left behind and alone again which makes me feel depressed for days and it gets bad enough that i'm sure i'm relapsing but i cant stop it because i feel so alone and i cant talk to anyone about it because i know what they'll say but doing what they say isnt easy and it usually ends up with a bad result that i dont want to hear/know resulting in me falling back down the rabbit hole that i can't climb back out of

and its worse sharing this giant interest because i'm still very into that thing but looking at that thing makes me want to share it with them but now they dont even send a reaction to what you send, let alone a message which just makes me feel extremely unheard and hurt bc they dont even care enough to actually look at/watch what i send them

so now i just spend my time alone playing music because nothing is interesting anymore and i just sat on my phone half-spaced out and ready to cry at any moment because i feel as fragile as a cracked dam that just keeps cracking, therefore building more and more pressure until it bursts

5 years ago

My L.A. teacher: *wonders why none of us actually go through lessons*

Also my L.A. teacher: *assigns 11 slides with 10 pages each*

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