Ever since I moved out a few years ago my want to come out to the rest of my family grows every day.
I told myself if my dad ever said "Do you like men?" Id tell him the truth but ever since I was 14 he'd always ask "Are you gay?" And Id say "No dad im not gay" and he'd respond with a "whew thank god" like the homophobe he is if he even got a whiff of something that wasnt hetero-normative.
Poor fucker doesnt know im bisexual.
Once you've listened to enough obscure stoner doom metal the albums in your youtube recommendation start toeing the line between "comedy gold" and "images that go hard"
I cant even imagine the pain parents go through with goth kids.
Pushing out all those piercings at birth must've hurt so bad.
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Accepting being a trans woman now is realizing the danger of being harassed, physically assaulted, or ostracized from my family and society never pushed me as far into the closet as the people who pushed me to be a "uwu cute trans girl" did.
I was a feminine man for a LONG time, and forced down a ton of my trans feelings since high school, but I showed many signs of being an egg- until my mid 20s, when I finally cracked.
A lot of the queer and trans friends I did have used to say things as blatant as: "so when are you starting E?" "have you picked a name out yet kitten?" Or my favorite: "you'd look great as a girl… are you sure you're not trans?"
The only reason I was able to finally accept being trans was by figuring things out MYSELF and by having a partner who was both supportive and respectful of my autonomy. They never pushed me to consider myself as a girl instead of just a feminine man, and that gave me the room I needed to breathe.
Don't push that awkward egg to crack. And it's shitty to assume someone must be trans just because YOU think they might be. Don't tell them, "oh you act like this, so stop denying yourself!" Just ask them, "how do you feel about yourself?" It's not your life journey. Let them walk it themself.
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