Worshipherforever - My Deviant Obsessions

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Subject: forums denial

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I'm not sure you should go this far because you are pretty new, so maybe just incorporate a bit of this into your playtime.

I've been a swinger and hotwife for 8 years and my husband is a stag type, so he doesn't like humiliation and also needs to reclaim me for things to be hot for us both.

I do get off on denial games though, and I love it when he begs, so this is my recipe for complete destruction. I only do this maybe once in every 4 or 5 playtime sessions though so it hurts and isn't fully expected. 

On these nights I like to flirt with whoever I'm playing with a lot, and I tell my husband he's going to suffer. 

When the sex starts I tell my husband he can't participate, jank play with himself, and must stay clothed or he gets nothing exciting at the end except a dead lay. I put on an extra good show and make sure he knows when I'm cumming and even exaggerate it. I try and milk my play partner for everything he has. As long as he can go and as many times as I can get out of him. My husband can't touch me until my play partner has left. 

I go bareback on these nights. My husband has that used and satisfied pussy fetish so many stags have. The more I cum and the bigger my play partner is the more ansty hell be so I act like the guy is huge even if he isn't, and after he has left I immediately tell my husband how much cum the guy had even if I barely felt it all. 

The [oint is to get him as needy as possible and think of me as stretched out, sopping wet with cum, and already fulfilled by so many orgasms that doing him is just a favor. 

I then tell him to look at what the guy did to my pussy. I lay back on the bed and spread my legs, if it starts running out I play with it and put it back in. 

I sometimes have him give me a foot massage with lotion while I play with it and tell him how good my fuck was. I tease him and talk of my cum filled pussy and how many orgasms I had. Exaggeration is part of this. 

I ask him if he wants to touch, I let him if he asks just right, and I then have him finger me. I tell him he can't do anything else or he's getting a dead lay. By dead lay I mean I lay there like nothing is happening and don't respond. 

If he gives me an orgasm I tell him he can eat me out while fingering me if he wants. 

I tease him more while he does this. Eventually, I tell him to make me cum. 

Sometimes I ask for another foot massage and let him wonder. 

Usually, I have him lie down and I stand above him. If I drip on his chest it is a plus but doesn't always happen. If it does I tell him to put it back in my pussy. 

I squat over his face and tease him more. I get him to beg for my pussy. I tell him to beg. If he begs well I fuck his face with my pussy while I fondle his cock. I know he wants s it sucked, but I don't give it right away. Eventually, I do, but I have to be careful because he has orgasmed at the first touch a couple of times. I blow tease while grinding. 

I'll eventually turn around and straddle him, but I don't let him fuck me straight up. I just rub my wet pussy on him and put the tip in. I sometimes make comments on how stretched I am, asking if he's sure he'd like it. I have to be careful at this point too because I've made him cum a few times doing this before penetration. I'd tell him to beg, but so far he always is at this point. 

When I finally give in I go down slow and then stop with him all the way in. I do that because otherwise, I'll at best get three strokes. I then stay like that and let him start moving. I ask how it feels, if I'm wet enough, that sort of thing. He usually gets control and wants me to start moving, but I make him do it for a while so that he gets frustrated. Once I see some frustration I get down to making sure he knows I love him and appreciate his patience by fucking him well. 

I'm not sure how the day-after situation is for you, but we have been at this a while so are really comfortable with what we are doing. If there are no issues day two is the best tease day. You have already reconnected and he's reclaimed you sexually so there shouldn't be any butthurt with extreme teasing on day two. 

This is my time to shine. I use every opportunity I can to talk about how well I got fucked the night before and how amazing it was. I mention my orgasms, his cock size, how much cum was involved, and how I'm sore, but still giddy from the great sex. I don't mention my husband's sex at all except how badly he wanted me and how I made him beg.

I tell him that if we fuck later I'll probably just be thanking of the guy last night.  I say I may just use my dildo though, the bigger one so it is more like the guy from the night before.  That type of thing. Sometimes I have him feel my panties if they are wet. Once I did just use my dildo and only let him eat me out afterward. I thought it was fun, but he was a little butt hurt on day 3 so I haven't done that again.  It is always about making sure you both get as much fun and enjoyment out of the experience as possible. The second you forget to make sure you both are getting something needed then it goes from a hobby that enhances your relationship to one that ruins it in the end. 

//reply:

For my husband, he gets off on me getting off. Seeing me climax is one of his ultimate thrills. Watching me take a new dick, preferably as he sits nearby, drives him wild with lust. Who am I to deny him that lust?

In the end, it’s all about our excitement; truly, it has brought us so much closer and our own intercourse has been taken to new heights.

Let’s swap!

“Help me understand...”

Here are three different ways of thinking about the hotwife idea. They’re short, sweet, and to the point, but I think they might be helpful. Even couples who are already active might like this, because frankly, our society gets pretty weird and short-tempered about anyone who isn’t “just like everyone else” (whatever that means). Explanations like this can help people calm down and maybe even understand a little bit. 

It’s kind of like a boudoir shoot. I can understand my husband getting aroused by seeing me feel sexy or pleasure myself. He’s aroused to think of me dressing up or playing with myself, but the thought of me “using” another man as my “sex toy” takes the arousal to a whole other level. It’s like a high-powered version of getting boudoir photos taken for him. I get turned on by turning him on, so it’s definitely about each other. Any other guy we involve is almost like the photographer, or even the props in a boudoir shoot–that guy is there to accentuate how sexy I am. The photographer or setting in a boudoir shoot might make me feel sexy, but I’m not going to stay at the studio forever or marry the photographer, because the whole point of the photo shoot is to do something sexy for my husband. In the end, I know I’m going to go home, and my husband is going to be revved up to see me, and all the attention will be on me, him, and us. That’s what hotwife sex is like too. 

Sometimes I think about what it’s like to have a threesome with my husband and another guy… For some reason it feels safe to have my husband there, and it’s hot to think of two men giving me attention at the same time. Even back when I thought threesomes were too edgy, at least I understood the idea of a threesome. In my husband’s mind, hotwifing is a lot like this kind of a threesome. Two men are having sex with me, and they both know what’s going on, and it’s meant to be safe and organized. The difference is that I might not have both guys physically at the same time. It might be in sequence, where my husband gets turned on watching me get ready, then I spend time with the other guy, and finally return to my husband to seal the deal with him. I can guarantee both men are thinking about me at the same time, revisiting or anticipating the erotic time spent with me. This kind of threesome is just spread out differently, so we call it something different. But thinking of it this way helps me understand why it’s appealing. It’s not that weird at all. Whether I want to actually do it or not is a whole other matter, but at least I get it.  

It’s about a whole lot more than sex. When I first met my husband, I had a lot of stereotypes about men, and he had a lot of stereotypes about women. I thought of men as rather straightforward, physical, intercourse-focused creatures. I’ve learned that my husband has an innate longing for communication, intimacy, and sharing all sorts of things uniquely with me. There are a lot of non-sexual ways to delve into communication and intimacy, and hotwife playing is just one of them. It gets us talking about our feelings, and about what makes us feel happy, insecure, hot, jealous, safe, or overwhelmed. It’s not the only way to dive deep into these things, but it makes this intimacy feel natural and important. We’re not longer just discussion our rational thoughts, but our imagination and feelings are right there, ready to be shared. It’s kind of sad that the only kind of sharing society focuses on is the sex with another man, when the longest-lasting and most powerful sharing takes place between me and my husband in our marriage.