Red Flags For Love Bombing:

Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with a FP?

Absolutely, yes! This is a list of how I manage that. Keep in mind that everyone is different and if certain things don't work for you, that's completely valid.

Please see this post if you aren't sure what a FP is.

One of the first things is that even though it may be uncomfortable, diversify your relationships! Have different people that you have different similarities with. For example, maybe you really love a certain show, well making friends in the fandom might be a way to have someone to talk to about that interest.

Focus on your own hobbies. It's important to try and find a way to be happy on your own.

Practice your DBT skills. There are so many different skills useful for different situations. Here is a page I am working on of definitions of different skills. If one skill doesn't work for you, please don't give up on DBT skills. I've tried a lot of different skills, and a lot of them don't work for me but some work really well.

Focus on keeping the relationship mutual. By this I mean make sure that you’re respecting their boundaries, consent and meeting their needs too (as long this doesn’t infringe on your own. If your needs conflict, that’s a bit more complicated and may require compromise.)

Teach yourself not to rely solely on them. It's important to work on things where you don't feel abandoned when they can't give you their attention. (This is where DBT skills are likely to come in handy.)

Work on your self-soothing. If your brain spirals that they don't care, work on curbing impulses associated with that(hint check out my urge surfing post here). Don't send them messages like "clearly you don't care!" Here are some tips for self-soothing that I've written about in the past.

Communicate directly. Don't hint at things. This can be exhausting, and frustrating to the other person. I know we feel awkward asking for things, but trust me that from being on the other end of this as well, I feel so much better if someone asks me directly.

Make sure your expectations are realistic. If you find your expectations are not being met, rather than getting angry at your FP try and step back and see if your expectations are realistic. If you determine they are, try and proceed with communicating with your FP when you're feeling calm.

Be willing to apologize and admit when you're wrong. This goes without saying, but people mess up. People make mistakes. And you aren't bad if that happens. But it's important to be able to acknowledge that and apologize to the other person without excuses.

This is not an exhaustive list by any means, but I hope this helps!

Hey did you know I keep a google drive folder with linguistics and language books  that I try to update regularly 

Honorific verbs

These are special verbs to describe the actions of people you respect. Here i will write the verb table as:

Verb = honorific verb (with the irregular conjugation if needed)

行く・いる・来る＝いらっしゃる　(Irregular form= いらっしゃいます)

食べる・飲む＝召し上がる　ー　めしあがる

くれる＝くださる　（Irregular form= くださいます）

する＝なさる　（Irregular form= なさいます）

寝る＝お休みなる

みる＝ご覧になる　ー　ごらんになる

言う＝おっしゃる　（Irregular form= おっしゃいます）

ーている＝　ーていらっしゃる　（Irregular form= ーていらっしゃいます）

It’s important to note that this replacement applies to all compound verbs such as 勉強する＝勉強なさる

Because these are honorific verbs to show respect, you shouldn’t use them to describe yourself. Instead they may be used for a teacher or someone you do not know very well. 

Some activities do not have specific honorific verbs, so instead we use either:

1) Using ていらっしゃいます instead of ています if the sentence uses ている。

Example- 先生は電話で話していらっしゃいます= the professor is talking on the phone.

2) Using お+ verb stem +になる

先生はもうお帰りになりました= The professor has already gone home

This is about Sci-Hub. yeah we get it.. gatekeep knowledge and protect the interests of capital…

every writing tip article and their mother: dont ever use adverbs ever!

me, shoveling more adverbs onto the page because i do what i want: just you fucking try and stop me

how i take pretty and efficient notes ☕️

*disclaimer: what works for me may not work for you! this is just a process i’ve discovered through trial and error*

math / science

if you’re like me and need color in your notes, here’s how i do it:

i write the header of the notes in a colored highlighter - no fancy calligraphy or anything

i use color for things like important symbols on figures or lines on a graph

to save time, i write the whole thing in pen/pencil first and go back and add highlights according to the key i made

i make a basic key i can stick to !! ^ 

for example, concepts can be highlighted, formulas can be boxed, examples can be underlined, etc.

whenever i go through example problems in my notes, i always write down the steps next to it so i don’t forget

when studying - i always make a small reference sheet where i write all the formulas / conversions / how to do certain processes from memory the day before the test

history

i use the cornell method! if you’re not sure what that is, here’s a link explaining

i also use colors as well:

one basic color for writing my notes in 

one color for key concepts or events that come attached with a date

one color for key people / organizations / groups

this is just me because i do my notes digitally and like variety ™, but one color for every separate textbook heading (not to be confused with subheadings)

absolutely do not restate the textbook - try your best to put it into your own words

when studying - i’ve recently got into the habit of making an events timeline so i can easily reference them in dbqs or saqs, and just merely taking notes on the textbook helps me remember some random bits of information

click “keep reading” to see an example picture from my math notes :)

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Emergency cleaning: Unfuck your whole house in the shortest time possible

So, your landlord/parents/home inspector/favorite movie star is dropping by, and your place is a disaster. You don’t have much time to clean it up. You’re in emergency mode. Let’s get started.

Don’t panic. Panic leads to fear, fear leads to procrastination, procrastination leads to the dark side. You can do this, but you have to stay calm.

Unlike maintenance cleaning, we’re not looking to completely unfuck one space at a time. Instead, we want to decrease the overall mess in stages, spread evenly across the whole area that we’re concerned about. If you think your home is at Level 10 filth, we want to bring the whole thing down to a Level 9, and then down from there. One really clean spot in an otherwise messy home is not going to be helpful here.

Get prepared. You’ll want to shut the computer down (or turn the modem off if you need your computer to play music). Trust me. Get your music going. Gather up trash bags, your vacuum and mop, some rags or paper towel, sponges, and other cleaning supplies. Use what you have on hand. Don’t get distracted running to the store and spending an hour browsing cleaning supplies. A multi-purpose cleaning concentrate or a jug of vinegar will be just fine.

Breaks are very important. Depending on your time constraints, work in 20/10s (20 minutes working, 10-minute break) or 45/15s. But take breaks because otherwise you’re marathoning, and marathon cleaning is no one’s friend. Keep hydrated, don’t forget to eat, and check in with yourself frequently to make sure you’re physically doing OK.

Make your bed. This will be your home base if you get overwhelmed or need somewhere clear to take a break.

Start with the garbage. Going from room to room, throw out anything that is obvious trash. Once you fill a bag, take it out. Repeat as many times as necessary.

Move on to dishes. Gather the dishes from all over your house and bring them to the kitchen. If you can, start them soaking in a sink of hot, soapy water or start loading the dishwasher. After the dishes are all in one place, spend one 20/10 getting started getting them under control.

Now it’s time for your flat surfaces. Countertops, tables, dresser tops, etc. Clear them off and wipe them down. Don’t get distracted in too much sorting and organizing. We’re in crisis mode here. There will be time to get in-depth once this is all done. The same applies to cabinets and closets. Unless you have reason to believe people will be opening closed doors, leave these alone for now.

Attack the floordrobe and shoe pile. Get your clothes either put away or in the hamper. Start a load of laundry if you need to, but keep in mind that laundry and dishes have three steps: wash, dry, and put it away, goddammit!

Get random stuff up off the floors. If something is trash-worthy, throw it away now rather than just move it around a bunch of times. Otherwise, put stuff where it belongs.

Take another 20/10 or 45/15 to catch up on more dishes, if needed.

Head into the bathroom. Pour some cleaner in the toilet bowl, fill the sink with hot water and cleaner, and either spray the tub and shower with cleaner, or fill the tub up with some hot water and add cleaner and let it soak. Put everything away that’s out and shouldn’t be, clean the mirror, counters, and toilet seat. Sweep or dry mop the floor. Wipe down the sink and tub/shower, and give the toilet bowl a scrub. Mop the floor.

Sweep and mop the kitchen floor.

Vacuum everything you can, and sweep everything you can’t.

Walk outside of your house (don’t lock yourself out, please). Walk back in and see what catches your eye first. Go and deal with that.

If you’re being inspected or your landlord is coming in for repairs, spend time on whatever area they’ll be focusing on.

Give the whole place one more once-over and pay attention to anything you’ve missed so far.

It’s an old trick, but if your place is a little funky-smelling, put a pan of water on the stove on low heat and add some citrus or cinnamon or vanilla. Don’t leave it unattended or forget about it.

Take a shower, put on something clean, and eat something.

You can do this. It’s overwhelming, yes, but it is not impossible. You just need to do it. You have a list. You have directions. You have a whole bunch of Internet strangers who have been there before and who are cheering you on. You can do this, but you need to get started.

Why are you still here? GO. START. NOW.

How I am planning on going from A2 to B2 Spanish in 4 months

Month 1

I am going to try and work through a massive textbook that I have (here is the link). I’m going to learn the vocabulary using anki, and do all of the exercises, though I won’t write notes to save time. 

After I have finished each chapter, I will have a conversation with my friend in Spanish, and write a page in my journal.

I will also listen to lots of Dreaming Spanish.

Months 2 - 4

I will listen to Dreaming Spanish, Intermediate Spanish Podcast, Notes in Spanish Intermediate, Españolistos and News in Slow Spanish (Spain).

I am going to shadow Easy Spanish videos.

I’ll use LingoPie to watch TV shows and films in Spanish.

I’m going to keep a daily journal in Spanish (which I will post on Journaly).

I’m going to have thrice weekly speaking sessions with my friend.

I’m going to read lots of fanfiction in Spanish.

I will also watch YouTube videos in Spanish.

I’m going to read El Mundo daily.

I’ll try to write an essay once every two weeks.

That’s my plan and I hope it’ll be enough. Wish me luck!

only address me as The Friend from now on

August 2, 1971: In a tribute to Galileo, Apollo 15 astronaut Dave Scott performs the hammer-and-feather drop. The feather is 44 times lighter than the hammer, but with no air resistance, the objects fall at the same rate.