for some reason people in activism see masc and just toss someone into the “male oppressor” category and then tell them to shut up and be another body in the background but never to be seen as a person involved fully.
Also happens to butch lesbians sometimes too when they show up presenting fairly masc they get treated like shit or yelled at until they show they are women at pro women protests.
I spend more time on Reddit than Tumblr, and I feel like while the topic of transandrophobia is discussed less on Reddit, it definitely also faces a lot less backlash.
Over the past few days, I’ve seen multiple posts in the transmasc sub talking about transandrophobia both within and outside of the queer community (though they didn’t use that term). I‘m glad to see that it‘s even being discussed, but at the same time, I get really sad reading the comments and seeing all the horrible experiences transmascs have to deal with.
The most upvoted comment was from someone who said trans men were specifically asked not to speak at their local trans rights protest. When this person spoke out about this, they were told that trans men need to learn when to “shut the fuck up.” They were trying to speak as a representative of a local disability group, so they ended up without any representation, which makes it even more frustrating.
Idek, I‘m just tired.
Israel bombed a UN food convoy multiple times despite being told it was food aid and no weapons
They stopped a Red Cross mission and interrogated the workers despite them being the fuckin Red Cross
You realize this is shit even Russia won’t do right? Israel is so bad about humanitarian issues they shoot at the red fuckin cross my dude. You really think they allow anyone else in?
Mini fuckin orcs who bomb hospitals and rape women and children more than the ruskies and you act like they are innocent little beans who “din do nuffin” bro stop with the cuckery for the gov there they won’t fuck you cause you aren’t a Palestinian women or child in one of their gulags
Yael Bar Tur
Who has cut off Gaza from the rest of the world and made it impossible for them to build power plants under the excuse that they would use them to “be terrorists” in Israel …..
Yael Bar Tur
Why did someone send me this and claim it was proof women’s rights were under attack?
Yeah women aren’t the only caregiver and often due to socialization they push males out of parenting roles and often undermine males in these situations.
It’s actually part of the whole “women have historically been the child raisers” narrative. As a society women see themselves as the only ones who know how to raise kids and we even specifically use women as symbols of good parents despite men being statistically just as good at parenting.
You aren’t being attacked by this and if you see this as an attack you are a brainwashed idiot who thinks women’s only role is a walking womb who is meant to push out spawn and then raise them while the rock person you are married too go and dies in a war or something.
The Crucial Role of Fathers in Child Development and Overcoming Maternal Gatekeeping
As a psychotherapist, I've observed firsthand how deeply impactful a father's role is in a child's emotional, psychological, and behavioral development. Current research underscores the importance of paternal involvement, highlighting the structured, authoritative approach fathers commonly adopt, characterized by clear expectations, discipline, and consistent guidance. These aspects of fatherhood foster independence, emotional resilience, and social competence in children (Frontiers in Psychology, 2022).
Why Fathers are Essential
Fathers uniquely contribute to children's growth through structured play and consistent discipline, significantly influencing children's emotional regulation, academic performance, and social interactions. Research shows that children with engaged fathers exhibit improved cognitive development, better behavioral outcomes, and enhanced emotional stability. Conversely, the absence of a father correlates strongly with increased risks for mood disorders, behavioral problems, and difficulties with emotional regulation (PMC, 2023).
Understanding Toxic Maternal Gatekeeping
While mothers often excel at nurturing, some behaviors, especially maternal gatekeeping, can inadvertently hinder a father's involvement. Maternal gatekeeping refers to behaviors where a mother may limit or restrict the father's access to the child, often through criticism, control, or undermining his parenting efforts. This behavior frequently stems from unresolved attachment issues, emotional insecurity, or distrust, particularly among mothers who themselves lacked a father figure in their upbringing (PMC, 2016).
Maternal gatekeeping not only undermines paternal engagement but can perpetuate generational cycles of absenteeism. Women raised without fathers are more likely to experience similar patterns in their own families, leading to ongoing familial dysfunction and emotional instability (Fatherhood.org, 2023).
Economic and Emotional Challenges in Father-Absent Households
Families without an actively involved father, particularly single-mother households, commonly experience economic hardships, increased stress, and limited social support. These stressors can negatively impact children's psychological and emotional well-being, highlighting the need for paternal presence to provide stability and structure. In contrast, single-father households typically report higher incomes and better resource accessibility, underscoring the socio-economic advantages of paternal involvement (Pew Research Center, 2013).
Strategies for Overcoming Maternal Gatekeeping
Fathers facing toxic maternal gatekeeping can employ several effective strategies:
Open Communication: Initiate respectful, non-confrontational discussions focused on the child's best interests.
Clearly Defined Roles: Establish written agreements outlining parental responsibilities and visitation.
Legal Support: Consult legal professionals early and document interactions meticulously.
Mediation and Therapy: Engage in mediation or family counseling to facilitate healthy co-parenting communication.
Parenting Education: Participate in parenting workshops to strengthen parenting skills and demonstrate commitment.
Child-Centric Approach: Prioritize the child's emotional health and consistently avoid negative speech about the other parent.
Strong Emotional Connections: Maximize quality time to build trust and strengthen bonds with the child.
Professional Support: Utilize individual and child-focused counseling to navigate emotional challenges and familial tensions.
Conclusion
As a psychotherapist, I've witnessed the transformative impact that involved fathers can have on their children's lives. Addressing and overcoming maternal gatekeeping behaviors is critical for fostering healthier family environments. By advocating for structured paternal involvement, supporting co-parenting strategies, and understanding the root causes of gatekeeping, we can significantly improve children's developmental outcomes, ensuring emotional, social, and psychological health for generations to come.
References
Frontiers in Psychology (2022). "The Role of Fathers in Child Development." https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.772023/full
PMC (2023). "Psychological Effects of Father Absence." https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5648344
PMC (2016). "Maternal Gatekeeping and Father Involvement." https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4922533
Fatherhood.org (2023). "Father Absence and Intergenerational Patterns." https://www.fatherhood.org/father-absence-statistic
Pew Research Center (2013). "The Rise of Single Fathers." https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/07/02/the-rise-of-single-fathers
Source: Toxic moms vs Good Fathers
Dusty or a dry ice spill
I’ve seen this a few times and the dry ice is the worst cause it will burn your skin if you touch it
By this “logic” I hate all white people cause I don’t like white supremacists …
Zionists don’t even have to be Jews. There are non Jews who are Zionists and there Jews who hate Zionism. So lost in the hate you can’t see the stupid
Trump apparently sent out documents asking if certain professors were “Jewish” and then demanding to know if there were any anti semitism they wanted to tell the gov.
Any Jewish person who sees that and doesn’t instantly realize how dangerous and insane this is… fucking forgot something very important
You will be used as a scapegoat for all the bs trump is doing eventually. Don’t comply and speak out cause shit is gonna get bad here for everyone not just “Hamas supporting Antifa super soldiers trans agenda socialist ideology” whatevers. Don’t fall for this propaganda Zionist bs they have been pushing cause they don’t give a fuck about your ass anymore than they care about the gays or other brown people around.
Studying up on partisan and resistance movements through history and a pattern emerges. They don’t win through direct combat which appears to be the right wing militia play given their tactics and training but through subterfuge and “bug bites”. Which appears to be the leftist militants idea. That and saying uwu a lot when interviewed (which I feel is a key tactic in such struggles)
Hit a fuel depot and run away as opposed to standing in a field and hoping tanks don’t run you over while the crew makes a joke about spam and jam
Having recently decided to purchase a firearm for target shooting, home defense and maybe hunting at some point it’s hilariously easy
A five minute background check and zero documents outside a drivers license which btw any halfway decent forger can make in an afternoon
Also I live in a state that doesn’t require CC permits to carry a pistol
So I could get a fake ID, pass a background check and be able to walk around with a gun legally speaking tomorrow if wanted
THE WEEK February 21, 2025
We need to bring back witch burnings. Far too many of you weirdos are comfortable being dumbasses knowing you won’t get tied to a log and burned alive or punched in the face for trying to flip up a random woman’s skirt in the restroom
According to my holy book that land is mine
Therefore Christians have an ancestral right to it and any action we take to settle there is righteous and justified and you opposing it means you hate white people and Christians cause that is opposing our rights to an ethnically pure Christian state safe from the obvious attacks upon our faith constantly
"Anti zionism is not antisemitism"
I dunno but saying that Jews dont deserve their own country, let alone a country in the land they are indigenous to sounds pretty fucking antisemitic to me
This doesn’t make sense. Her whole whine about the trans community is “trans women are men trying to rape women”. But ace people don’t do sex much if at all and typically don’t do such crimes so she is mad at them for …. Not being a threat to women essentially
Or she is doing the whole “oh you don’t wanna bang me well you are misogynistic cause you think I’m too ugly to bang” mental leap a lot of TERFs do with lesbians and such who don’t wanna bang them
im going to be so honest i think if youre aphobic as a feminist i dont think you understand the struggle torwards women’s liberation AT ALL. youre telling me you fully understand the nuances of social norms around sex and sexuality and how these tend to force people but especially women into paradoxes surrounding how theyre supposed to be, whether they want to or not, and came to the conclusion that asexuals are whinny and fake oppressed? come on