I Struggle With Being Socially Anxious, Shy And Somewhat Awkward And I've Been Told Multiple Times The

— The Picture Of Dorian Gray, Oscar Wilde

may these memories break our fall

what the actual fuck is going on

𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭 "𝐈𝐓" 𝐆𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟐

It’s always been my dream to be viewed as a living goddess. When anyone encounters me, I want them to feel as though they have just come in contact with an ethereal being. Someone who is so uniquely feminine, elegant, skillful, kind, elegant, and charming. I want them to be captivated by my beauty and enraptured by my intellect. There is no spell that can accomplish this. Only dedicated and precise hard work. You have to be dedicated. You have to show up for yourself every day, even when you’re tired. Even when you’re sad. Even when you feel totally uninspired. Put in the work for what you want. Here is your guide.

𝐒𝐏𝐈𝐑𝐈𝐓

Start the day off by thanking God for all of your blessings that are tangible and intangible. Starting the day off with a grateful heart is step 1 to having a great day!

Literally, stay prayed up in everything you do. If something feels wrong (or even if something feels right) consult with God about it. Let Him be the governing force in your life. Lean more on his word than your own understanding. (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)

Read your Bible every day. Utilize the guidebook that helps you read the whole bible in one year. Utilize the S.O.A.P method to study and get a firm understanding of what God says and what he expects of us.

Read Christian literature by reputable authors. Books that will help you strengthen your faith, become a woman of God, who is secure in her faith and in herself. Books that will help you become a better servant and a kinder person. (For example: The Esther Anointing by Michelle McClain-Walters)

Supplement some of the entertainment you indulge in now with Christian music and podcasts (from reputable creators)

Attend church every Sunday and once schedule allows, attend Tuesday young adult ministry

Serve in the church in some capacity. Preferably in youth ministry, but wherever the help is needed.

Have a prayer network— friends who can call on one another whenever they need prayer (Matthew 18:20)

I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.

Audrey Hepburn (via quotemadness)

“One day it just clicks… You realise what is important and what isn’t, you learn to care less about what other people think of you and care more about what you think of yourself. You realise how far you have come and you remember thinking that things were such a mess they’d never recover and then you smile. You smile because you’re truly proud of the person you have fought to become.”

— Unknown

I wish everyone would admit that classic literature is inherently difficult to read, and that you shouldn’t feel stupid if you don’t “get it”. Especially the dark academia/ classic lit fandoms and stuff. Like unless you have the vocabulary and pop culture knowledge of an 18th century nobleman, it’s going to be a tough read. It’ll take you longer to read; you’re not stupid if you’ve spent several months on a single book! And you don’t have to enjoy everything. It’s okay if you got bored after one chapter of Wuthering Heights, and couldn’t be bothered to read the rest. It’s okay if you want to read your favourite kids book for the 10th time instead. You’re not stupid. No piece of literature is inherently better, more “important”, more “meaningful”, or more “intellectual” than another. First and foremost, read what brings you joy.

I am desperately romantic when life has given me no reason to be and that, I think, is the definition of hope.

c.r.w. (via my-writemind)

Ways to deal with anxiety or panic/anxiety attacks a guide by yours truly, Kleo

Breathing

This may sound weird but proper breathing can be super helpful. Sometimes we aren't breathing the way we are supposed to due to anxiety.

you can focus on whichever gif feels right for you :)

2. The grounding method

This is what usually helps with panic attacks but can also help with anxiety attacks :)

take a deep breath and look around the place you're in.

Then either write,say it aloud or just in your head

5 things you can see

4 things you can feel/touch

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste

It helps distract your brain but if it doesn't work try playing a game or talk with your friends/family

3. Safe place (it would help if you had someone read it to you the 1st time or put it on google translate and it can say it to you)

If you're home lay down on your bed, if you're somewhere else sit comfortably on chair and close your eyes. Imagine you're not here anymore, you're somewhere where you feel safe and secure. What do you see? There are animals around, they love you and they care about you, you mean a lot to them. What kind of animals are around? There is a form of water there. What form is it? You're at peace there, nothing can hurt you. You feel happier. Someone says hello. Who is it? The wind is calming and sweet. Your favourite smell lingers in the air and you know that you will be okay. Stay there as long as you need.

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I hope this helps :) drink water and stay safe everyone ily<33

dark academia aesthetic tips

what to wear:

turtlenecks, sweaters, and blazers

dark, muted tones. black, brown, emerald green, caramel, rust, dark red, and plaid

wire frame glasses

short neat fingernails

mid-length/long skirts

belts that match your shoes

knee high socks

what to do:

read literature and poetry. when you come across a word you don’t know, look it up and add it to your vocabulary

start the morning with a hot drink, like coffee, tea, or cocoa. preferably at a coffee shop you go to routinely

spend a lot of time at the library. become familiar with the hallways and shelves, and find a favorite spot.

keep lit candles in your apartment. steer away from floral scents!

become familiar with the local art museums. when hanging out with friends or a lover, you’ll find it romantic and timeless.

find a favorite author. familiarize yourself with their work and how they formulate their ideas. 

start a studyblr or studygram, something to inspire others.

connect with your classmates and professors. learn what they love to study, and look into it.

sit outside on a stone bench and read philosophy. discuss it with your friends during deep discussions at midnight.