My Advice?

HELLO I JUST FOUND OUT YOU DIDNT NEED DISSOCIATIVE FUGUE (LIKE FULL BLACKOUT WAKING UP IN A DIFFERENT PLACE) TO HAVE DID??????

WHAT

Syscourse Damage

Got a big anonymous message from someone, and I think it has a lot of value! I'd like to make a post by it.

Shout out for those who have been hurt by syscourse, on any side. Those who feel they can't exist in this space without becoming an expert on who they are and every source they could ever provide. Those who have practice reading entire essays in Syscourse just to stay relevant. Those who have been traumatized and retraumatized again by syscourse.

It isn't fair, what systems have to go through in this space. Here are some tips for those struggling with finding a place or peace in this place.

Step away from syscourse. You deserve better than the arguments. Block those who bring it to you, and refuse to engage. You never need to.

If you choose to engage, know that it's not your duty to correct everything. You are just a person! You don't need to be an expert, or a psychologist, or a therapist, or anyone. It isn't your job!!

Recovery is elsewhere. You don't need to recover in syscourse spaces. Leave those spaces and take care of yourself.

Everyone has the potential to be an asshole. Moving past that is the key; acknowledge that there are spaces you may never want to be in again, but there can also be a space for you there as well. Recovery can come.

I don't have much more for today, but know that this space is safe, at least. I also recommend @syscourse-confessions as a good space to offer venting or ideas about syscourse anonymously. :)

Hey, I don't know if you remember me (I'm the one with suicidality), but I just wanted to let you know that it's not worth it. I've lived through it with you, and I just want to tell you one thing: living is worth it.

Please.

Is there any evidence beyond anecdotal that systems with ADHD/autistic systems are more likely to be "fictive-heavy" due to having special interests? I've seen that claim floating around tumblr as if its medical fact, and it feels very strangely infantilizing, as if having ADHD/autism makes one inherently more fantasy-prone. Have professionals even written about "fictive-heavy" systems? Most literature I've read mentions fictional introjects in general as, maybe, a footnote at best.

Anon, I feel like you're coming at this from the wrong angle. Being autistic or having ADHD does lend to hyperfixations, including fiction. This is not the same as being fantasy prone, nor does it negate the legitimacy of DID or introjects. MANY aspects of DID/OSDD are still underresearched. Lack of more documentation of fictives in professional literature does not make them any less real or prevalent.

As to whether this is more common in autistic/ADHD systems, I don't know for sure. It's not something I could prove to you with stats; though the logic and reasoning follows.

I don't think it is at ALL infantalizing to note that fictives seem more common in these systems due to hyperfixations on fiction/media. To say so would indicate that fictives in general have a negative connotation or are something to be looked down upon which is simply not true.

Input and discussion on any/all questions is encouraged.

I literally just saw a post of someone talking about how having specific symptoms made them more a singlet and not a full system, just because alters were silent for a while. That they didn't feel like they're a system because they were the only one fronting.

And like. Wow, who told you this? Who made you think that if alters aren't heard in the headspace, that you're not a system anymore?

You're still a system, you're a system regardless of your alters showing up and switching out.

Alters don't die, but they can go dormant. But dormancy is not alter death, they're just asleep. Splitting and fusing is not death either.

Alters are different states of consciousness. If they don't front it doesn't mean they're gone.

You are a system, you don't stop being a system. Even if you reach final fusion, it's possible that you'll split again. You are not a singlet or a partial singlet. Sometimes, alters just don't front because they don't need to.

nervous system? it sure is!

We really gotta realize on a large scale that the “brain is finished developing at 25″ is not just a misconception, it’s a deliberate lie that is being spread to attack young people, take their rights away and justify the abuse they are constantly targeted by as a feature of our society, not a bug. And to see queer people parrot this bullshit to win internet arguments with 16y/os while it’s being used to make hrt illegal for people under 25 is, and I don’t say this lightly, nazbols trying to pass as leftists levels of intellectual dishonesty.

protective sigil against police officers

It’s tough to widdle this one down into 4 panels, but I figured I’d write about this one as well. I think “Guessing who’s out” could be a comic in its own right really. 

I as a system do not expect people to always know who’s out! That’s not the point of this. 

In my experience (and this may vary for others), if you think there’s been a switch, making sure the one in the front is okay before delving into who’s out is priority. That way if something was a trigger, the alter fronting can be grounded before handling the topic.

Systems are always encouraged to add input.