Afternoon Silence, 1900, Wilhelm Kotarbinski

Idk what to do after collage

I really have no idea lol It's hard to get a good, stable job in my country

suffragettes became fascists because this is what spending too much time with feminists does to you

women have this ugly tendency of purity checking each other when it comes to everything, this is why feminism fails

it doesn't include all women, just a chosen elitist group which gets smaller and smaller

radical feminism should stop demanding from women to stop having sex, stop being mothers, stop eating meat those are ALL normal things that alot of women do

do you know what is not natural? being submissive to men, being dependant on them in every conversation and not respecting your own body and your own dignity and freedom as a woman

populist right wins because it allows majority groups to still have their freedom, for feminism to win it has to center ALL women aka biological females, lesbian, straight and bi, old and young and likewise let them have their freedom

you can have your core radfem beliefs but by excluding actual women (not men in dresses) you're shooting yourself in the foot and your movement fails, not to mention there already are hypocritical radfems who say one thing do another which is laughable

choose few core principles and let everything else by up to the individual women, they'll be grateful for that

GC narrative is already taken over by the populist right as we speak because they're sneaky and smart about it

sex is a need

Yes, you can live without it but if you have high libido it will affect your mental wellbeing

having same/similar interests to those that predatory men have sucks

we should absolutely reclaim anime icons

why do you call yourself cisgender?

kinda out of necessity as there are people who think I'm a man if I don't "prove it" somehow

I mean, I had to deal with people who lied about themselves as well and whenever I look at someone's profile I have to analyse everything to make sure. I thought no trans person would likely use "cis" to describe themselves.

but there are people who legit accuse me of being a guy maybe because of the way I talk or whatever because yes, I have some very masculine interests and personality traits

I totally understand disliking the term but for me there are words that piss me off more and I don't really consider it a slur. Tbh I'd much rather ask why some lesbians call themselves "dyke" or "queer", those words disgust me more.

reject femininity and embrace femaleness

It's crazy how people don't see me as a human being everytime they find out I'm gay. Not everyone but for example almost every therapist I had, looked down at me for it or laughed at me or criticised my looks (because apparently it's weird that a lesbian woman presents feminine).

I don't like Foucault but medical gaze is real. Male gaze is bullshit but medical gaze is an actual thing.

Signs of unhealthy masculinity in women:

- hating your natural female traits (breasts, hips)

- hating your voice or height

- irrational fear of being percieved as feminine by other people

- obsessing with gender roles (especially in relationships, metaattraction - being attracted to someone only because this person will affirm your masculinity)

- fear of being vulnerable, being uncomfortable with receiving sexual pleasure from your partner (in fear it will "feminise you", it comes from unhealthy views about womanhood and sexuality)

Signs of healthy masculinity in women:

- wanting to be fit and taking care of your body

- embracing all natural traits of your female body and respecting them

- having strenght that doesn't fear vulnerability with a trusted person (it takes strenght to be vulnerable)

- wisdom to recognise negative/sexist thought patterns

- having sexual boundries but not being afraid of having someone pleasure you because you know you deserve it and it's not degrading

- dressing however you want, make-up/no make-up doesn't matter, just wearing what you think makes you look good

- not caring about gender roles much (doesn't matter if sth you do will be seen as "feminine" or "masculine" by society, do what you want)

- having discipline and determination, facing your fears, focusing on self improvement

- being kind to yourself

I don't care about gay men and women practicing kink in private or in spaces meant for it. We should be free to express our sexuality while remaining respectful to other people especially those who don't want anything to do with it.