Great Advice

Thanks for sharing this great advice!

The dangers of the lifestyle

Many ask how to begin living this lifestyle; often, how to convince the wife. My answer is always the same: don’t.

I want to use the perfect words I found online time ago (here http://bit.ly/2wRyUEv , all credits due to the original poster):

When me & my long term girlfriend were thinking about this, both of us were incredibly turned on physically about it, but she just would not take the final step because of the emotional dangers. She said because we men can easily separate the physical & emotional we don’t understand that very few women can, and the same thing that makes them lust for a man in bed (which is what guys in this situation want) is the same thing that makes her become emotionally attached to him.

My partner’s last words on the subject were ‘if we go through with this, you will lose me emotionally, and once you’ve lost me emotionally, the physical won’t be far behind, and then it will be the beginning of the end.’

This is so very true.

Over the years, I witnessed so many times the same pattern. Of all the other couples we met living the lifestyle, from cuckolds to hotwives, every possible variation on the theme, I can say ALL split. All but one: the one where both partners were already living the style before meeting.

All the couples that began experimenting together, eventually broke up. The change in the bond between them, which silently grows over time, in the end destroyed them as a couple.

The woman feels less and less 'bound’ to her man, and she usually starts feeling emotions for someone else. It’s almost like breaking the physical limitation opens a breach in her emotions.

The man is pulled towards a spiral of personal fantasies, growing detached not only from his woman, but from her desires and wishes. In divergent directions, he usually loses the capacity to listen to her, and he doesn’t ultimately notice that she’s slowly slipping away.

So, here’s my advice. If it’s a shared fantasy, something both partners were willing to try for a long time, you’ll find the way to try. Internet offers plenty of options. In all other cases, don’t ever try to convince her or him; in the end it will destroy her or him, and you as a couple.

Muy buena publicación, gracias.

Mi inicio en el mundo cornudo

No sé de donde nació la idea de compartir a mi esposa, pero cuando veo porno y veo a todas esas parejas amateur gozando y disfrutando, me vuelve loco la idea de verla gozando de la misma manera ( y yo tambien disfrutando su placer). Tal vez sea el morbo, no lo sé, pero algo es indiscutible, la seguridad de poder imaginar y compartir mis deseos con ella, es por la confianza tan solida que tenemos en nuestro matrimonio, además del amor y paciencia que tenemos en nuestra vida día a día. Esta base me da la seguridad de compartir con ella mis fantasías deseos. El día que le confesé estos profundos deseos, fue Super el saber que ella se encontraba tan nerviosa como yo al compartir lo suyo, pero nos unió más, y confirme mucho de lo que ya había leído al respecto en varios blogs, este mundo swinger cornudo hotwife o como quieran llamarle, no viene a arreglar nada, sólo hace más fuerte y sólido lo que ya existe.

En estos momentos nos encontramos compartiéndonos imágenes, fantasías, el cómo sería, y es riquísimo sentir esos orgasmos liberados de deseos con tu pareja.

Los dejo y agradezco su preciado tiempo. Escribiré luego.

Saludos !

Bravo

Memes are NOT real life…

Can we make an effort to create and promote better lifestyle content?

I’m tired of seeing all these repetitive posts with the same unrealistic Hotwife captions that are clearly written by porn-addicted men. No woman is telling strangers to “fill their slutty married pussy with hot cum”. I get that most people come to these blogs for fantasy, but it’s really damaging to actual couples who dabble in the lifestyle. It sets unrealistic expectations and creates a pool of unqualified suitors when real couples are looking for another man to join them.

No, a Hotwife is not a cum dump.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck anyone with a big dick.

No, a Hotwife is not just a fuck toy for your pleasure.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck some one else every chance she gets.

I’d love to see more blogs create realistic images and captions that reflect real relationships.

*rant over*

Great post, you were very patient and got your reward. Thanks for sharing your experience and your amazing wife ;-) congrats man.

How did you get her to start fucking other guys. Did you start with swapping first or threesomes? Did it take long to convince her and was she keen to continue after the first. Did she want the same guy or to try others? Sorry for all the questions but am very interested and envious of you.

It took a very long time.  For years I talked about the fantasy of watching her fuck other guys- threesomes, gangbangs, etc.  She would always get very hot in bed with these fantasies.  Slowly talked her into swinging, which led to MFM threesomes, and then her just fucking guys while I was there, and then her fucking guys when I wasn’t there.  It was a progression and it took about a decade to get where we are now.  She did love fucking other guys, and at times she craves new cock, and other times her religious upbringing makes her feel guilty, so it comes and goes.  She does prefer to have one guy at a time, that is a regular fuckbuddy, but she is open to having multiple play partners.  Hope this helps.

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Buena nota

http://www.elgrafico.mx/especiales/tarea/14-09-2017/disfrutan-ser-cornudos Cecilia Rosillo 14/09/2017 - 09:57 Así son los hombres que se excitan al ver a sus mujeres con otros hombres Aunque parezca extraño hay hombres que no sólo disfrutan de ver a sus mujeres teniendo sexo con otros hombres, sino que se excitan hasta el orgasmo. Se les llama Cuckold, término en inglés que significa “cornudo”, es decir, quien tradicionalmente es engañado por su pareja. “Cuckolding” es el acto en sí, que se emplea para la escena de ser engañado de forma consentida. Los Cockold no son swingers, sino matrimonios estables en los que ella se acuesta libremente con todos los hombres que quiere aún delante de su marido, que le es fiel hasta la tumba. Es un estilo de vida alternativo que cobra cada día más adeptos. De hecho, es una práctica más común de lo que muchos piensan y está muy presente en las fantasías eróticas dde hombres y mujeres. Evidentemente van en contra de la idea convencional de que el sexo siempre tiene que quedar dentro de la pareja. Él se mantiene al margen disfrutando de que su esposa tenga sexo con otros hombres más guapos, más dotados o más salvajes. Para estos hombres es un estilo de vida, además se mantienen cien por ciento monógamos mientras la mujer puede disfrutar libremente de su vida sexual; es decir, no hay un límite en sus amantes, tiene licencia para hacer lo que quiera sexualmente, pero siempre informando lo que hace a su pareja y, lo más importante, con quién lo hace. Ellos se asumen como parejas que han dado un paso más, con un grado más de confianza, donde todo se convierte en sexo y nada más. No hay enamoramiento con un tercero. Únicamente es un recurso más para explorar su sexualidad. Este comportamiento de los hombres se ha estudiado desde 1889, se explica a través de un término médico que se refiere al impulso psicológico de un sujeto de exponer a su pareja sexual o imágenes de ella ante otras personas para obtener una gratificación erótica. En una variante de este trastorno del comportamiento sexual, el hombre obtiene placer obligando a su compañera a realizar actos sexuales con otra persona. El fenómeno de excitación dicen los hombres de ciencia, se explica en parte de la siguiente manera: Cuando el hombre está en un grupo donde hay un macho alfa y tiene coito con tu pareja, le entra un instinto de competencia. Entonces hace que se vuelva más cariñoso, más atento, crea estrategias para conservar a esa persona pese a todos los demás. Entre las reglas que existen en ésto está la de que no se incluye a más de tres, porque se consideraría una orgía; ella debe informar a su esposo de sus relaciones con otros hombres sin esconder nada; si el hombre no está durante el sexo, debe recibir material que compruebe los cuernos; debe ser sexo con condón.

http://www.elgrafico.mx/especiales/tarea/14-09-2017/disfrutan-ser-cornudos

A great advice

Thank you!

We have been married 18 yrs, and we have fantasized about hotwifing for about 8 yrs. Our sex life is great, and we always act out the hotwife idea everytime we have sex by dp and dirty talk. We have discussed about doing it for real several times, but she is too worried about something going wrong like std, moral values, etc. I have gotten very serious about wanting to do this but she wont plan it, although she is showing signs that she really wants to. I have thought of just making it happen.

No no no…. The basis of cuckolding is absolute openness and honesty. It’s not something you can start with deception and hope it ends well. If you want it and she wants it but she can’t pull the trigger then she’s just not ready. If you try to manufacture it without her knowing you open the relationship to resentment and guilt. Even if you could make it happen what happens if it doesn’t go well or she regrets it and blames you? These are things that need to be talked about before hand. You have to be on the same page about everything. That being said there are ways to coax it along. Playing the “would ya” game. “Out of all the people we know who would you fuck if you had the chance?” That kind of thing. Get her talking about it in a real life sense.

Also play the bar game where you go and watch her from afar while she flirts. She doesn’t have to fuck anyone. You could come over and “win” her away from the guy and then go fuck like bunnies. It’s a gradual thing. A frog in a gradually heating pot. Baby steps. But she has to be in agreement as to what the rules are.

But at the end of the day if she can’t do it then she can’t do it. At least you have a sexual wife that you love who is willing to fantasize with you about your deepest desires. There are tons of men who would give their left nut to have what you have.

Play the game but never be deceptive.

www.sensualhotwife.tumblr.com

Great way to start a fantasy! Congrats and thank you for sharing your story.

Our First Step - True Story

This story is a little bit old. We never posted anything on the blog about this event when it first happened because we weren’t really sure how muchof our journey we wanted to chronicle but we’ve recently decided we want everything that can be on the blog to be on it. Its not quite as dirty as the last two either, but its a very important chapter to Amy and me. This was our very very first time of trying anything involving sharing and was the point when we knew it was something we definitely wanted to pursue.

Anyway, avid fans may remember around June Amelia and I disappeared for a few days. We went up to Edinburgh (Scotland for foreign followers) for a few days to celebrate our engagement. While we were there we had a guy from kik offer to meet up with us for drinks at some point during the holiday. Amy wasn’t too sure about this (bear in mind it was literally only a few months previously that I had told her about my fantasies) but I was up for it. After a bit of discussion we decided it was a good opportunity to meet someone new and we were under no obligation to actually do anything with him so we agreed to meet.

We met the guy in a pub and had a few drinks. Amelia was wearing a gorgeous corsetted top that showed off her big tits and neither me or the guy we met were able to keep our eyes off her cleavage! We all hit it off really well and had several drinks together. In fact we got on so well with him that, while he was off getting another drink, Amelia and I were disccusing what we should do with him. We really appreciated him making the effort to come meet with us and wanted to give him something to remember, so we decided Amelia would give him a goodbye kiss. I know that doesn’t sound ground breaking, but keep in mind, this would be the first guy Amy had kissed (that wasn’t me) for seven years and the first time I would see her with another man in any form.

Unfortunately he had to get the train home so we had to cut the party a little shorter than we would have liked. We walked him to the train station and said our goodbyes. Amy gave him a hug and, as he went to move away, pulled him in for what was, in my opinion, the perfect kiss. It was sudden enough that there was no way he could have expected it but lasted long enough for him to know it wasn’t an accident. Then we went out serperate ways. The walk back to our hotel was agonising for me. Just seeing her kiss the guy made me incredibly horny. I was full of energy and unable to stand still. I’m not sure I slept much that night because of the adrenaline!

The next day we decided we had enjoyed ourselves so much the night before that we asked him whether he wanted to meet up again that night as well. He agreed and we made plans to buy alcohol and bring it back to the hotel room this time. We made it clear to him that it wouldn’t go as far as sex but we left the possibility of other things happening open. We met at the same pub as the night before and had a drink there before heading back to the hotel.

Remember, this is the first time we had ever done anything like this, so we were both a little nervous. We knew we wanted something to happen but were a little lost as to how to initiate it so we came up with a bit of a plan. I would go to the bathroom leaving the two of them alone, wait a few minutes, then by the time I came out hopefully stuff would be happening.

The evening went on and we continued having a good time and a laugh. Finally, about an hour before the guy had to go get his train, I got a text from Amy saying simply, ‘Go to the bathroom’. I followed her instruction and waited for a few minutes full of nervous excitement. This was something I had wanted for a long time and it was surreal to me being so close to it. I listened at the door intently, desperately trying to hear what was happening. I could hear them talking but couldn’t make out what was being said. Eventually I had to just leave the bathroom, otherwise I’d have looked a little weird, so I pushed open the door to be greeted to the sight of Amelia making out with him!

She was sat on the edge of the bed, him in a chair next to it and she was proper making out with him. I had to stand in the doorway for a few minutes to take it all in. After a while he moved onto the bed next to her. He had a hand on one of her boobs while she sat on his lap but she grabbed his hand and moved it down between her legs so he could rub her through her tights!

“I saw that, Amelia, you fucking slut,” I said to her with a smile.

“You love it. And so does he,” she replied with cheeky smile before going back to making out with him. Well she definitely wasn’t wrong! I remember this bit vividly. It made me lightheaded and super horny watching her move another guys hand to her pussy!

They were so preoccupied Amy didn’t noticed me move behind her and undo her bra. She slipped it off and let him play with her tits a bit before straddling him on the bed. I got comfy on a chair nearby and watched as she undid his pants and played with his cock while his hands explored her entire body. She spent a bit of time licking his balls (which were really big and nice! Amy said she loved how big and full they were) and started sucking on his cock while he held her hair.

We all wanted to stay like that but we were quickly running out of time so the two of them had to tear themselves away from each other. There was enough time for us to finish our drinks and for Amelia to show us a sexy outfit she had brought up with her before we had to walk him to the station.

This one!

We left our room and they made out more in the lift. Then we walked to the station and they made out more on the platform. Once again we were both incredibly horny but we were forced to say our goodbyes and part ways. The guy said one of the guards watched him and Amy make out, then me walk away with my hand on her ass and gave us a funny look. Hahahahaha!

We still keep in contact with our friend and were very lucky to have found such a nice guy for our first time. I can’t imagine where we would be right now if the meeting had gone badly. It could have put us off the whole thing! 

So, that was our very very first first time doing anything with another guy. And look where its led us! Amy and I are closer than I ever thought possible and we’re hurtling towards my ultimate fantasies coming true!

I just hope we’re able to meet our Scottish friend again so I can thank him for his kindness by letting him fuck the hell out of Amy! ;) - D

Interesting note

How come u guys don't get jealous? When I truly love and value someone I don't want to share them. And it'd offend me if my lover didn't love me enough to feel the same way.

Unfortunately that’s a hard question to answer. If you’re not a swinger it’s hard to explain how it feels. We were the same. People would tell us that it brought you closer together and made you love each other more. That was incomprehensible to us how watching someone else with your partner could possibly be a good thing. But we eventually found ourselves in that situation and they were right! Our bond got stronger! Our sex was better! It was a turn on watching each other give and receive pleasure! It’s progressed to a stage now that we swap partners and sleep with them in separate rooms for the night. Then we swap stories the next day and have amazing sex!

Interesante, describe un poco mas el lado "cuckold" de una pareja donde ella es hotwife. Por el comentario de la humillación.

Pero aun mas interesante es que sea una tendencia tan fuerte que los medios convencionales la tengan que publicar.

Quien dijo? yo.

Ultimate list of couples and females by Kilippcpl

A worth sharing post containing most of the hotwifes on tumblr, this kind couple keeps the list up to date. Thank you Kilippcpl :)

Enjoy:

 http://kilippcpl.tumblr.com/post/153511874482/the-ultimate-tumblr-list-of-couples-and-females