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Something interesting I'm noticing that has been happening with me in social situations for the longest time is that when I ask clarifying questions (bc autism) I don't get met with frustration as much as I do belittling (? Not sure if it's the right word. It certainly feels demeaning).

And specifically the word:

Overthinking

For example:

"Can you please elaborate on _? I don't think I get it."

"Don't overthink it, it's a simple task 🥰 it's not hard !"

"Oh you're just a worrier aren't you! 🥰"

"There's no need to worry you know! 😊 You'll be fine."

"You're overthinking it, just give it a go 😊"

"How about we just try it first and then see how you get on 🥰"

And I get it. I do happen to be a person who can fall into traps of overthinking. But asking clarifying questions is not an example of that!

When I'm overthinking something, I'm rarely ever asking questions on how to DO something. It's likely something that's been upsetting me that I'll overthink, not a task that has been puzzling me. I enjoy challenges. I know I'm quite smart. Assuming every single clarifying question I have must be me overthinking feels very.. icky. Idk. It feels like you assume I am asking out of some need to be quirky and different. Almost like you think it's cute that I'm confused? Like I'm not trying to be cute I'm trying to do the fucking task you set out for me????

It makes me feel uncomfortable and I am always very very bluntly clear that I am not overthinking and I don't like being told that. It feels almost like an insult to my intelligence.

Am I right in thinking this is some covert thing allistics do to autistic people?? Knowing my track record with gut feelings I am right.

9x out of 10, the thing I want clarity on is something poorly phrased. So yes it is likely a very simple task, but it looks like this to me:

Task, simplified = water the flowers

How it's actually phrased:

"Take the device most known for feeding plant life, use accordingly and with precision."

My clarifying questions:

"How am I supposed to know what the 'device' is in this scenario when you can use many things to 'feed' plants..? What are the plants in this scenario? Does it matter? What do you mean 'with precision'??"

The answer I get:

"You're overthinking it 🥰 just give it a try!"

What they actually meant to tell me:

"Water the flowers, try not to be too messy with the watering can."

And then the way I learn that that is what they actually meant is solely through error, like I would water the flowers but I wouldn't do it in a tidy manner so I'd get yelled at. Or, I would Google "device most well known for feeding plants" it would bring up feeding pellets and I'd use those and get yelled at!!!

How am I overthinking something by asking clarifying questions!!!!

It genuinely feels like that word has become so watered down that it's just being used to describe anyone who actually thinks past one thought per task???????

Stop assuming everyone can understand what you're telling them straight away.

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The way most autism literature describes "literal interpretation" is often not at all similar to how I experience it. Teenage me even thought I couldn't be autistic because I've always been able to learn metaphors easily.

In fact, I love wordplay of all kinds. Teenage me was fascinated to learn all the types of figurative language there are in poetry and literature.

But paperwork and questionnaires are hard, because there's so much they don't state clearly. Or they don't leave room for enough nuance.

"List all the jobs you've had, with start and end dates." What if I don't remember the exact day or month? Is the year enough?

"Have you been suffering from blurred vision?" Well, if I take off my glasses the whole world is blurred, but I'm fairly sure that's not what the intake form at the optometrist is asking.

Or the infamous (and infuriatingly stereotypical) "Would you rather go to a library or a party?" What sort of party? Where? Who's there? I work at a library. Am I currently at the library for work or pleasure? Does it have a good collection?

It's not common figures of speech that confound me. It's ambiguity, in situations that aren't supposed to be ambiguous.

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A patchwork family @aspionagee ( Snape adopt Draco and Harry , I love it because this little family is very special , Snape also learn to be a good dad for his two boys 🥰🥺) Complete

To trust @clairdeloon-abie ( ravenclaw harry adopted by Severus 🥺 lovely story , Harry have problem to trust people specially adult and lose any reason to live 😭😭 in this story and Snape will learn him that he'll always be here for him and how life is important 😭😭 ) Complete

Second chance @anonhpwriter ( ⚠️ contains CP in this one ⚠️but the most important: if you like sweetness and fluff who will make your teeth rot and shake your heart go head XD 😂 because there a lot and I love how close Snape and Harry got close as father and son that why I love this fanfic and I add on my list and without this fanfic I couldn't discovered Severitus 💞💞 ) part 1 and 2 Complete part 3 WIP

As potter is to Snape @scarlettwriter91 ( honestly I there many reasons to check anx like this story buuuut I let you discovering it by yourself while you'll read it 😉) Complete

True heart @mandancieforever ( one of the very first Severitus story I discovered with second chance it's because of it I love Severitus and want read more 🥺 and draw art of it , she deserves more support ! ) WIP

A Thousand Words ( still WIP unfortunately but very good fanfiction...I hope the author will come back again)

Obscured ( with a Slytherin and Obscurial Harry Potter 👀 .. Snape have a lot of work for fixing the broken boy ) @illisius WIP

little freak, Jezebel (you sit high atop the kitchen counter) @alexandriastark76 WIP

Harry's new home by Kbinnz Complete

Mine (on potions and snitch website that been suggested by my follower the talented @squid1442 who also do Severitus art 🥺)

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