Timetobetraumatised - TimeToBeTraumatised

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hey you

I’m proud of you for making it through the day, no matter how hard it’s been

tbh i think the funniest phenomena that's been happening in the last couple years is "youtuber, having gone too deep into the research hole, has been made an investigative journalist against their will"

‘…and there are many paths to tread.’

Some hand-lettering from 2021. 

This is my favorite ever description of Tolkien.

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

 West Toledo Branch Library

March 28th 1929  the West side of Toledo receives a charming public library

to get sources of materials for education and entertainment. 

The west Branch library sits off of Sylvania Ave in its cobblestone like brick 

and its charming design which Gerow and Conklin architectural firm was 

responsible for. 

The West Branch Location was such a beloved library that the neighborhood was eventually named Library Village. 

 Making the West Toledo branch thriving for over a 160 years to date.

The library eventually took on a remodel and expansion in 2001 and again closed the location for a year in 2013 for another expansion, this final expansion was completed by 2014 and this is the library you will see today. 

On the west wall sits a large fireplace,  The fireplace still stands even amongst the construction, In time we will soon learn there has been some unfamiliar activity in this particular area of the library.

Claims that were made said that their ticks bumps and odd sounds that come from this particular location in the library, and after talking with one of the locals who was in for a visit had mentioned they feel a bit uneasy when they sit in the area by the fireplace.  

The building is again nearing 160+ years old, 

Could it just be the aging of the building causing the odd noises or is something attached paranormal to this spot? 

Another claim which has been described as a ghost sighting.

A older gentleman was said to be seen walking through the library, the claims did not state which particular spot in the library the apparition was seen. 

It was just documented their was a sighting of a apperachian with a detail description of the entety 

The ghost-like figure was said to be in the form of a male who was dressed in the attire of 1930/1940s. 

 he was a librarian still lingering to offer help or maybe he was just a beloved patron of the library and felt the need to stay, 

Unfortunately this was the only sighting and claims I could find. 

I did Stop in the West Toledo branch library to see if I could hear or get a glimpse of either claims that were reported, unfortunately I did not experience any paranormal activity.

 I did enjoy the library and the staff was upbeat and more than happy to assist in anything needed. 

I recommend that you stop in and check out some items or just browse the place and its beautiful architecture. 

Maybe you will be lucky enough to get a glimpse or sound of the library hauntings.

Reblog for larger sample size whatever

Hanging out with old people rules because after a while they trust you enough to confess to murder totally unprompted

criminal profiling is just astrology for cops

Gentle reminder that the human eye is naturally drawn by noise and movement, so the next time you walk into a crowd or a bit late into a lecture or something like that, they’re not staring at you or judging; it’s just an instinctive reaction that has nothing to do with you doing anything wrong.