"i am agab" ❌
"i was agab" ✅
"agab" (assigned gender at birth) describes a past event where you were merely assigned a label by a doctor
not biological sex,
and not an identity label.
i wish i saw less "cutesy" transmasc rep. write about dudes who don't care enough to clean their period stains out of their boxers and just throw them in the wash. show me guys who get told they look like they're on their way to an AA meeting. dudes who smoke more than they should and sleep in a ratty sports bra they don't wash enough because they can't bear to sleep without it. where's that rep.
from Original Plumbing, a publication for and by transmasculine people.
"While I often wish I was born a bio boy and didn't have to go through all of this, it's more often that I find it a blessing to have lived and experienced both sides of life, sex and gender and get to play in-between. To have been a girl, a woman, a lesbian, a dyke, a tomboy, a 'questioning', a boy, and now a queer man is pretty amazing and fucking hot!"
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Trans Tips #10!
List off parts of yourself that you DO like!
I always see "oh I don't like this or that, I don't pass for this reason or another" ect ect ect (Also I'm totally a hypocrit for this) BUT
MAKE A LIST OF THINGS YOU DO LIKE!!!
In the process of making my Pfp, I had to think about what my face and stuff looks like, that makes it look most like me out of all of these options
MAKE LISTS OF THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF
I have a mutual, I can't remember who, but somebody said they also did voice training, and (as a singer) they could no longer reach higher pitch notes
ID BE SO EUPHORIC OF THAT FACT!!! THATS FUCKING AWESOME!!!
I can change a tire! I aired my tires and had to change one recently!!! IM STILL LIVING OFF OF THE EUPHORIA OF THAT!
This post is derailing rapidly, so I'll move on to the example part of my post!
My lovely PFP in question! I used a stardew valley pfp creator to make it. I've only played a tiny bit of stardew valley, but @wizzom showed it to me months ago, and now I'm using it for my profile!
I had to select different characteristics that matched my face, and it made me think objectively about myself,
As an artist, I had to pull myself apart by my tiny details instead of looking at the big picture. Overall, I don't pass, my features work together to look at little more fem, but each characteristic made me feel better about myself
My hair is blue! Not really a masculine or feminine thing, it just is (it's also very grown own, so you can see my very long dark roots, but whatever)
My hair is wavy, very similar to my Dad's, which already makes me feel good
My hair is very long! I have been cutting/shaving my hair for the better part of 4 years, all through high school, and I'm finally letting it grow out. I feel like there's a nice punk element to it, but also, if my femininity was highlighted with short hair, may my masculinity be defined by my long, luxurious, wavy hair
I have sun kisses on my cheeks, bridge of my nose, and shoulders from repeatedly burning and peeling. Now they're very faint freckles
I am white, but I'm not super pale. I tan very good and will be outside more when summer hits. This is the closest I could get to my skin tone
I have very thick, bushy eyebrows. My fiancé jokes about them being patchy and fucked up near the ends, and that they're just very bold and wildly thick
I have a big forehead, also like my dad!
I have more of a rounded nose (Fiance calls it a snub/snoobie nose) which i get more from my mom
I have very, very dark brown eyes to the point that in the shade, people often can't tell my pupil from my iris. It's only clear in direct sunlight
I have some eye bags, I work and overnight/revolving shift at work, and just naturally have a droopy, depressed, tired resting face
I don't have a beard (YET), but in my dream post, this is very similar to the beard I had. In my dream, my beard was my natural brown, but this pfp creator wouldn't let me change the facial hair color. (Low key love the look tho)
I do have a giant brown leather jacket that I wear constantly, he's scuffed and fucked up, I got him from a thrift store, but he has personality and I love him
I wear alot of horror t-shirts, mostly black with red accents, which is why the shirt is that color
Also, all of my shirts either have a wide neck or I've stretched the neck. I have ADHD and sensory issues and can not handle shit touching my throat. I WILL throw up (same with tags, I rip them off of everything I own/wear. I just can't)
The character creator wouldn't let me add piercings, but I have 3 facial piercings. My right eyebrow, septum, and tongue ring
I have a wider/boxier/chubbier face shape, with a soft jawline. I have convinced myself that that + my big forehead makes me look more masc
I like to joke that I have those soft masculine looks that girls are jealous of (male long lashes, boys soft kissable lips, guys with big butts, ect) just to help re-frame how I think about that stuff
I have a very broad back, I'm working out more to try and build muscle, but I'm happy for my wide back
I can go on but you get the point. Everything i try and reframe into being masculine. It can be difficult with dysphoria, but I continue to try!
Anyway, please message me! Put shit in my ask box! Comment! Add your own traits that you love! Please please please please please interact I WANNA SEE HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
HEY!!! Trans tips #5!
It's okay if it takes a while for you to transition!
Currently i have an appointment with a Gender Health Clinic set for July. This appointment is for me to be able to start Testosterone. Until then I can do nothing to medically transition.
But you know what? You don't have to medically transition as soon as possible! It's okay! This is the soonest available to me, until then I will be clearing out my wardrobe, coming out to more people, changing my appearance to better fit my style and my identity, and all of that is okay!
It's alright if you feel like your transitioning is in a stand still because you don't have the resources or means or time to transition, you're still valid
Never question if you're still valid just because it's taking you time to transition, you're valid no matter what!
It feels weird, for me, like being in some sort of trans limbo right now
But it's okay to feel uncomfortable! The days will pass and you will look different, and you'll be okay! I'm proud of you!
Trans Tips #11!
Try to get some sort of Gender Affriming Gear if it's safe for you to!
I've always wanted things like binders and boxers, but but I was gender fluid and making entirely too many excuses for why I "didn't need it"
GET IT
I have been out for about 3 months now as a full trans guy, but I've presented masculinely for the last few years
As of this year (2025) my fiance has been gifting me more trans affirming items. They got me FNAF boxers that just feel great, and a packer (boxers with a bulge) and we are looking into safe binders together to pick out the best ones for me
The point is that I LOVE all of this! I love my packer, I love sitting/standing in ways that show it off, and I love the weight and feel of it! Sure I felt silly at first because it's a little silly looking but I've gotten so much more confident with it! Even if you can't wear a packer, boxers were my first step and they also felt amazing! Something about them is just so gender affirming!
Right now I just wear sports bras but it still works to somewhat flatten my chest. And I love that!
The point is to stop making excuses, obviously if your living in an unsafe environment is understand if you can't but if you can! Then it's just a game changer!
You don't need to be "more masc" or more fucking anything to wear what makes you more comfortable!
I love my packer, I love my sports bra, I love my boxers, I love my cargo pants, I love my body and my skin and what I'm willing to do to feel comfortable in it day-to-day is spend a couple dollars here and there to get gender affirming gear!
What are you willing to do to feel comfortable in your skin today?
to trans men: you don't have to and can stop apologizing for being a man. it'll save you. you don't have to hate yourself for the approval of transphobic assholes like that. trans manhood is quite literally nothing to be ashamed of.
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