What's More Important Than Your Future?

Break-ups are so unnecessary

get you someone better

Right keep making fun of people trying to make a change by calling them cringe ;

At least they're trying while you don't.

How to be more disciplined?

HOW TO CULTIVATE SELF-DISCIPLINE:

Know Your Why: Always Keep The End In Mind 

Keep Small Promises To Yourself. Make Them Non-Negotiable. 

Create And Consistently Log Your Progress 

Take Temptations Out Of Sight 

Find Indulgences To Help You Focus On Your Goals 

Know Your Why: Always Keep The End In Mind 

Decisiveness drives discipline. You need to clarify and define your goals. State them clearly with their authentic purpose in mind. If you seduce this end goal into your life, what desire are you truly fulfilling? Ex. If you want to lose 10 pounds: Is it to feel healthier? Look better in a bikini? Fit into a certain pair of jeans? No matter how superficial, identify the genuine reason why you want to achieve a certain goal. Whatever reason elicits a visceral and emotional reaction. Sometimes, especially during a busy work day, your reason could be as simple as wanting to lessen your anxiety and ease into a more relaxed state. Any purpose that resonates. Once you have an emotional response tied to a goal, it becomes infinitely easier to motivate yourself to take small steps towards achieving it. Where energy goes, energy flow. Simon Sinek goes more in-depth with this concept in Start With Why.

Keep Small Promises To Yourself. Make Them Non-Negotiable.

Think of performing self-discipline rituals as confidence-building exercises. This action helps you trust yourself, establishes a sense of integrity, and builds self-confidence. For example, if you stick to your meal and workout plan for 5 days a week, you build trust in knowing you're more powerful than your cravings and are capable of taking good care of your body. If you complete a project on schedule (personal or professional), you prove to yourself that you’re efficient, build confidence in your ability to finish tasks you start, and self-affirm that you follow through on your ideas. Finishing that book this month reflects confirms that you value yourself enough to expand your mind, learn, and expand your knowledge base. Eventually, through enough consistent repetition, these rituals into unconscious habits that you do effortlessly in daily life. 

Create And Consistently Log Your Progress 

You can’t manage what you don’t measure – your finances, calorie and step counts, workouts, productivity, etc. Tracking data related to your habits – such as your spending habits, eating or workout patterns, writing word count, and task completion – on a given day or week – allows you to understand and analyze your current behavior. What habit cues, environmental or other situational factors are keeping you from sticking to the current task at hand? Do you leave your running shoes stuffed in the back of the closet? Junk food in the house? Work from bed or with your phone by your side? Are you avoiding certain emotions? Does this data change when you’re stressed or tired?  

Awareness is the first step towards redirected action. Analyze these data points to see your pitfalls and strategize how to help yourself. 

Take Temptations Out Of Sight

Set yourself up to win. Get the phone away from your workspace, remove any junk food or soda from the house, delete apps, or silence notifications from people who distract you from your goals. Self-discipline becomes significantly easier when you have to take additional steps to indulge in your vices. Replace these temptations with helpful cues to help you build healthier habits that lead to self-discipline. Give yourself visual cues to move you toward your goals. Keep a journal with a pen next to your bed. Leave your workout clothes and shoes out near your bed. Write a quick to-do list right before finishing work for the following day, so it’s easier to jump into the first task right away the next morning. Cut up some produce or do a 30-60 minute meal prep once a week to eat more healthful meals. Find ways to make it easier to stay on track than give in to temptation. 

Find Indulgences To Help You Focus On Your Goals 

Self-discipline shouldn’t feel like deprivation – of certain foods, pastimes, or activities you enjoy. Buy cute workout clothes you feel confident in. Create the most dance-worthy playlist. Make it a priority to buy your favorite fruits and vegetables every week. Rotate a selection of your favorite healthy meals. Leave your sunscreen out – front and center – on your bathroom counter. Find a big, beautiful water bottle to keep on your desk. Purchase aesthetic notebooks, pens, planners, journals, and other office organization items. To make self-discipline feel like second nature, you need to marry indulgences and your desire to meet your goals. Discover the habits that work for you and find small ways to make these tasks more enjoyable. 

Go easy on yourself. Build one habit at a time. Self-discipline is like a muscle. It requires time to build and grows in increments. Try to stay on track and more focused than yesterday. Your only competition is your former self. Find pleasure in the process. Focus on the immediate task in front of you while also keeping your future self in mind. 

there are no big or small manifestations.

everyone perceives things differently. for me, manifesting something small could mean manifesting a phone — for someone else, it could imply manifesting a compliment. but whatever it is, "big" and "small" manifestations don’t exist objectively, but only subjectively — in your mind, according to your beliefs.

everything is equally easy to manifest.

now, when it comes to manifesting a pen it’s not more difficult to manifest than a car or a house, unless you think it is. i‘m gonna remind you again, it’s called the law of assumption — the law of your assumption! you create the rules, you define things and you declare what’s true and what‘s not, what’s real and what’s not. if you say that an sp (specific person) is easier to manifest than a new job, so be it. but don’t make manifesting harder than it actually is for you are completely responsible and in charge of your assumptions!

get rid of thinking logically.

you are free to entirely throw away any "logical" thinking patterns that do nothing but get in your way, hindering you in your manifestation process. you are in complete control of "logic" and your definition of it. let go of any rules that do not serve you, certain ideas or expectations you have of things that restrict you and create resistance. you are allowed to not believe in things that almost the whole world seems to believe in. you don’t need to rationalise anything either — just accept your desires to be yours, for things to be true because you said so.

don’t condition your desires.

no, manifesting to attend rihanna’s concert is not gonna be harder to manifest than manifesting a good grade. it’s a piece of cake. you do not need to tell yourself that you have to put in more work or convince yourself that "big" desires require more effort. they don’t!

your desires are relevant.

you‘re able to desire, meaning you are able to imagine it. and since imagination creates reality, if you weren’t able to manifest it, you wouldn’t be able to desire it. so stop thinking one manifestation is bigger than the other for you can imagine them ALL, therefore you can have them ALL. fulfill yourself no matter how seemingly small your desires might be. as long as you want them, they are important and worth being materialised.

with love, ella.

work until you no longer have to introduce yourself.

Being the slave of a rectangular screen is the most embarrassing thing you can ever do.

We are officially mid-way through the year!! 

Are you proud of the moves you’ve made? 

Have you been focusing on move the needle tasks this past 6 months? 

What are you hoping to achieve in the next 6 months? 

Who do you want to be? 

What do you need to let go? And who? What habits? 

What needs more focus? 

What needs less focus? 

Diving into yourself is juicy, its empowering, it’s expansive. Reflections offer an opportunity to re-align and re-evalaute your dreams and goals and also honour and celebrate how far you have come. Go back to your New Years resolutions, edit your life ruthlessly. You are your greatest masterpiece after all.

I refuse to complain.

I have no right to complain, not about my appearance nor about my health.

I have all the tools and knowledge to transform myself into the best possible version and until I tried everything, I simply refuse to complain about anything.

1 month and 28 days left to 2024.

Choose your time wisely before 2025.