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Trans activists offline.

my mom asked me what a word meant yesterday and i didnt know so i said “our best scientists are still working on this” and she laughed so fucjing hard ????

This photo made my day. Solidarity with #GiselePelicot and all survivors.

Okay tbh.

Even when I was a TRA, I felt a bit stupid when I’d say ‘trans women’ experienced worse oppression than ‘trans men’.

Because a part of me believed in sex-based oppression, but I couldn’t say that without being called a terf. So I just didn’t question it. But now I’m questioning it because… how is it that someone who was born male, was treated better for being male, and was afforded more privileges for being male can say, “I’m a woman teehee!” and all of that male privilege is just gone?

And how a female can be treated as lesser than and experience medical discrimination on the basis of her female sex, but they call themselves a man and woosh! All of the misogyny they’ve faced is gone!

“Erm well it is because trans women are women and trans men are men, so women are treated worse than men! Erm achshually this is feminism 101!”

But a woman isn’t treated horribly for saying she’s a woman. A woman is treated horribly because her sex is female. Trans men are female and therefore they experience misogyny. Trans women are male and don’t experience misogyny (unless you ‘count’ the misdirected misogyny when someone falsely assumes a TiM is a female, which is, as I said, misdirected and not an example of them actually experiencing misogyny).

So, if we’re comparing the oppression of trans men (TiFs) and trans women (TiMs)… I believe females are oppressed while males are not (on the basis of sex). So even if you’re still a TRA… it doesn’t make sense to deny reality and claim trans ‘women’ have it sooo much worse than trans ‘men’ because doing so would be denying sex-based oppression. And denying sex-based oppression is denying history.

Y’all get me?

Male and Female Sexualization are NOT Equally Bad

given the new popularity of games and other media such as Love and Deepspace and yaoi and stuff, i see many men going 'SEE! women are just as depraved as men are, now stop complaining about female sexualization in games!'

and oh my god you idiots. lets take some super typical examples from popular media. what differences can we see?

note how much male 'sexualization' (more of a power fantasy on men's part) focuses on musculature, on explicit strength, power, vigor and toughness. they don't even need to be showing any skin. all these are considered sexually attractive by men and women, as a result of our lovely culture. now for female sexualization, its mostly about the showing the (unnatural) curves and arches of their body, being coy and inviting, passive and alluring. women are a spectacle to be acted upon and men are the actors.

look at the filmography, angles and posing for each image, look at how sexy men are shown as relaxed, yet towering and active, and how sexy women are dressed skimpily, are coy and posing unnaturally to invite attention. this is the standard across genres, aimed at both men and women.

imagine if you opened a survival game you were greeted with a man in booty shorts and a ragged crop top, with his back arched, looking longingly at the the player. is it the same as a shirtless man with defined abs and a smoldering look? exactly, it is fucking NOT the same. men would consider it extremely humiliating to be sexualized the way women are sexualized. if its humiliating for a man to do, its humiliating for a woman to do, you're just used to women being humiliated.

take a moment and imagine if sexy women were almost only shown as dominant, active and physically strong, and sexy men as only meek, coy and passive. now imagine if these unnaturally posed meek, coy and passive sexualized male characters were absolutely everywhere, in games, tv shows and movies where it made no sense for them to be there. imagine if they were the only male characters present and you couldn't change their looks. if this held true for at least half of all sexualized characters in media, i would cede my position and admit that male and female sexualization are just as bad as each other. until then, shut the fuck up 😘

It doesn't matter how progressive a man is, the second a woman does something he doesn't like, he calls her a c*nt.

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