The Awkward Moment When

People agreed that I should do that post, so here is your anti-Tony library:

- Tony hurting Sam for no reason.

- Tony hurting Sam for no reason part 2.

- A list of bad things Tony has already done.

- Tony was deffending the Accords. Now, this is what the Accords were about.

- Tony wasn't just trying to kill Bucky, he also didn't care if Steve died in the process.

- Tony didn't really care about his team mates

- Tonys motivations to want the accords (from his own mouth)

- Tony's rant in Endgame was peak bullshit

- Tony's rant in Endgame was peak bullshit part 2

- Tony isn't and will never be a good father figure to Peter

- Tony loves to use other people's trauma as a joke

- Tony loves to use other people's trauma as a joke part 2

- Tony loves to use other people's trauma as a joke part 3

- Tony loves to use other people's trauma as a joke part 4

- Tony was the one to start the airport fighr and his team had 0 comunication

- Tony called a child "pussy"

- Tony didn't offer a compromise in CW as some people think

- If Tony and Steve were in a relationship, it would be abusive with Tony as the abuser

The "Main" Characters of the Generations Tend to be...a bit unsavory?

I was talking to my friend the other day about ‘Skins.“ She was talking about how the show is an ensemble show with an emphasis on one character on particular that acts as the face of the generation. Many people argue whether or not Franky was the face of Generation 3; however, she was suppose to be so for this post I am considering her as the face. Anyway, she brought up the fact that it seemed to her that the face of all the generations tends to be the characters who might not be the most likable. They are not usually the ones you think to yourself "oh, man I want to be her friend." 

This intrigued me. So I wanted to do some digging about the three faces of all the generations: Tony Stonem, Effy Stonem, and Franky Fitzgerald. 

Tony Stonem: Is someone who has sociopathic tendencies and a definite case of narcissistic personality disorder (apparently not recognized as a disorder–but he has it.) He manipulates people out of boredom to see what happens. He treats people as if they are pawns in his game disregarding their autonomy and their feelings. He uses sex as a symbol of his power over others. 

However, by the end of the series due to massive head trauma and his recovery. Tony becomes a more thoughtful person and learns to allow himself to show his feelings a bit more than he use to. He becomes more human and humbled by his situation. Though he does crave for that power and that passion again. 

Effy Stonem: Definitely has some sort of personality disorder. Psychotic Depression or Bi-Polar Disorder. She was selectively mute in the beginning and lived a double life. She does not understand the point of emotions and feels as if they get in the way. She plays games and uses people like Tony only sometimes she uses her powers to fix situations. Still she is quite secretive and is capable of using people’s weaknesses against them due to the fact she is quite perceptive.

By the end of the series she gets the help she needs and is on her way to recovery. She allowed herself to fall in love and even broadened group of friends to include several different personalities. She is also shown being more affectionate.

Franky Fitzgerald: She has extreme abandonment and intimacy issues. Which gives her that crazy pulling people told her and pushing people away at the same time vibe. She does not understand what love is and finds it quite baffling. In the beginning she did not have a real sense of self or identity. She is prone to run away from problems and accidentally hurt people as she runs and self-destructs.

At the end of the series Franky confronts her past and stops stringing along several of the other characters along her path of destruction. She is shown to have good intentions but she simply does not know how to love or what love is. However she desperately wants to find out.

All Three: Every one of the main faces of the series has issues with emotions especially love. Tony sees love in the beginning as a weakness. Refusing to declare his love for Michelle in fear that she will hold the power in the relationship. Seeing it as a sign of weakness. Effy sees love as something that is suffocating and that it actually crushes you by the intensity of it. Love tipped her over the edge psychological she did not know how to cope with the powerless feeling love gave her. Franky simply does not know what it means to love or to be loved unconditionally. She feels it with her adoptive fathers but she can’t comprehend or accept it after being denied it for so long. 

The main faces of the show are three people who have issues with emotions and have deep seeded psychological issues. They push many of the plot points forward with their issues and the things they must learn. They are the…destroyers. Some may be more easier to love than others, but all of them hurt people some meaning it and some on accident. THE BRINGERS OF DRAMA! 

the kissing booth is abusive and terrible; an angry rant

Okay. So basically, Noah is first introduced to us as this character like three times the size of Elle, and this character that his brother (Elle's best friend, Lee) thinks should not date Elle, raising a red flag. Lee wants what's best for Elle. And it's clear that Noah isn't that. But if we put that aside and we fast-forward to school, Tuppen sexually assaults her because she is wearing a skirt that is deemed too short in the eyes of the school. Then Lee tries and fails to protect her, and Noah goes psycho, beating Tuppen to a pulp. And of course, like always, the victim gets detention, so when Noah and Elle are waiting outside, he victim blames her, by saying, "Wearing a skirt like that is asking for it." I already didn't like Noah, but now I hate him. Telling somebody who was sexually assaulted that it was their fault because they were 'asking for it' by wearing clothes they were? That's a new level of low, and we're only about twenty minutes in! If that. Anyway, Elle goes on a date with Tuppen, and Noah is jealous. He stands her up (predictable) then explains that Noah has been meddling in her social life, and is the reason she has no prior dating experience, so she doesn't know what a healthy relationship is: the only people she's engaged in an even slightly romantic act with is a sexual assaulter and abusive, toxic man. But if we put all that aside, Elle is angry. So she calls Noah, and these are the words exchanged during the call:

Elle: You do realize that you're not my dad, right?

Noah: Look, you still got a lot to learn, kiddo.

Elle: Kiddo? Oh, my God. Oh, if you were here, I would beat you with my shoe.

Noah: Tuppen is a player.

Elle: So are you

Noah: And that's why I know he's wrong for you. You're gonna thank me one day.

Elle: Okay. Well, today is not that day. It is not your job to monitor my dating life. Do you understand me? The days of you controlling my life are over!

Noah: We'll see about that.

So Noah, creepy as he is, insists on continuing to manipulate and meddle with her life. He is trying to control her life. At that point, even he is warning her. Tuppen was a sexual assaulter, aka a piece of scum. And Noah? He compares himself to Tuppen. That should say something. Numerous red flags are up, but Elle is closing her eyes. Although that's not on her. She's the victim here, in this situation. I may not like Elle, but this stuff should not be happening. Anyway, let's put all that aside, yeah, and move on.

Elle and Lee suggest their idea for the fundraiser, a Kissing Booth (shocker) and of course, they need all the 'hot guys.' Convenient, because Love Interest Number 1 is a 'hot guy' when he's a toxic, abusive douchebag. Okay. I actually don't understand this point - are girls the main aim for this booth? (majority of people are straight in this world, but of course we have the gay tokens for diversity who have zero affect on the plot in the second movie) Because they aren't preoccupied with hot girls. Also, why are the girls presented as the objects to be kissed? No boys there? Doesn't matter, I guess. It's just an abusive relationship, in a plot that barely took two seconds to think out where like every character is an asshole. But I'm not judging that. After school, Noah tries to get Elle to come home with him on his motorbike. Of course, Elle refuses, yet he persists when she says no, because of course, Noah's reputation as a player. And I'm not surprised, you go Elle. He drops every girl. But, I mean, Elle is 'not like other girls.' Elle runs home, and she asks people to do the booth. Surprise, surprise, they say no to kinda selling themselves...and not getting anything from it except maybe herpes.  

Okay. So, after that party I don't feel like talking about, because you know they used the same scene for every high school romcom, and the OMG's, aka the rip off mean girls, invite her over to get her intoxicated, and Elle is totally drunk. Elle asks Noah for the booth, girls he's making out with is mad, Elle gets rejected. There are a few partying scenes, and then Elle strips her clothes off leaving her underwear and dances. Lee, for some reason just watches her (see what I meant about assholes) and then Noah with all his chivalry takes her up into her room, dresses her in his clothes and then she wakes up presumably thinking they slept together, which of course, they didn't - but I wouldn't be surprised with Noah taking advantage of her intoxicated state and r*ping her, because when you're drunk, you can never consent. But the fact she suspected he might have r*ped her means she knows some degree of his toxicity, yet she is somehow still blind to it. Anyways, they had an 'accidental groping' session, and Elle is out and about again. Anyway, Elle lies about Noah liking one of the OMG's so they'll do the booth, and now she's got to convince Noah to do it, because the OMG'S (which he most definitely does not like) are waiting for him at the booth, and he's the main attraction for whoever's at the booth. Noah tries to order Elle around again, and she asks him about the booth again. (Clearly, neither of them can take a hint) and he refuses. 

It's time for the booth now. I'm going to skip out on the beginning, but the OMG's push Elle out onto the stage and Noah comes up and kisses her, and thats something else I don't like: no matter who it was, if it was her boyfriend of a year of someone in her Physics Class, it was clearly not consensual. But the kiss happened, and since it was Noah, Elle enjoyed it, but Noah let her down, telling her it was 'just a kiss' manipulating her feelings, and now she's in this great dilemma, because Lee had been warning her all along with that friendship rule he insisted on. But let's skip a few minutes, after she tells Lee repeating what Noah said, where we're at the bit where Noah confesses his love with the classic fanfiction response, (I mean, this is WattPad, so...) 'You aren't like other girls, you didn't "fall at my feet" I love you you're so sweet!' Etc, etc.  

So, to show his love for her, he takes her to a hookup spot where he takes all of his conquests. Perfect. That fanfiction thing is probably something he tells every girl, because Elle is clearly like the rest of the girls he's engaged in activities with.

Beach party. Warren tries to get a drunk Elle to skinny dip, and Noah jumps in, after an insult, punches Warren in the face and Elle runs off. When Elle is walking home, Noah screams and yells at her to "Just get in the car, Elle. Just get in the car, Elle. GET IN THE CAR, ELLE!" And with much violence, he punches his car in anger and frustration and toxicity and abuse (more controlling, great) Elle is scared (because it was clear that directed to her, Noah was yelling at her and he wanted to hit her) and she gets in. They go to the Hollywood sign (which they cannot go to, because I'm pretty sure you need to pay to go, like, as a tourist, but they filmed it in Africa so I'm sure they know jack shit about how the US works) and etc etc. 

They start a relationship made up of sex and hiding. Sex and hiding includes a lot of these things, and not what a relationship should contain. What I don't like is that they think it's this huge secret that needs to be kept, it's not like they'll be discriminated against. 

Lee is their only worry.

When Elle gets hurt and Noah is there, Lee immediately assumes he hit her. Why? Because he's lived with his brother...his whole life. He knows Noah like she back of his hand. He knows Noah is abusive. So when Elle's hurt, the only logical thing is to assume Noah did it. And what does that tell us if Noah's own brother assumes he abused her? And Noah's only response to being accused of violence is to...get violent. (Thank you, Cynical Reviews! You should watch him on YouTube. He's great. Especially his review of The Kissing Booth.) 

After this, Lee finds out about their relationship, blah blah blah who cares. Except for the fact Lee is still angry: at Noah, not because Elle lied, but because he is sure how this is going to go, because he's experienced it from the sidelines - random girls he's barely known getting abused and having their hearts broken. And he doesn't want the next casualty to be Elle. Of course, like, no one supports them, because they know what happens every time Noah brings a girl home - or something of the sort.

Elle tells Lee to support them, she gets back with Noah and Noah...leaves.

A set up for a sequel which whenever I have time, will be analysed, because it is seriously abusive and toxic. None of these things were done out of 'love.' Love is a word used too carelessly in film. This, at the closest, is lust. And it is unhealthy, controlling, toxic and abusive.

So there's my argument!

I just got reminded of the line (referring to Gwen) “she was my MJ” from No Way Home. as if MJ is a role to fill and not, y’know, a whole ass person

Marvel “treat women as more than replaceable love interests” challenge: failed

i truly don’t understand how mentally brain dead you are.

that video was fake

jamie said she was never groomed and she wants you people to shut the fuck up and stop dragging her name through the mud

she was 17 and dream was 19

Im sorry you can call me obsessed or whatever for not shutting up about dream but jesus christ he is DISGUSTING.

Moaning over a SIXTEEN YEAR OLD GIRL.

COMMENTING ON HER BOOBS.

SAYING YOU WANT TO “FILL HER UP”?

He was TWENTY. She was SIXTEEN.

DREAM IS A FUCKING FREAK.

I feel so, so fucking horrible for this girl and any other victims of dream, and any victim of grooming / child predators in general.

Dream is absolutely fucking disgusting and so are you if you defend him.

I truly do not understand how anybody can support or defend him anymore.

Snape haters: How do people even like Snape?

Also Snape:

“Yes, it is easy to see that nearly six years of magical education have not been wasted on you, Potter. Ghosts are transparent.”

*****

“Would you like me to do it now?” asked Snape, his voice heavy with irony. “Or would you like a few moments to compose an epitaph?”

*****

“I was just showing Harry my grindylow,” said Lupin pleasantly, pointing at the tank.

“Fascinating,” said Snape, without looking at it.

*****

As Harry raised himself into a sitting position, his head still swimming from its last contact with the ground, he saw Snape running as hard as he could, the enormous beast [Buckbeak] flapping behind him and screeching as Harry had never heard him screech —

. . . Snape had managed to Disapparate just beyond the school’s boundaries.

*****

Snape gave her [Umbridge] an ironic bow and turned to leave.

*****

“The mind is a complex and many-layered thing, Potter — or at least, most minds are.” He smirked.

*****

“Potter, when I want nonsense shouted at me I shall give you a Babbling Beverage. And Crabbe, loosen your hold a little, if Longbottom suffocates it will mean a lot of tedious paperwork, and I am afraid I shall have to mention it on your reference if ever you apply for a job.”

did dream underpay and rush the animators of his "mask" music video?

short answer: no, quite the opposite actually

long answer: after seeing that post make its rounds yesterday, i posted on reddit detailing my attempt to get in contact with the production lead, phyre, to have her fact-check the screenshots from that post. we talked, she answered all my questions and pretty much debunked the claim that they're only being given "$250 total" for their work. case closed.

and then dream himself came swinging from behind with a proverbial metal folding chair :P

he left an essay in the comments of my post, complete with citations! for those of you unfamiliar with reddit, here is his post + the screenshots of his discord convos that he linked

the narrative that dream is taking advantage of his young fans and exploiting them for cheap/free labor is false, and in fact, he paid them 3x the final amount. once the original deadline was missed, he didn't rush them further and gave them extra time. this can all be corroborated by phyre herself on twitter.

that "jack manifold is the best ally because he's not afraid of gay people" post hits different after ranboo got cancelled because he mentioned the joke that Fans made about him dressing like a lesbian, and tommy getting cancelled because he said he understands lesbians (because he also likes women you see), and finding out that the "was hitler a lesbian?" joke technoblade has been cancelled for a solid 4 months in a row for was in response to a skull thought to be hitler's turning out to be a woman's, and tubbo getting cancelled for accidentally writing "happy ptide," and techno getting cancelled Again for helping to raise hundreds of thousands of dollars for the trevor project without apologizing to twitter first and-

maybe cc's would be less afraid of talking about gay people if people didn't act like That

The Telegraph

How male victims of domestic abuse often end up getting arrested themselves

Research suggests male victims of domestic abuse are failing to report attacks for fear of being arrested themselves

By: Martin Evans

Published: Jan 14, 2016

Male victims of domestic abuse are reluctant to report attacks because they are often subjected to false accusations themselves, according to new research.

More than 700,000 men each year are thought to fall victim to violent attacks at the hands of their partners, but many are too ashamed to report the offences.

It was thought much of the underreporting was due to men feeling embarrassed by the stigma of being a domestic violence victim.

But new research has suggested that many of those who do come forward risk being arrested themselves, after their abusers make false accusations against them.

Dr Jessica McCarrick, a Senior Lecturer in Counselling Psychology at Teesside University, who carried out a study with male abuse victims, said they were often treated with suspicion by the criminal justice system.

She said their experiences were not only dismissed by some police officers, but they could even find themselves under arrest when their partners turned the tables on them.

Dr McCarrick said: “Men find it incredibly difficult to talk about their experiences of domestic violence because of the shame and emasculation they feel is associated with it.

“To find the courage to speak out, only to be accused of violence themselves, is incredibly disheartening and ultimately prevents countless men from reporting intimate partner violence.”

Abuse charities also claim they are finding an increasing number of male victims coming to them to seek advice after becoming the subject false accusations.

Mark Brooks, chairman of the Mankind Initiative charity, which takes calls from around 1,000 men per year, said: “Over the past ten years we have seen a steady increase in the number of callers to our helpline stating they have been the victims of false allegations.

“The type of thing we hear is ‘my wife or girlfriend has said if I leave, or tell anyone, she will say I was the one attacking her and she was just defending herself.”

“It is an extremely powerful weapon in the armoury of the perpetrator and leaves the victim feeling trapped and helpless.”

Police forces insist they are making great strides in tackling the problem with the number of women convicted of domestic abuse quadrupling in the last decade from 806 in 2004/05 to 3,735 in 2013/14.

But the problem remains still largely hidden and campaigners insisting much more needs to be done to encourage victims to come forward and have the confidence to report an offence.

One male victim who took part in the study, but did not want to be named described how he had been arrested on three separate occasions following false allegations by his wife.

He said: “In the latest incident I made the initial complaint to police as my wife assaulted me. But when they arrived, they showed little concern and instead arrested me because my wife made a counter allegation.

“I certainly feel that more compassion and empathy needs to be shown towards male victims of domestic violence.”

Dr McCarrick, said his account was not uncommon adding: “Within my research, the predominant experience is of men being arrested under false charges and their disclosures of being the victim are not taken seriously, despite having evidence.”

She said domestic abuse must be viewed as a human issue rather than a gender issue with more services and support available to enable men to seek help and support.

She added: “Campaigners and researchers made waves in the 1970’s, which had a positive impact and improved service provision for women – it is time to do the same for men.”

“Promoting awareness of the plight of male survivors may encourage men to report abuse and feel assured that they will be taken seriously.

“Intimate partner violence is an issue which affects men and women within both heterosexual and homosexual relationships and I would like to see increased funding to improve service provision and development in order to support all people affected by this issue.”

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https://sci-hub.hkvisa.net/10.1891/1946-6560.1.3.332

Rather than self-defense, the most usual motivations for violence by women, like the motivations of men, are coercion, anger, and punishing misbehavior by their partner (Cascardi & Vivian, 1995; Fiebert & Gonzalez, 1997; Kernsmith, 2005). For example, Pearson (1997) reports that 90% of the women she studied assaulted their partner because they were furious, jealous, or frustrated and not because they tried to defend themselves. These motives are parallel to the motivations of men perpetrators.

Very much not my normal posting but since antisemitism is very actively rising, I feel like it's worth it:

Pinely is a Youtuber who's been doing a series on conspiracy theories and antisemitism. He's Jewish himself and his videos do a good job at exploring how people fall down antisemitic rabbit holes and how conspiracy theories relate to antisemitism (he's one of the only people ive seen who, when talking about shane dawson, specifically called out how antisemitism tied in to his shilling of conspiracy theories to kids). He's also just very funny (in my opinion) and a Jewish, non-white, non-American commentary channel, which is rare and refreshing. If you want to learn more about antisemitism, his videos might be something to check out. I rarely ever see people call out antisemitism specifically in commentary videos even when they call out racism, misogyny, etc., which makes watching someone tackle antisemitism so head on very nice.