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Dominant Power

A week or two ago I asked @cynicaldom for a spanking. He told me “good girl” and said some stuff about how it was so good of me to ask for what I needed/wanted.

Praise or positive feedback isn’t a rarity here, but I suppose I have a natural tendency to try to dismiss or downplay things in my head. There was something in the way that he expressed himself in this particular instance that has made the conversation really stick with me…I think I could just so easily see that he was proud of me so I couldn’t dismiss it.  

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Yesterday we worked on a soft limit and got really far. It’s something that I’ve always hoped to accomplish in kink, but at times, I wasn’t sure if I’d get there…but I have a couple of times now. And it feels really good (psychologically and physically, haha). 

I think these two things are connecting in my mind because early on, I think that deep down, I thought my greatest accomplishments in submission would be kinks. I thought succeeding physically would make me feel the most successful as a submissive. I am proud of the kink accomplishment, don’t get me wrong. It isn’t quite as deep, though. 

And honestly? I think if CD wasn’t passionate about encouraging me to use my voice and advocate for my needs in our relationship, and/or if he prioritized kink notably more…I think I would experience it that way, too. I think I only manage to “allow myself” to feel proud of advocating for my needs because I see that he genuinely wants me to speak up so I can help him take care of me. I’m able to find pride in myself because I feel it genuinely occurring in him, first. 

I hope that I’d protect myself by not submitting to someone who prioritized kinks and didn’t prioritize taking care of me…but when I think back to when we first started D/s, I’m not sure if I would have, if I’m really, really honest. 

He had already hung the moon in my life by that time…so if he had taken the power of being my Dominant and used it selfishly…I think I probably would have done my best to go along with that. I get why subs can end up in ugly situations when the person they love and respect uses their dominance in selfish ways. 

There can be a lot more power wrapped up in D/s relationships than what you specifically agree to submit to. When a sub has love and respect for their dom, it’s easy for their doms priorities and values to have a big impact on the sub. If something naturally makes the dom proud, or if a dom doesn’t care about something a sub does, that’s likely going to impact the sub regardless of whether you’ve specifically agreed to that being part of your D/s or not. 

Anyway. I mostly got lucky, but I’m really grateful that I have a Dom who has values that I believe in and prioritize me because I don’t have to choose between taking care of myself and submitting. They’re one and the same. 

@sccwriting

I want to saturate your brain with objectifying praise

I love the way your tits pop out of that swimsuit

Your lips look amazing with that cocksucker red lipstick

Doesn’t it seem like people are nicer to you when you wear those shorts that leave your ass hanging out?

I love the way people look at Me when you dress slutty like this

I can tell you love Me by the way you fight through the gagging when you suck Me

You mean so much to Me when you’re chained to the bed like this

Whipping you for breaking the rules really makes Me feel like our relationship is stronger than ever

I love how you never know what to think… you’re so cute when you feel stupid

Don’t you wish you were showing more cleavage?

Wouldn’t you feel more confident wearing something more revealing?

You’re not like other girls - you’re such a genuine whore. This is the real you. A slut. I love that so much about you.

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What does bdsm stand for/what is it?

BDSM

What is bdsm?

So what is bdsm?

The difference between bdsm and abuse

Bondage

What is bondage?

Bondage and Restraints 101

Rope bondage 101

Bondage for beginners

Discipline 

BDSM techniques

Discipline v. punishment

are they the same thing?

Discipline

Dominant/Dominance/Dom/Domming

Dominance 101

How to be a dom

How hard can it be?

Everything you could want to know about being dominant

Submissive/Submission/Sub/Subbing

Submissive 101

How to be submissive

Intro to subbing

So you want to be submissive?

Sadism/Sadist

Sexual Sadism

Sadism 101

Sadism in BDSM

Sadism 101

Masochism/Masochist

Sexual Masochism

Understanding Masochism

Processing Pain

The joys of being a masochist

Types of Dom/Sub Relationships

Types of relationships

Dom/Sub types

Different types

A quick beginner’s guide to subs

Is BDSM always sexual?

Asexual and kinky

Asexuality in BDSM

What is non sexual play?

Nonsexual dom/sub

Is the man always dominant and the female submissive?

Sexually Dominant Women and the Men who Desire them

Femdom idea guide

Appeal of a male sub

The good girl’s guide to female dominance

I’m a feminist and submissive. Is that wrong?

What it’s like being submissive and feminist

Why im sexually submissive and feminist

Feminist sex submissive

Being a feminist submissive

Can i be trans/do i have to be straight to be into bdsm? Heck no! bdsm does not discriminate the kink/fetish community is one of the most accepting communities. so go on and be yourself we wont hurt you (unless you want to be)

So what’s wrong with fifty shades of grey?

50 things wrong with 50 shades of grey

What’s wrong with fifty shades of grey?

The troubling list of things wrong with 50 shades of grey

7 realities of bdsm that 50 shades of grey ignores

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Sub drop/ Dom drop

Sub space, aftercare, and sub drop

Dom drop

The emotional side of sub drop

To dom space, dom drop, and beyond

Aftercare

Aftercare for dominants

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare for submissives

Signs of an abusive bdsm relationship

Can i be abused in a bdsm relationship?

Field guide to the creepy dom

Warning signs of a bad dom

Abusive subs

Places to meet people interested in bdsm

fetlife

bdsm dating sites

fester

bondage pal

Where to get toys

pleasure chest

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BDSM on a Budget

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Sex toys you can make at home

Budget BDSM

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Misc.

The paradox of dom/sub relationships

Advice to newbie subs on dominants

The relationship between a sadist and masocist

101 ways to make your slave/sub feel owned

Beginner’s guide to d/s

BDSM training academy *for both doms, subs, and switches

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