Anyone Else Overwhelmed With Modern Life Expectations?

Happy International Asexuality Day! 🖤🤍💜

For my Christian, Catholic, and general Jesus-believing people on here. 

I like Easter as much as the next person and I still celebrate it in a different capacity, but honestly? Jesus would be disappointed if everyone ignored his sacrifice and only focused on his coming back to life.

For years I have walked into near empty sanctuaries on Good Friday. While the church is packed on Easter, as people spill into folding chairs. This is something that causes me deep grief. People come to see the victorious Christ without even understanding the depth of his miracle. Now this year, the church is empty on both Good Friday and Easter. These are strange times.

At the last Good Friday service I attended at my old church, the pastor  proclaimed at the very beginning of his sermon “no one wants to be here.” He then rambled on about how it was important to be optimistic for the coming Sunday. I remember how anger rose up from deep within me, threatening to spill out from my mouth: “Pastor, we need to be here. It is imperative we be here at this moment.” I am not necessarily a fan of atonement theology, however, it is worse to turn our eyes and hearts away from the horror of Jesus’ death.

Easter is meaningless without Good Friday. Light has no meaning without darkness.

Jesus was murdered. Easter is a story about a criminal preaching of an alternative kingdom. Seen as a terrorist, he was murdered by the Roman Empire. We cannot nor should not ignore this injustice. Jesus could not rise from the grave without being executed by the state. His resurrection would be meaningless if he was not killed by the government.

I don’t like optimistic platitudes. Easter is not a story of optimism. The words that Jesus cried “Eli, Eli, Lema Sabachthani!” are proof of this. It is important to acknowledge that we are in pain, that it is okay to feel abandoned and lost… just like Jesus. Rather, we should approach Easter as a story of hope. The Hope of Jesus Christ. This hope is not empty words of positivity. It is radical. This hope shines through the darkness like a lighthouse in a raging storm. 

In the hours in between the crucifixion and the resurrection, the Apostle’s Creed proclaims that Jesus “descended into hell.” There are early theological ideas that explain how Jesus went deep into the darkness to save souls before rising on Sunday. Many of these theologies depict Jesus fighting Death during His time in the afterlife. An Orthodox idea that I particularly like is that Jesus defeated death with death. 

We cannot ignore that the world is suffering right now. Especially those on the margins of society. The people most affected by this pandemic are the disabled, the chronically ill, the poor, the “essential,” the indigenous, the elderly. People are suffering financial burdens. People are losing their jobs. People are enduring being trapped in homes that have no love. People are in pain, unable to breathe. People are dying. For so many people, this is Hell. 

Hope will be our guide in this Hell. Hope will lead us into confronting and fighting this pandemic as well as the corrupt institutions that enable it to spread. Hope will guide us into the resurrection.

Jesus eternally dies on the cross of this world. Jesus eternally rises from the grave. Wherever Jesus is, let us be. Amen.

most tradfems are also truly feminists.. as long as you truly believe in equality not that women should have more privileges than men. The only reason some women out there denounce feminism is because it's gotten to that point now in a lot of situations these days in a manipulative manor.

also I should add I have met gay and bisexual tradfems too.. otherwise it just means Traditionally Feminine. does this mean you are masculine? ?

most tradwives would consider me masculine, yeah. I’m not submissive, I have a job, haven’t shaved my legs in over a decade, can be rather crass.

the way other people identify is none of my business. gay and bi and pagan and liberal tradfems are welcome to claim that title. I do not wish to be categorized as a tradwife/tradfem.

Love to see some public broadcast television defense of trans rights, especially in the sports section! This stuff gets swept under the rug by sexist coaches and toxic sports culture way too often, and it’s really nice to see someone--especially as @kuriquinn said, an old American white dude, the demographic probably least likely to put out that defense--stand up for Mack Beggs like that!

People don’t always have to understand, so long as they are understanding and supportive.

Sportscaster Dale Hansen defends student wrestler Mack Beggs and takes a stand against transphobia

The Monroe News-Star, Louisiana, May 12, 1950

Happy trans visibility to all the amazing trans guys, trans gals, non-binary folk, genderfluid friends, and any other trans identities! You guys are awesome <3

We see you. You matter. [March 31]

It honestly amazes me how many of my friends and women I know would love to be homemakers but they are embarrassed to admit it. Its sad that it is assumed that all women should want to be “hustlers” and “boss ladies” and wanting to being a homemaker is seen as outdated and having a lack of ambition. 

I’ll admit that I’m a little shy talking about my true goals sometimes, but when I get to connect with another woman who shares the same aspirations it really means so much to me. 

*Just want to make it clear that I’m not hating on women who have career goals. I love and support them too! 

Now that sounds like one peaceful life!

I just want a nice home. A nice home to clean, decorate, & make warm, welcoming, & safe for not only my family & I, but for those in our lives. A home that people look forward to stepping foot in, not dread.

I want a husband who is not only my best friend, but my soul-mate & provider. Who I know always has things under control. Who makes me feel safe, like he'll never stop loving me. Like I can always depend on him. Like he'll never hurt me & I'll never live in fear again.

I want children. Children that I can care for, love, & play with all day. Children that will always know that mommy & daddy always have their best interests at heart. Who know mommy & daddy love each other just as much as they love them, so they can grow up with a healthy view of what a relationship should be. Children that I can tuck in at night after reading a story to, after having given a nice warm bath & can chase around the house or out in the yard during the day.

I want a nice, big kitchen that I can cook & bake in. A kitchen that always has food waiting to be eaten that I made for those I love. They'll never have to worry about going hungry. None of us will.

I want pets that we can play with & brush & give treats & new toys to. Pets that will settle down with us at night in front of a fire in chilly evenings & will be a part of our family.

I want a garden. One where I grow food to use for recipes. One where my children are free to learn how to use their hands to dig into the soil to plant their favorite fruits or vegetables.

I want a calm, loving life. I want to settle down. I don't need to travel the world. I don't need to be famous or rich. I just want simplicity. But for some reason, it feels like asking for that is what's known as too much nowadays.

New blog here, 100% agree!!

Anyone else ever follow a seemingly cute tradlife/cottagecore/homesteading blog, only to cringe and hit the unfollow button when you’re scrolling through your dash and see them reblog some vitriolic anti-choice post about how evil abortion is, and how consenting to sex is consenting to pregnancy?? Or is it just me that that happens to all the time?

Clearly I need to find more progressive bloggers with an interest in femininity to follow. I know there are more of us, despite the majority of the community being conservative! To me, there are few things more traditionally feminine than the practice of caring for and protecting ones’ own body and choosing what’s best for it (and your family). Women have been making tinctures to prevent pregnancy (carrot seed, anyone?) and brewing teas to end unwanted ones for literally as long as humanity has existed. Midwifery as a folk practice often included mentoring young women in safe sexual practices for the time, and family planning was of paramount seriousness in a world where childbirth was dangerous and children died so young. Where is my representation for that traditional femininity–the kind that cherishes pregnancy and infants, but understands the importance of being able to choose the right time for them?

I invite anyone who disagrees with this to kindly unfollow me. And for those of you who do agree, please reblog and help me find more like-minded, feminist blogs that still enjoy homemaking and traditional interests!