This. This Right Here.

This. This right here.

My fam tries and has tried for a long time. Those that are affirming now were accepting immediately. Yet, they didn’t do *everything* right, so I didn’t believe it until it became hindsight.

as true as it is, there's more to the appeal of human domestication guide than "the fantasy for trans girls is to be loved unconditionally," it's that the affini can prove it. I'm certain there are people in my life who do love me unconditionally, but even then on some level it's hard to believe fully. it's impossible to prove a negative, "this person would love me no matter what" isn't something I could ever be comfortable testing anyway. "what if it isn't true?" a big part of being trans is having to justify your very existence even to well meaning people, and what happens when your justification falters?

and I think a big appeal to the affini that seems to be lost on a lot of people is how these stories tend to be from the perspective of "the person who is just about as against this as someone possibly could be." consider HDG proper, Elvira is against capture on a moral level for obvious reasons like "kidnapping is wrong" and "I deserve freedom," but she's also personally racist towards the concept of aliens. all of this forces the affini into a position where they can't just show "enough" kindness, to move from that position to one of love and trust, the affini are forced to show so much love and kindness that they prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that they really do care. they understand that behind every vicious word and lack of faith from their floret-to-be is a subtle hope that the world the affini promise is the real one. such a hope deserves nurturing at any cost; they deserve to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it is really true. by assuming the worst case scenario, the affini prove the negative.

that's the real trans girl fantasy at play here; to be at your worst and for someone to love you anyway, to not have to feel like you're hiding some layer of your identity deep down that would ruin everything if it came out. your mistress saw the very core of your being and yet here you are, still wrapped in her loving embrace. you bared your teeth and gnashed at every helping hand along the way, and yet she still says she loves you. she still shows you love and affection beyond what you could have ever imagined. why?

and then at some point you just have to accept that it's true.

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8 years ago

ok ok ok ok ok ok can I just have a quick lil moment of your time?

This shit.

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

So Hunchback is far and away my favorite movie from Disney’s Renaissance, and it always makes me so happy that yes, people seem to appreciate it, people seem to love it, but I’mma go into exactly WHY it’s my favorite, and WHY I think it’s so crucial, and WHY I think it should be required viewing for young boys specifically.

We all know that a huge bulk of the media we’ve grown up with consistently has that one frustrating message:  Being the hero means you’ll get the girl.  Many boys let this mentality bleed into reality.  We have “nice guys,” who feel that their niceness entitles them to romance, when obviously that discredits a female’s personal choice.  We all get this, we all know this, and a lot of us get that it’s a toxic message.

So check out our hero.

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

He’s an incredibly good person who isn’t conventionally attractive.

Check out our lady.

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

Super good person, conventionally attractive.

The movie so deliberately builds up Quasi’s hopes.  There’s a whole fucking song about it.

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

But Esmeralda, who is her own person with her own motivations and preferences, chooses another man, who is also good and also attractive.

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

A lot of people criticize this aspect of the movie, the fact that Quasi doesn’t get the girl BECAUSE of his appearance.  But my argument?  This is the best damn message a movie could ever send.

Because when things get dicey, when Esmeralda’s life in in danger, when Quasi would be putting his own life on the line, he knows that romance is no longer within the realm of possibility.  He knows he won’t be “getting the girl.”  He knows this, and he allows himself a moment of bitterness, he risks falling prey to the “nice guy” trope, and he almost succumbs.

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

“She already has her knight in shining armor, and it’s not me.”

BUT THEN HE DOES THE RIGHT THING.

He has NO ulterior motive for saving her life.  NO ulterior motive for opposing the man who raised him.  And he doesn’t know that he’ll get any reward, he knows he could straight up get killed for his actions, and yet he still acts.

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

And there’s no bitterness. There’s still so, so much love between him and Esmeralda, pure awesome platonic love, and love between him and Phoebus, and just fucking love all around, it’s amazing.

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

I’ve heard so many people express distaste at Quasi not ending up with Esmerelda.  Like he was cheated out of some kind of reward.  But have they watched the ending?

Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?
Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Ok Can I Just Have A Quick Lil Moment Of Your Time?

Does that look like a man cheated of his reward?  Does he look like he “lost” to Phoebus?  No dude, that’s a man who has everything he ever wanted, and that’s also a man who didn’t “get the girl.”

If that’s not an essential message for young boys to hear, I don’t know what is.


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8 months ago

…I have certainly made this face before and I hate it.

Joking with your friends about kinks is a lot of fun, but sometimes there's a magical moment where they pause for just a microsecond before making a face that's three parts disgust, one part shame, and one part arousal and you realize that you haven't stumbled across one of their kinks.

You've found a kink they're in denial about.

8 months ago

Thank u lovely fox

I will cast a spell to make you have a good day

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(。◕ ω ◕)。)つ━☆・*。

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It is done

1 year ago

The idea of the magic card "Swords to plowshares" is essentially that target creature rejects the way of the sword and becomes a farmer instead, hence you lose them as a combatant but gain the health from their farming.

This is really fuckin funny in conjunction with a lot of potential targets for that card. Can you just imagine you're an average farmer in an MTG plane, have a normal-ass day, and all of a sudden you look to the east, and stretching up past the clouds you see Ulamog, the despoiler, one of the infamous eldrazi titans, a creature that corrupts all that is good by its mere presence. And all the enormous bastard is doing is using their massive fuckin tendrils to plow the land and plant potatos, and tend to their flocks of eldrazi spawn, and then it turns its eyeless head thats the size of several cities at you and tips its wide brimmed straw hat at you and continues going about its work.

7 months ago
The Flannel
The Flannel
The Flannel
The Flannel

The Flannel

8 months ago

Amen; jeez.

Also why is Electrolysis so painful 😭

If shaving is the second most dysphoric thing to you behind having facial hair can I get a amen

5 days ago

My followers know I hate talking about politics and current events, and generally refuse to do so, but this is important.

A bill has been introduced in the US that would make all pornography a federal crime. Owning it. Creating it. Distributing it.

My Followers Know I Hate Talking About Politics And Current Events, And Generally Refuse To Do So, But

Under this law, fanart of nude characters would be a federal crime.

Under this law, depictions of homosexuality or simply being transgender, would be considered pornography and a federal crime.

This bill is not going to pass.

However, the reason for this bill is to continue to push the "overton window". The reason for this bill is to make banning pornography seem more and more normal to everyone until they can actually do that.

And remember, they consider depictions of gay characters and transgenders characters "pornography" in any context, including platonic.

They have been working on this for a decade now and it has been working.

If you are one of the people in fandom who thinks that "nasty" porn on AO3 should be banned because it's "icky" or "immoral", then this mental scam is working on you.

Censorship is never about protecting people.

Censorship is always about control.

Do not let the rising moral panic affect your mind and make you weak to propaganda that lets others control you and control what you watch and read.

Do not fall for the scam.

When they say they are going to ban "pornography" it means they're going to ban anything they don't like by calling it "pornography" and they don't like you!!

10 months ago

Dysphoria + Dysmorphia is certainly a fun time

Sometimes I look in the mirror and think “man I wanna kiss that goth girl” realize I mean me and then self deprecate.

10 years ago
akasketch - AKA, Sketch
8 months ago

SO true. Why can’t we just… live?

What I Wish Happened During My First Estrogen Dose

What I wish happened during my first estrogen dose


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