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Frida Kahlo. (hellish-daddy)

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What to do if you meet a toxic “professional”

I met a shit doctor today. They shamed me and blamed me for my illness, treated me like a drug addict for needing anti depressants, refused to give me enough to last til next appointment… Made us cry, gave me a panic attack and shamed me for being an adult with special needs and dependent on my parents. Aggressively gave bad information. I will be reporting them to the psychiatry board, but in the meantime, I want to tell people what I learned.

If someone makes you uncomfortable, professional or not, tell them and if they continue just leave! You can walk away!

You don’t owe anyone apologies for who you are or for having an illness

Read online reviews before seeing someone, check for red flags. I wish I had! They had similar experiences! Almost exactly the same.

If someone constantly interrupts you when it’s your turn to talk, they are out of line.

I’m a trauma survivor. It’s hard for me to say no. You can say no. You don’t have to sign things against your will.

Take a friend or family member who will have your back.

Please don’t give up hope on finding treatment from a bad experience, try again when you are ready.

Prepare some phrases if you need help to walk away. “I don’t think we are a good match, I will be leaving now.” Is more than acceptable.

In hindsight, I could have called the police or someone, don’t be afraid to step out and do that. Especially if they hurt you physically, that’s assault!

I hope this helps someone.

How to make and use a Coping Board

A coping board is used to help you keep yourself “on schedule” throughout your day.  It can be used by people who have trouble doing “daily” tasks like showering, eating, or taking medication. It’s also beneficial to people who have trouble keeping track of what they’ve done that day due to mental health related memory problems. This is also beneficial to people who (like me) don’t have the energy to make daily to do lists because that task alone is pretty exhausting and depending on my mental state can be overwhelming. By having a set list of things already prepared, it makes my tasks less draining. 

This is what a Coping Board is, a piece of cork board with short lists of things you want to or should be doing. I made my lists out of index cards, and I continue to add them as I have the energy or remember things I want to do.  First, start with tasks you want to complete each morning 

This is what my “morning” list looks like.  As I complete each task, I move the pin from To Do to Done.  This helps me keep track of what I have already done this morning and what I still would like to accomplish. You don’t have to do them in any particular order, it just so happens I did my first four in order today. 

Next, make a list of things you’d like to do each night before you go to bed.

This is what my  “nighttime” list looks like. I also reset my morning list as I complete my nighttime list, so its ready for me the next day. 

You can also add other lists that pertain to you. For example, I have a very hard time keeping track of what day of the week it is, so I added a “day of the week” list.

Each morning when I wake up, I move the pin to the next day.  I also added a list of things I’d like to make sure I do at least once a week.

Personally this list is more of a “wish list” of things I don’t want to forget about, but definitely don’t always have the energy for.  I reset this list every Sunday.

Finally, you can also add things that you use as self care tactics or coping skills. For me, since I practice energy work, this list is mostly about changing the energy of my personal space in my room. 

I try to do these daily, but sometimes weekly is more realistic. 

The great thing about a Coping Board is that its so easy to add or remove things from your schedule.  If you have a medication change, you can make a sheet to help you remember what dosage to take each day as you transition.  This is my summer board, but during the semester I would probably add different lists for each of my classes or things I need to complete like a paper or an art assignment. The possibilities are endless, and it’s easy to customize to what you need most. 

I hope this has been helpful for all of you! Good luck, and stay safe everyone. 

Adonis, tr. by Khaled Mattawa, Selected Poems

fucked up how cooking and baking from scratch is viewed as a luxury…..like baking a loaf of bread or whatever is seen as something that only people with money/time can do. I’m not sure why capitalism decided to sell us the idea that we can’t make our own damn food bc it’s a special expensive thing that’s exclusive to wealthy retirees but it’s stupid as hell and it makes me angry