I Will Be Like "I'm Fine" And Then Another Fucking Event Will Occur

and ableists say that this sort of shit doesn’t happen.

Here's to narcissists. You aren't evil, abusive, or bad for having NPD. The trauma you went through to develop NPD was not your fault, you didn't deserve it, and I genuinely hope you can heal from it in whatever way is the healthiest for you. I love you, care about you, and wish you the best.

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On February 8th, this nonbinary child was violently beaten by three cis girls. The school did not call them an ambulance after the beating was stopped, and they later died in the hospital from head trauma. They have also been deadnamed and misgendered in their obituary and in the news. As the author of the article puts it:

How is that not national news? A 16 year old beaten to death in a public school bathroom? By other students. All these unanswered seemingly obvious questions about what transpired, and how the adults involved acted. That should be every headline. In fact, almost every local outlet covering the story misgender and deadnames Nex, using their same assigned at birth. The indignities pile on. We don’t yet know if Nex’s nonbinary identity is directly tied to this incident. But, my God, it sure matters to me that this would happen to any child. A nonbinary kid assaulted in a girl’s bathroom. That outcome from the narrative of anti-trans rhetoric these past years. Still why wasn’t this story breaking news? It involves a nonbinary student in a public school. And school violence and school police resource officers. It involves the deep fear so many trans youth have shared with me about their schools.

npd + bpd culture is your fp complimenting someone else in front of you and you Freaking Out over it and possibly even crashing (i’m not sure yet. all i know is i feel horrible). like am i that replaceable. fp has barely talked with me recently.

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ok congress let’s get this discussion started

i think i explained my point best here

a lot of narc abuse truthers use the argument that narcissism ≠ npd which

a) they don’t actually mean and that’s clear in the way that they actively attempt to tear down npd communities online and demonise npd symptoms

b) isn’t a fair justification for mislabeling abuse

nobody in the history of the universe (EVER) has tried to deny that people with npd are capable of abuse. the entire point is that people with npd are not MORE likely to be abusive than anybody else and that there is no pattern of behaviour exclusive to narcissists. every behaviour associated with narc abuse can be, and is, performed by egotypicals and otherwise mentally stable people.

it’s an inaccurate descriptor for a pattern of behaviour because it also assumes that pwnpd are a hivemind. in reality, there are hundreds of ways people could present with npd. the dsm5 criteria is far too broad to make sweeping generalisations about anybody with a diagnosis.

the word narcissist implies npd (and vice versa). that’s not going to change. the only way either party is benefited by the use of the label is that egotypicals get an entire group to hate instead of just their abuser. even if we adopt their mindset and argue that narcissists are inherently abusive (again, categorically false), the demonisation of the disorder has a massive impact on the accessibility of treatment and would, in turn, increase rates of “narcissistic abuse”.

i have a lot to say about how a lot of narc abuse truthers on this hellsite actually have a sufficient amount of npd symptoms to be diagnosed but i’m sure they’ll come at me with some shit about “reactive narcissism” and how their treatment of us is justifiable because they’re better (look in the mirror.)

from complex ptsd: from surviving to thriving by pete walker

sonic sez

i am human and i am flawed because of it but there is an innate capability to connect in the human brain and i think maybe it's okay to start out by connecting to yourself however that may look

Remember when someone was like “haha the funniest thing tumblr could do right now is make it so you get a badge for looking at 600 posts instead of what twitters doing lol” and then they did it. That was pretty awesome. I think the funniest thing tumblr could do right now is stop flagging trans women’s post as sexual right fucking now lol and fix prev tags and get rid of the fucking bigots and racists and nazis for once haha and also apologize for this shit. Wouldn’t that be pretty funny lol haha it would be so funny if they did this

BPD culture is I know everyone leaves eventually. I can't get mad at people for saying they're not going to leave me, they don't know they're lying yet. It's a lie they won't know they're telling until they're already half way out the door. I know how it goes. I can't expect anything else.

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