For Insecure Angels

“I’m a mess. That don’t rhyme with shit it’s just true.”

— Childish Gambino // L.E.S

“I’m numb and I’m tired. Too much has happened today. I feel as if I’d been out in a pounding rain for forty-eight hours without an umbrella or a coat. I’m soaked to the skin with emotion.”

— Ray Bradbury

“Waking up with your heart broken from the night before is probably the worse feeling I have ever experienced.”

-I dont wanna go on.

ADVICE FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT HAVING A GOOD DAY:

wait until it gets dark and make tea or coffee or hot chocolate, or if it’s too hot outside make yourself a healthy smoothie with your favorite things in it at any point during the day

put on your favorite underwear, it helps, trust me, it’s an old family secret (i’m not kidding)

if you have a pet, play the “how many things can i stick on you until you move or get mad” game (bonus points if they fall asleep, extra bonus points if a family member sees you and tells you to quit it, extra double ultra points if they join in)

rip a peice of paper into as many little pieces as you can

go to animeseason.com and click “random anime” until you see one that looks completely ridiculous (or actually good) and watch the first episode. repeat if it sucked or if you get bored halfway through

spend at least an hour making a music playlist for how you feel right now and save it for now or when you feel a bad mood rise again

curl up in bed and cover yourself with blankets and pillows and put in music and just lay there for a while (sleeping is also good)

eat everything

drink lots of water

it’s okay bad moods don’t last forever!!!!!! i promise!!! you will be yourself soon and there are people who love you very much, don’t be afraid to reach out to them

you are lovely

eat lots of bananas

“Of course I knew. But it was my mind that knew, and it was my heart that was making the decisions.”

— Poetry At Most

You are my person. You will always be my person.

Grey’s Anatomy (via ummpleasee)

“It’s okay to admit that he wasn’t half the man that you once thought he was. But that doesn’t make you wrong; it makes him wrong.”

— Poetry At Most

Abusive parents will sometimes straight up accuse you of abusing them. Suddenly, you not being ‘nice enough’ is abuse, or you yelling back at them, or calling them out, or refusing to see and talk to them, or being angry and upset at the shit they do to you.  Your every reaction or feeling that they don’t like can be called abuse, they will shamelessly play at your guilt and convince you that you, in fact, have the power to abuse them, and are doing so every second you’re not doing and feeling exactly as you’re told.

This is nonsense, because between parent and a child, parent holds all the power. Parent decided weather the kid eats and sleeps that night, they decide what the child can own and what resources they can have, parent decides where the child lives and in what conditions, weather the child is loved or exposed to pain and abuse constantly, they can take away anything from the kid and often give themselves rights to order the kid around, just what power does the kid have? To mildly annoy the parent. While risking being abused and yelled at. Some kids might risk publicly embarrassing parents but even that only in situations where they wouldn’t be tortured for it back at home. Children don’t have absolutely anything except their ability to react, to feel pain, to be angry at injustice, to listen to instincts when they suggest that the parent is harmful and not to be trusted.

Refusing to talk to your parent is not abuse. Wanting to keep distance, yelling at them for disrespecting and hurting you, is not abuse. Calling them out, not liking or loving them, refusing to do as you’re told, having your own feelings and reactions that parents don’t like, is not abuse. It’s being a human being, and naturally struggling with the fact that your family member, who is responsible for you, who can decide everything in your life, doesn’t love or care for you. It’s devastating and if you deal with that by yelling and wanting them out of your sight, you have the right to that much. You have the right to more.

You’d only be able to abuse your parent in a situation where you own their place, all of their stuff, have control over their finances, can kick them out on the street or control their living situation, and you’re physically stronger than them and don’t care how much you hurt them. The exact opposite of that is true, for the vast majority of children, and even adults. Only abusive parents ever accuse their children of abusing them. Any normal, decent parent would never try to pass such utter nonsense to make you feel as if you’re doing to them what they’re doing to you, to make you feel guilty and confused and more easily controlled by them. You’re guilty of nothing.

Even in the same town, the same house, the same bed- we were always going to be in different places.

Poetry At Most