I’m so sick of transandrophobia & enbyphobia istg.
I’m so sick of trans “advocates” leaving transmascs and nonbinary folks like myself out of conversations.
I’m so sick of us ONLY sometimes being brought up in convos when it’s about getting pregnant/the ability to get pregnant, or only being brought up as a “gotcha” in the bathroom debate. By “gotcha” I mean when people say “well, you don’t want transmascs in the women’s, do you?”
I’m sick of talks about abortion & birth control being solely centered around cisgender women when I’m directly affected, too. I’m sick of them being called “women’s rights” when they’re MY rights, too.
I’m sick of people speaking on my chest size like I can control it & I’m sick of transmasc bodies being mocked and policed.
I’m sick of being the first transmasc/nonbinary person most people have met.
I’m sick of the fear mongering around T.
I’m sick of the side effects of T being mocked or treated as “gross.”
I’m sick of being forced into the binary as a “confused trans man” & being told I don’t understand my own gender.
I’m sick of getting tips to “be more feminine” in my transition.
Shoutout to aromantic, transgender, intersex, and polyamorous people. Gotta be the some of the most underrepresented queer identities I've ever seen.
Trans and genderqueer joy forever
do u remember when the wider feminist position on gendered sport was that we should abolish it, and that women's accomplishments can be measured side by side (& indeed, neck and neck) with men's? what the fuck happened to that? (*whispering* i know what happened. it was the terf movement.)
do you actually care about trans men or do you relegate male pregnancy to the status of "gross but funny fanfiction trope" at best and "literal body horror" at worst? do you actually care about trans men or have you accepted without question the ideas that bottom growth is a borderline-torturously painful process and phalloplasty is a dangerous surgery with objectively unsatisfactory results because they confirm your implicit assumptions about the violence and horror of masculinization? do you actually care about trans men or do you think testosterone being a controlled substance is fair because you prioritize fairness in sports more highly than transmasculine lives? do you actually care about trans men or do you distance yourself from us as we transition and make half-joking comments about us being traitors because you view transmasculinity as a shift from ally to enemy? do you actually care about trans men or do you get mad at us when we read transmasculine experiences into female characters because you see it as an act of theft and believe transmasculinity is inherently less valuable than womanhood? do you actually care about trans men or is your first thought when you see a transition timeline about how pretty the "before" picture is? do you actually care about trans men or does your interest in our lives begin and end with how badly you want a boypussy to fuck?
do we exist to you as real people or only in theory? do you read the stories we tell, listen to the music we make? how many of us can you name? when we speak, do you listen? would you fight for us? do you trust us to know ourselves best? are you our friend? do you mourn us when we're gone? do you care for us while we're still here?
ao3… come home… please ao3
I know that Jess's current videos are cringe and for kids and have so so so many issues, but I personally think that the idea of the smp could be interesting if it was done right so heres my idea:
Much like mystreet, these characters are reincarnated, but this time into a video game and have to play and survive while also getting along and maybe recovering memories? Clearly, Aphmau is still connected to Irene, being gifted all these powers. But they're also being put in situations so often by what? Some higher power? They don't know if their day will be normal or not. They live in anxiety.
They don't know who they are. They have to find new niches and personalities to fill that void. Sometimes, they recognize the other "players" sometimes they don't. Pierce and Noi and Rhys don't know anyone but each other they try to become friends but they can't feel that connection.
Romance is especially difficult. Sometimes, they feel naturally drawn to each other, which is why K.C. and Zane always end up back together. They don't have anything other than that familiarity. Sometimes, they just use romance as a cope. Noi and Kim don't know each other, but they need to fill the holes with new memories . What better than a partner?
Ein's destructive tendencies and most "players" not liking him are remnants of what he did. He can't control the urges, so he acts on them (and maybe then they won't take over like the potion took over everyone else).
Not that any of them know, Zane has theories, and so does Kim, but what good are those if they can't prove it? There's different universes, and they know that. They also know that other "players" can be forced in and out of that world, but who is doing that? Whose in control?
Minecraft itself is already post-apocalyptic, and then Irene throws a bunch of "players" with memory loss into the world for what? Her own enjoyment? Why choose one of her vessels on top of that?
That's my yapping. I'm just full of ideas for the smp cause cocomau is just bad, but I have a deep love for the characters, and I have a feeling Jess is going to continue to add more characters especially from MID.
A trans man coming out as a man is never a loss.
I don’t care if he went into a male-dominated field. All fields are cis dominated.
I don’t care if he’s a straight man now. He should be allowed to be himself and happy. He does not owe it to you to be a miserable lesbian for your comfort.
I don’t care if you thought he was hotter before. His happiness is worth the price of your desire. Also you’re wrong and I’m giving him my number.
More trans men is a good thing. More trans men means more closeted trans men are feeling safe to come out. That’s a good thing.
i have been trying for like. months to explain how the relationship between butch lesbians and trans men is not something akin to polar opposites and this is all i got. like it's not like this:
it's a venn diagram with a massive overlap in the middle. i'm not saying EVERY butch is a trans guy and EVERY trans guy is a butch dyke , i'm just saying it looks more like this:
these are not "mutually exclusive" terms- they do not mean the same thing, but we can be the same people, an very often are. there is a long history of butches who identify as FTM, trans men, drag kings, genderqueer, genderfluid, transmasculine, male, polygender, and two-spirit lesbians, and so much more. the relationship between lesbianism and queer masculinity is inseparable and the only people telling you that butches and trans men need to violently separate from one another and be at each other's throats are terfs. even if we do not share identities, we share our struggle together as heavily misunderstood and unseen masculine queers.
we stand up for each other when our identities get confused by strangers, and we get misgendered. we stand up for each other when terfs and terfpilled people tell us that transmasculine people and men can't be lesbians, when people say "butches just want to be men", when people say "butches aren't real women", when people call each of us bull dykes and trannies, when people mock the way FTMs walk and talk and look, and when people tell trans men they're "just butch dykes in denial". we stand up for each other and understand each others struggles.
whenever a butch lesbian asserts they're a woman no matter how masc they are, whenever a trans man asserts that they are a man and not a butch, whenever a butch struggles to be seen as both a man and a lesbian, and whenever a trans man returns to the lesbian community while embracing their manhood, we are part of the same community, we share the same struggles, and we owe it to each other to stay strong.
we are not enemies. we are bedfellows, lovers, family, spouses, partners, husbands, wives, brothers, sisters, siblings, friends, each others support networks, even if we don't share identities perfectly. whether you are butch and a woman, butch and a man, butch and something else entirely, a male, ftm, genderfluid, polygender, genderqueer, transmasculine, nonbinary, two-spirit or whatever else you may be lesbian, you are part of our family and your experience is worth being heard.
can y’all just… like or reblog if y’all are polyam-safe blogs