genuinely have had numerous people tell me that as a trans man i'm "a men's rights activist invading trans spaces".
so many people legitimately do not see trans men as trans.
i need people to understand that so many people for some reason have the idea that trans = feminine or woman. it's a real issue.
how are trans men invading trans spaces? this is where we live. and of course we're gonna advocate for our own rights. why wouldn't we? we don't exist to self flagellate because the idea of transsexual and transgender manhood and masculinity frightens you. i'm a trans man. i'm trans. i'm not invading my own community.
Please reblog to make sure everyone is equipped!
Trans Tips #11!
Try to get some sort of Gender Affriming Gear if it's safe for you to!
I've always wanted things like binders and boxers, but but I was gender fluid and making entirely too many excuses for why I "didn't need it"
GET IT
I have been out for about 3 months now as a full trans guy, but I've presented masculinely for the last few years
As of this year (2025) my fiance has been gifting me more trans affirming items. They got me FNAF boxers that just feel great, and a packer (boxers with a bulge) and we are looking into safe binders together to pick out the best ones for me
The point is that I LOVE all of this! I love my packer, I love sitting/standing in ways that show it off, and I love the weight and feel of it! Sure I felt silly at first because it's a little silly looking but I've gotten so much more confident with it! Even if you can't wear a packer, boxers were my first step and they also felt amazing! Something about them is just so gender affirming!
Right now I just wear sports bras but it still works to somewhat flatten my chest. And I love that!
The point is to stop making excuses, obviously if your living in an unsafe environment is understand if you can't but if you can! Then it's just a game changer!
You don't need to be "more masc" or more fucking anything to wear what makes you more comfortable!
I love my packer, I love my sports bra, I love my boxers, I love my cargo pants, I love my body and my skin and what I'm willing to do to feel comfortable in it day-to-day is spend a couple dollars here and there to get gender affirming gear!
What are you willing to do to feel comfortable in your skin today?
Hello! I used to have a tumblr back in its earlier days but I've made a new one to better refect the changes I've gone through as a person
This change is brought in light of the new tiktok ban. I might be loosing my platform to spread good trans information and tips. So I will be unloading more stuff here as a backup social media platform!
Some information about me:
I am a trans man (ftm)
I am also queer, I feel it fits my identity the best
I am engaged to the most beautiful perfect wonderful person in all of existence, past existence, and to ever exist.
Some of my posts might be about how much I insanely love this woman and could happily dedicate my life to breathing her air and worshiping the ground she walks upon like a temple. But I digress
I have a hoard of cats, dogs, a fet tailed african gecko, some gerbils, and they are all my babys
I have an...interesting taste in music
One fun fact about me is whenever people try to describe me, they often just say "that is the most Li individual i have ever met"
I share about my journey, Trans tips, a little about my life, and whatever is on my mind
I hope you enjoy my blog. If you find something that is helpful, I'm glad I could help,
If you find something relatable, I'm glad I can relate,
If you find something inspirational, I'm glad I could inspire,
I hope you have a wonderful day and happy scrolling!
In our house there are 4 light switches by the front door. All are in a line, together.
1 light switch turns on the light in the kichen
1 light switch turns on the light in the livingroom
1 light switch controls literally nothing, as far as we know it is not connected to anything
And 1 light switch will shut off power to the entire house, air conditioners, fridge/stove/microwave, wifi box, literally anything you thing might have some sort of electrical current to it will turn off and take a full minute to reboot
This sucks because WE (those who live in the house) know which switchs turn off the lights before we leave, but others will never know when they've just turned off our refrigerator...
(Also we have 2 fuse boxes. One outside the house that is not grounded and WILL electrocute you if you so much as brush against it, and one in mine and my fiancé bedroom)
Always always
Always
from Original Plumbing, a publication for and by transmasculine people.
"While I often wish I was born a bio boy and didn't have to go through all of this, it's more often that I find it a blessing to have lived and experienced both sides of life, sex and gender and get to play in-between. To have been a girl, a woman, a lesbian, a dyke, a tomboy, a 'questioning', a boy, and now a queer man is pretty amazing and fucking hot!"
i never see enough tips for trans women/transfem people so. here’s a video that came up about tucking :] (don’t worry she doesn’t use tape at all despite the thumbnail)
Messaging people for the first time is so hard. What am I supposed to say? Like, "You seem really odd and your blog intrigues me. Do you want to have philosophical conversations or perhaps talk about fictional characters?" What! Whatever. I will just follow you back and stare at your blog with my big beautiful brown eyes.
Trans tips #2!
To help with voice dismorphia, practice voice training!
I heard of voice training from a Trans woman on tiktok whom I only know as ellierellie. She brings up thr point that when people first transition, have can have a very unnatural and soft voice, almost like a stage voice.
Her tip is to project your voice to make it sound more natural! My favorite way to do this is to blast my music and sing in the deepest voice i can manage as loud as I can.
The volume of the music helps to cover the sound of your voice to make it more comfortable to talk louder. My favorite music to do this with is 70s/80s/90s rock! Lynyrd Skynyrd, Kiss, The Rolling Stones, ect. I also like to throw in some Hoizer, Arctic Monkeys, Cigarettes after Sex, and The Neighborhood!
I have my personal favorite songs for voice training, but I recommend avoiding songs where the singers voice pitches up or becomes whiney (i don't know how else to describe it, most sad music will have a cord or two where the singer cries out in a higher pitch voice)
I also recommend listening to music by singers of your preferred gender for this! I still enjoy my girly-pop early 2000s music but I often sing it in a mock-high pitched voice to make me feel better about my own voice...also, it's just fun!
You can look up good tutorials for voice training on YouTube! My method is just one of many, but it's the one that works best for me!
Li He/They/It Absolutely Unapologetically Dedicated to the most Beautiful Woman to have ever Existed
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