How To Create A Leveling Up/dream Girl/rebranding Plan 🤍🍸🖤

how to create a leveling up/dream girl/rebranding plan 🤍🍸🖤

establish your aesthetic

first thing’s first, you need to know where you want to go in life and what is your “aesthetic”? do you want to be giving “classy, businesswoman”? what about “nyc socialite”? of course these are just examples, but you should know what type of girl you want to embody. remember, you don’t have to fit a narrative, but you should have a general “aesthetic” that you want to be associated with. even if it’s 50 million different aesthetics, it’s whatever makes you, you.

visualize yourself/life

get inspired by making a vision board (physical or digital) and add to your board (if digital) daily. i find that this helps you stay in alignment with where you want to be in the future. you have to stay in that frequency and remind yourself of what’s next to come… because this new life is what’s next to come.

start with habits

please refer to my “starting your leveling up journey” post, but basically— you should create 1-3 habits for each of your goals and work on them until they become second nature. then when you’re ready, start implementing more habits that are aligned with your goals.

create routines with your habits

can you incorporate some of these new habits into a morning or evening routine? we all know that routines are important— they almost become our personalities and they set the tone for the day and night, and even the next day. for me, i know i’m only inspired to exercise in the morning around 10am, so exercise is part of my morning routine.

create daily + weekly goals

let’s say part of your journey is learning a new language. a daily goal could be learning one new vocabulary word in that language. your weekly goal could be knowing the alphabet in that language. use this method for all of your goals.

don’t overwhelm yourself with goals, routines, and habits

start slow; don’t overwhelm yourself. if you want to work on one goal at a time, then work on that one goal. burnout is real and it’s very hard to get back into the swing of things afterwards. i understand most of us are impatient when we just want to be a different version of ourselves, but it’s going to take some adjusting. i suggest not working on more than 3 things at once, but if you can work on more, go ahead

be a part of a community to keep you accountable

tumblr and facebook groups in my opinion are the best ways you can connect with other women who are working on the same thing. you can inspire one another, bounce ideas off of one another, and it’s super fun. you might want to even document your journey online.

set milestones and have a reward system

let’s say you would like to lose or gain weight, no matter the number, focus on 5-10 pound increments. when each milestone is successfully completed, reward yourself with something nice. maybe it’s getting your nails done, or splurging on a product that everyone on tiktok keeps talking about. apply this to any of your goals where there are milestones to get to.

don’t waste the day

you should not have any “zero days” meaning… you should be doing at least one thing everyday to reach a goal(s) you have. it doesn’t matter if one goal was to maintain a more organized, clean environment— do your dishes, set the trash out, clean up the hair from the bathroom sink, etc.

MBTI Type: ESTJ [The Executive]

ESTJ types are very high energy. They’d rather spend their time with other people than alone.

They tend to pay more attention to the details of a situation. They make decisions based on what they see right now.

Executives base their decisions on what makes sense, rather than what feels right. They listen to their head, not their heart.

They are responsible and like to plan ahead. They hold themselves accountable by making lists and following set processes and rules.

Big Three: Capricorn Sun, Taurus Moon and Virgo Rising

Capricorn Sun: Capricorn is ruled by authoritative Saturn, which is why they tend to work hard toward advancing themselves in earthly matters.

Taurus Moon: The Moon loves to be in the zodiac sign Taurus. Those with Moon in Taurus delight in the earthly pleasures and seek out emotional security.

Virgo Rising: Virgo ascendants are the fact-finders and checkers of the zodiac. They are fair-minded and slow to anger.

Enneagram Type: 8w9 [The Diplomat]

Basic Fear: Eights with a nine wing fear being hurt by others. They avoid situations in which they have less control, generally preferring to be in positions of leadership.

Basic Desire: Their basic desire is to guard themselves against threats and control their own destiny. They may express this by asserting independence at a young age.

Diplomats defend themselves by building emotional walls and denying vulnerability. They seek to appear strong, subconsciously believing that being too emotional will make them seem weak.

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tammieeee

2 months ago

this will be an amazing week for me

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tammieeee

1 year ago

KIND REMINDERS 🤍

1. You are someone’s dream girl exactly the way you are right now.

We put so much emphasis on growth and getting to that “next best place”, which is fine, but we always forget that we deserve self-love as we are right now. It does not mean that you aren’t at your “best” physically and/or mentally that you aren’t deserving of love, kindness, and respect.

2. Perspective is everything

Stop stressing over that one bad grade you received at school. In ten years, you won’t even remember what teacher gave it to you. Focus your energy on things that’ll have lasting impacts. When you look back on your life, you want to see the beauty of it, not the anguish.

3. Growth isn’t linear

Don’t blame yourself for messing up. We aren’t perfect and we are bound to mess up every once in a while. Learn from your mistakes, and try to not repeat them. And if you do, that’s okay, there’s always another time. Growth has no time limit.

4. You are not a bad person

If you are sitting here constantly asking yourself if you are a bad person or underserving of love, I’m here to tell you one thing: bad people don’t worry about whether they are perceived as “good” or “bad”. Give yourself grace, and stop letting your overthinking consume you.

So much love,

A girl unfiltered 💋

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tammieeee

11 months ago

According to PDB as of 05/19/2023: INTJ 8w9 sp/sx 854 EIE RLOEI VLEF Choleric[Dominant]. Ni dominant and E8 are rumored to be incompatible so this typing may be incorrect.

According to PDB as of 05/10/2023: INTJ 1w2 so/sx 154 ILI RCOAI LVEF Melancholic-Choleric.

According to PDB as of 05/19/2023: INTJ 5w4 sp/so 584 LSI RLOEI VLEF Melancholic-Choleric

According to PDB as of 05/19/2023: INFJ 1w2 sp/so 154 EII RCOAI LVFE Melancholic-Phlegmatic

According to PDB as of 05/19/2023: INFJ 4w5 sp/sx 459 IEI RLOAI LEVF Phlegmatic-Melancholic

Introverted Intuition or Ni, is characterized by their inclination towards “a-ha” moments and their symbol oriented perception of the world. With an innate talent for seeing meaning everywhere and striving towards their desired future, INxJs are unparalleled when it comes to big picture thinking.

Astrological placements that I associate with the Ni dominants, INTJ & INFJ:

Lilith in 10th, Venus in 10th, Lilith in 6th, Venus in 6th, Pluto in 6th, Saturn in 10th, Saturn in 11th.

Pluto in 5th, Scorpio 4th, Scorpio 5th, Scorpio Juno, Aquarius/Uranus in 8th.

an updated repost. if you don’t have any of these and are an ni dom, i’m in no way discrediting you. these are just placements that give off the energy of ni inherently.

dt: my fellow ni dom, @8emstar8.

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tammieeee

8 months ago

f𝗂𝗋𝗌𝗍. ジェニーの最初の :

𝗷𝗲𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗲 ' 𝗌 𝗅𝗈𝗏𝖾𝗋, f𝗋𝗂𝖾𝗇𝖽, 彼女.

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하나. 𝗋𝖺𝗉 둘. 𝗌𝗍𝗒𝗅𝖾 삼. 𝗍𝖺𝗅𝖾𝗇𝗍

things that reminds me of markie

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𝗆𝖺' 𝗀𝗂𝗋𝗅 𝗅𝖺𝗅𝗂𝗌𝖺 𝗂𝗇 𝖺

台座 𝄖 𝗂𝗍 𝗐𝗈𝗆𝖺𝗇

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𝗍𝗁r𝗎 ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ 𝗒𝗈𝗎r ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ 目, ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ 𝗂𝗌 ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ 𝗒𝗈𝗎.

( 𝖻𝗒𝗎𝗇. ) : ♥︎ バンビ

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𝗉𝖾𝖺𝖼𝗁𝖾𝗌 ◞ マドモアゼル ☆

𝖼𝗁𝗈𝗂 𝗌𝗎𝗅𝗅𝗂 — 𝗈𝗎𝗋 𝖻𝖾𝗌𝗍 𝗀𝗂𝗋𝗅.

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tammieeee

11 months ago

It-Girling 101 :

you are a goddess, act like it

you have to be confident

you are beautiful, smart, talented and so much more. there’s nothing wrong with acknowledging that and being proud of that. if you don’t hype yourself up, who will? take those selfies, say your self love affirmations in the mirror, wear your cutest clothes that make you feel prettiest! you are the sh!t , don’t let anyone make you feel less than, ever

be proud of everything you do, even the “small things” because everything you achieve is an accomplishment, nothing goes unnoticed

speak up for yourself! if you don’t like something or how something is going then let it be known! don’t let anyone take your voice from you

stand strong on your beliefs and don’t let anyone sway you

you have to respect yourself

learn how to say ‘no’ to things that don’t feel right to you, even if it may hurt someone else’s feelings

prioritize your needs and wants! you deserve to be happy, comfortable and have the things you desire

set healthy boundaries and stick to them! have a mindset of, people will respect me and my limits or they won’t be in my life at all, period!

don’t just date or be friends with anyone. surround yourself with people who treat you right, who don’t call you out of your name, who are kind to you, who are gentle with you, who care about your hopes and dreams, who won’t put their hands on you, ever! people who don’t make you feel bad about yourself, people who love you unconditionally, someone who will never treat you like garbage, someone who won’t belittle you

treat your body like a temple and only be with someone romantically because you really want to and have feelings for them and not because you feel pressured to or you think you deserve less than

you have to treat yourself like a prize because you are a prize! don’t forget, the way you treat yourself is how other people will treat you. so walk with pride and make sure your standards are high always 💓

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tammieeee

11 months ago

what to do when someone makes you feel insecure

✧. · ~ thewizardliz 💋💜

✬ i very very very very highly recommend thewizardliz. shes been so helpful to me this past year and if youre not watching her, then what are you doing with your life?? she is the secret which gave me self love and confidence in myself!! i love this woman so much, when she uploads a video my day just brightens☀️.

This post is going to be completely about her video and the points she made. These are just some summaries but it’s best to watch the video bc the way she says it makes all the difference. full credits to this stunning queen for this post. ✬

★ look at the kind of insults someone gives you;

most people hate on others and say nasty things about others because they feel bad about themselves.┊ so what are they insulting you about? your looks, your intelligence, your personality, what is it? remember that "everything someone is insulting you about with no reason- that is something that they are insecure about with themselves." when someone says something to you, understand that it's just a reflection of themselves. and then just pity them and leave bc u dont need that kind of negative energy around you baby💅

★ find yourself. create yourself. KNOW WHO YOU ARE.

"when you know who you are without this person, no one can shake or rock your boat! your boat has to be stable first." you need to learn to be so stable and secure in yourself that whatever comes in, it cannot affect you in anyway! if someone comes up to you and says "you're purple" would you take it seriously? no ofc not!! you may even laugh in their face because you know that you're not purple so whatever anyone says- it does not affect you. so those insults would go 1 ear in, and through the other ear out.

★ never allow anyone to talk down on you.

when you allow someone to talk down at you for the first time, then it wont stop. they will just keep going on and it will only get worse down the line. "toxic people dont get nicer down the line." so once you tell them to stop and they continue, that is officially disrespecting me. you can leave, cut them out of your life.

★ give them a passive aggressive comment back.

(in the video liz gave some examples of things to say back and DAMNN she ate it up!) just adopt the ✨bimbo mentality✨ and act stupid :) example from her video:

someone: "you dont look good today... you look kinda ugly" liz: "aww thankyou, you know i love to look at you and everyday you just give me inspiration to be confident because if you look like that and you can be confident, then i can too."

UMMM OKAYY SHE ATE THAT AND LEFT NO CRUMBS 😋😍

★ are they even worth your time and energy??

absolutely not. those people are WAYYY beneath you honey. walk away. just walk away from these pathetic people. you will find SO MUCH better than them for they are literally UNDER THE BARE MINIMUM. "if someone has to insult you to bring you down, girl you're already above them" also look at the people you're constantly spending your time with. do they help you? do they grow you? do they add ANY kind of value?? no? then why are they still there?? why are YOU still hanging around them??? bc when does your life change? when YOU change.

★ we accept the love that we think we deserve.

why on earth do u think that this is the best you can do?? why do you think that someone who disrespects you is the best you can do? do you really think you're not worthy of the same amount of love you give out?? there are literally people out there who believe that they deserve the best and they get that! but you here are doubting yourself?? huhh?? honey what??

★ what do YOU want?

so many times we're constantly thinking 'how can we make this person happy' , 'what does this person want' , etc etc. but what about you honey? what do you want out of life, out of your relationships, etc.? genuinely, they should actually feel BLESSED to be in the same room as you, to breathe the same air as you. and here you're letting people come and talk down on you? like are you serious? PROTECT YOURSELF.

★ surround yourself with people that grow with you.

people who you surround you with, they should make you feel like the king/ queen of earth! they are meant to hype you up! they should tell you that you're amazing and beautiful! because if you don't then theres no benefit. why be with icky toxic people when you can be with people who will love you the way you love them? "im too pretty to accept this behaviour".

★ lead with your actions, not your words.

its time you stop saying stuff like "im gonna leave if you continue doing this" , "i will do this... i will do that.." no. just leave. you've said it once and they continued? shut up and leave.

start to create your exit plan. i understand that for some people, they arent able to just leave because of problems related to money, health, knowledge, a community etc. so thats why you need to start creating an exit plan.

if its money you need then start thinking: how can i get money? what job? how can i save up to live on my own? if its friends so you don't feel lonely: how can i make friends? can i join a club or a community with people like me? how can i start to meet new people? if its knowledge so you understand more about it: how can i start to educate myself about this? can i go to a library and find a book on this? can i search it up online? is there anyone else who's been through the same think and i can take advice from them?

★ not everyone you lose is a loss.

sometimes a loss is a gain. if people in your life right now have been disrespecting you and now they've left or you've left, thats a gain!! looking back the people i was friends with before- i needed them so i could grow and gain knowledge. and when they stopped being a significant part of my life, that was a gain. "it wasnt a loss, it was a lesson"

"just know that you're the queen of the earth and you can do and get anything you want if you set your mind to it."

"if you have a good heart and pure intentions, then you deserve people with the same intentions and the same heart."

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tammieeee

10 months ago

manifest with me ♡

before we start: one thing i like to do while manifesting is to pretend to be blair waldorf from gossip girl while repeating affirmations (if you don't know who she is, watch this). now, i'm not romanticizing arrogance or self-centredness, and i would NOT advise anyone to do so. however, i feel that embodying blair's confidence and persona really helps me get into my abundance mindset. this is what i do, but feel free to proceed as you wish!

my fav affs (none of these are mine, add or reduce as you wish ୨୧)

study : - i love being an academic overachiever - my attitude towards studying is perfect - i always understand complex topics easily - i love my efficient time management skills - my mind is always in the best condition - i have sharp memory and i easily understand and retain whatever i study - working on assignments is so fun for me - i feel incredibly focused when studying - my mind is free from any distractions - i love that i can easily focus for a long period of time - any subject i study for, is always far too easy for me - i really enjoy studying and revising - i am always relaxed during exams - exams are fun - getting good grades is natural for me - i pass all my exams with a perfect score

lucky girl syndrome : - i am the luckiest girl in the world - i have the best self-concept - every situation works out in my favour - every day goes by in my favour - everything works out the way i want it to - i'm always at the right place at the right time - only good things happen to me - i only experience the best outcomes - i get the perfect things at the perfect time - everything i want is always following me - i only deserve the best, and recieve the best - everything goes better than planned - good things keep flowing in my direction - i am destined to have everything i desire - everything i want is mine right now - i am so lucky, it's unexplainable - why are things so perfect for me? - why am i so loved? - why am i so abundant? - why do oppurtunities consistently come my way? - why am i so blessed? - why am i so confident now? - why do people love to support me? - why am i so good at creating wonderful opportunities? - why do i attract people who bring so much happiness into my life? - why am i so happy when i look at myself in the mirror? - why am i such a magnet to success? - why is my life getting better and better every single day?

hope you like these, stay tuned for part 2 (will include some additional tips on manifesting effectively) !!

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tammieeee

1 year ago

the girlies reading

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tammieeee

11 months ago

"shes literally perfect! how can someone be that perfect??"

make them obsessed! affirmations <3

reminder: become obsessed with yourself first. if u can't, then make something out of yourself. have something to be obsessed about. | moodboard by me!