Femme Fatale Playbook: Unleash Your Dark Feminine Energy

#spoiler alert: So I'm watching lessons in chemistry and I am at the beginning of episode 2. I love their chemistry so I get curious because from the snippets I see from tick tock she is raising a child alone and I am not a patient person, I search what happens to him and I oop🥲the vulture review broke my heart

I can't stand a dumb biddy and Rowan is the dumbest biddy of them all. What in the world was that ending

No cause #Saltburn😅😅😅😂

Self Care Tips for the High Maintenance Woman 🌸

Life is tough…. but don’t let it consume you!

 Hey babes, It’s your girl Chichi! it’s no secret that living in the 21st century is tough. It seems like there are more demands on women than ever before, and the expectations for what a woman should be capable of doing at any given moment seem to increase with each passing day. The result? Stress levels through the roof, not enough time or money to do anything about it, and an emotional rollercoaster that never stops running.

Self-care is important for everyone, but it’s especially crucial for women in the age of self-doubt, social media judgment, and FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

The good news is you don’t have to live this way!  Further down in this blog post, we’ll discuss 3 self-care tips for women so you can finally start taking better care of yourself without sacrificing who you are. 💅🏾

So… Chichi what even is self-care?

When you care for yourself, you are taking time to recharge your batteries. Its a form of tapping into your Feminine Energy! You’re self-nurturing, taking care of your body and mind so you can be the best version of yourself. It’s not selfish or a sign that you don’t love others; it’s simply about giving yourself what you need to do all the hard work in life. If you are interested in some other tips; “On how to tap into your Feminine Energy click here!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a few minutes each day for yourself, doing something that makes you feel good inside out, surrounding yourself with self-loving people, or treating yourself to something special every once in a while..

Self care is crucial for us High Maintenance Ladies!

A lack of self-care comes from never feeling like we have enough time, money, or self-love to do the things we need. We don’t prioritize ourselves because of our own self-doubt and lack of self-worth. Keep scrolling down to find out what 3 self care tips I focus most of my attention on!

#01 Prioritize  Sleeping Early

Want to improve your looks, memory, concentration, energy, and productivity? Want to more easily maintain a healthy weight? Want to strengthen your immune system and live happier, healthier, and longer? TRY GETTING AT LEAST 7-8 HOURS OF REST EACH NIGHT!

How you put yourself to bed and what time you turn off the lights makes a huge impact on how productive you’ll be the following morning, as well as our looks, memory, concentration, energy, and maintaining  healthy weight. I find it repulsive that western society stigmatizes sleep. Glorifying those who can push through an all-nighter and dismissing those who prioritize sleep as lazy or unmotivated.

Humans are not like the owls, or cats, or bats that sleep in the day and are awake at night. We are physiologically programmed to do the opposite. This phenomenon has been understood for thousands of years and was recently validated by modern science.

If your like me and used to be a night owl I literally had to train my brain to sleep early as 8-10pm! After a few weeks I fully became used to it and I’ve been doing this for the past year and a half! Here’s how I was able to do it:

 1.Avoid Large Meals Right Before Bedtime. Eat dinner at least 3 hours before sleeping

2.Start prepping yourself for bed in the Early Evening 7-8pm. Keep lights low. Limit exposure to bright light in the evenings. Relax. Worrying about a problem or a long to-do list can be a recipe for insomnia. Well before you turn in, try writing down your worries and make a list of tasks you want to remember. This “worry journal” may help move these distracting thoughts from your mind. Closer to bedtime, try com¬forting rituals that may help lull you to sleep: Listen to soft, calming music, take a warm bath, do some easy stretches or read a book or magazine by soft light.

You can practice saying this self-care affirmation right before you head to bed:

“I deserve to sleep 8 hours each night, because I am worth it!”

#02 Stay Active & Keep moving!

We know that staying active is one of the best ways to keep our bodies healthy. But did you know it can also improve your overall well-being and quality of life?

Here are just a few of the ways physical activity can help you feel better, look better and live better. Because, why not?

Regular physical activity can relieve stress, anxiety, depression and anger. You know that “feel good sensation” you get after doing something physical? Think of it as a happy pill with no side effects! Most people notice they feel better over time as physical activity becomes a regular part of their lives.It keeps you physically fit and able.

Without regular activity, your body slowly loses its strength, stamina and ability to function properly. It’s like the old saying: you don’t stop moving from growing old, you grow old from stopping moving. Exercise increases muscle strength, which in turn increases your ability to do other physical activities.

I dedicate an hour a day to practicing either Yoga (for relaxation, raising my vibration, & aligning my chakra’s) & Pilates (for stretching & maintaining my figure) with my little sister.

For those who don’t know what pilates is I’ll give you a quick summary..

Pilates is a challenging low impact exercise method that balances strength with mobility, aligns the body, fine-tunes movement patterns, and strengthens the deeper muscles of the core. It helps strengthen your core, Posture, reduces mensural pain, eliminates stress, boosts flexibility & agility enhances body awareness.

You can practice saying this self-care affirmation when you choose exercise!

“I deserve keep my body fit, because I am worth it!”

#03 Make a habit of eating healthy

Practicing self-care eating means making thoughtful choices about the foods that you put into your body.  

Being mindful of what your putting inside of your body is important! Think about it you were born with this body only. would you want to feed it things that would be detrimental to your health?

If you think about it..without attending to one’s own bodily, emotional, and mental needs, how can that same person attend to anything or anyone else?

The food that you choose should provide energy and the nutrition that you need to manage your weight and stay healthy for the long-term. That includes protein, vitamins, fruits, vegetables, whole grains and healthy fats.

To practice self-care eating, ask yourself these 6 questions when you are in the grocery store, planning your meals for the week, or sitting down to eat:

Am I eating to fuel my body? Food is energy. If you are choosing food for other reasons, try writing in a food journal to better understand those choices.

Am I including fresh fruits and vegetables? Fruits and vegetables provide important micro-nutrition as well as fibre. Good gut health will lead to a longer life! reduce risk of Colon Cancer.

Am I meeting my hydration goals? 64 oz or 2L of water, each day help you maintain regularity, lubricate joints, avoid headaches, and regulate temperature.

 Am I eating at mealtimes? An eating schedule helps you avoid mindless snacking, impulsive or emotional eating, and helps keep calorie intake in check.

Am I focused on the meal, or distracted by something else? Eat in your eating place. Avoid eating in the car, in front of the TV, or in your relaxing place.

You can practice saying this self-care affirmation when you choose nutritious meals! 

“I deserve to eat this healthy food, because I am worth it!”

In Conclusion…

We all need to care for ourselves for different reasons. Whether you have a family, work full time outside of the home, or are studying to become a professional and it’s hard to balance both responsibilities with self-care.

Self-care is an essential part of living a healthy life. If you’re not taking care of yourself, you may not be able to take care of the people who matter most to you.

Taking time for yourself without feeling guilty, isn’t selfish. It’s essential. It may be difficult at first, but it’s worth the effort if you want to feel healthy and be there for the people you love the most.

If making yourself a priority isn’t coming naturally to you yet, don’t give up—it only gets easier with practice. It takes different forms depending on your needs and personality preferences. One self-care routine could involve taking walks outside or listening to music while another might mean reading a good book by candlelight.

So, find what works best and inspires you and make yourself a priority.

Have any self care tips you’d like to add? let us know in the comments! (chichi xo)

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I cry when it's dark out, I cry because I am overwhelmed. I cry because it's not fair. I cry never ending tears. I want to curl up and never leave my bed, it's all a bit much. I know nothing and everything all at once and I feel completely unravelled by it. Vulnerability and intimacy are meant to make you softer more pliable, instead my insides feel like lead and my head is bursting with water. I keep saying the affirmations, I go and work my body ragged but still so violently bad at life. I cry because it's supposed to make me feel better but all I feel is insane and guilty because I do not think I deserve to cry. I am at a better place than most people in the world and yet I feel completely in the shutter. God please unburden me, fix me, fix me, fix me

Literally screamed when that first frame came on my scream. He is so hot and I love when he makes crazy eyes at people when he is about to do something completely insane.

This is cinematic art. Sorry, I don’t make the rules.

THE BOYS 04x04

I think Portia sees most of herself in Penelope and she just never thought herself lucky enough to be loved.

Listening to crime podcasts is crazy cause why do I know so much about disposing of bodies

2023 Goals

I will be taking a page out of the book, The 12 Week Year, and divide my year into quarters. I will be setting daily goals that I will be tracking with a habit tracker. I will also be setting monthly goals and doing a monthly challenge each month. For January, I will be doing a digital detox.

1. Improve my mental and physical health. I’ve made a big decision to stop focusing on weight loss. I’ve always been prone to being a little heavier than most, but I believe I carry it well and that’s just the way my body is. I just want to be healthier, and if I lose weight as a result of that, then so be it. I just want to love the body I’m in and make peace with the way I look. I think it’ll do wonders for my mental health. To accomplish this goal, I will:

- mediate 5-15 minutes a day

- exercise 5 days a week at Burn Boot Camp (start with 2 and work my way up)

- drink 2-3 bottles of water a day

- cook healthy meals at home

- journal regularly

- pray regularly

- take vitamins and medication everyday

2. Clear up skin. I think it would do a lot for my appearance to have clear, healthy looking skin. I’ve purchased a package of chemical peels and I’m on my second one of three. I will continue to get chemical peels every 5-6 weeks until I reach my desired result. I also have a skincare routine recommended by my dermatologist, so I have been following that. The big challenge will be to stop picking at my skin. I know that’s holding me back in accomplishing my skincare goals. I know my anxiety plays into my skin-picking, so I will get that under control through the previous goal.

3. Transition to freelance writing. I am currently working at a corporate job in the finance industry. Although the pay is good and my team is great, I don’t like it. It stresses me out a lot and I don’t think I can do it long term. I envision myself as a business owner with a more flexible schedule. I’ve always loved writing and I would like to make it my career. Charging what I’m worth and creating a schedule that works for me would be a dream. First, I need to pick a niche I would like to write it, find clients on Upwork so that I can build my portfolio, and then make a website to draw in client. Once I have a solid portfolio and have built up my skills, I will start cold-emailing people that I want to work with. Hopefully I’ll be able to leave my job by mid-year. I will leave once I am making the same amount freelancing per hour that I am making per hour at my job.

4. Save $$$. I have a savings goal in mind, but I won’t share it here. I aim to save 70% of my income from my primary job and 100% of my income from my side job(s). I am blessed to live at home which makes this possible. I would like to move out in 2024, so this year is about laying down the financial groundwork to make that possible.

5. Read 30 books. I already have a running list of books to read on my Good Reads, so it will just be about finding the time to read. I tend to burn through fiction books pretty quickly, but non-fiction tends to take me longer. Hopefully my digital detox in January will give me lots of time to read.

Very excited for this year! What are your goals? Do we have any similar ones?

So whimsically delicate.

Hunter Schafer as Tigris Snow in The Hunger Games: The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes (2023)