Monsteradarling - Deliciously Monstrous

It's the difference between understanding individual and systemic issues.

The fact that men are the most likely to be perpetrators of violence and abuse, where women are most likely to be the victims of violence and abuse proves that there's a systemic issue of male violence that victimises women.

That fact doesn't stop a woman being abusive to another woman, or a man being abusive to another man, or a woman being abusive to a man. In every individual case, the victim needs support and the perpetrator needs to face justice.

All that we can do is fight the systemic causes of overrepresented male violence to prevent as much harm against women as possible.

There will always be evil individuals that will commit evil acts because they want to. Even in what would otherwise be a utopia, there will always be those that harm because they enjoy harming.

But the MRAs won't acknowledge any of that. It's much easier for them to be misogynists and go "but what about...!" There is no what about. Male victims will need male-only spaces to find safety after escaping abuse and the MRAs can go support those individual victims. Meanwhile, feminists who actually give a damn want to destroy the roots of male supremacy that makes so many men feel like they're entitled to beat, abuse and rape women (and other men, but the MRAs forget about that part because it doesn't help them try to justify their hatred of women).

At the end of the day, if it was only a case of "well some abusers abuse and feminists obsess over male abusers," then rape and domestic violence statistics would show that male and female abusers and victims both hovering around the 50/50 mark - but that isn't what's happening, is it?

I hate when males bring up female abusers as if it’s supposed to deflect from the majority of abusers being men. As a girl who was sexually abused by another girl from ages 6-10 I can acknowledge that it happens but is nowhere near as common as a male being an abuser. Yes there are female abusers but that does not deflect from the fact that majority are men, no matter how many women abusers there are it will still never compare to the amount of male abusers.

Boston Bisexual Women’s Network (Sep/Oct/Nov, 2008)

just stumbled into a tiktok of a girl who was talking about her ex boyfriend, how he showed her the porn he’s into and it’s all pregnancy and childbirth fetish, to the point that he has a reddit account he uses just to jerk off to one of the most vulnerable moments of a woman’s life. she said he’s going to college to become an obstetrician.

i hate men i hate men I HATE MEN

.................it's always a mistake to underestimate how much time, effort, money, attention and focus men will dedicate to their perversions. "Nobody would go through the trouble of______________ to creep on women" A man would. A man would go through the trouble. Trust me.

I hate that every time I see "Be kind" now, I see "Be quiet".

It makes so much more sense now why its geared primarily towards women.

We always have to sit with our discomfort. Just shut up and go with it, regardless of how you feel.

the most infuriating thing about personal growth is that even if someone else did have the answer you needed and conveyed it to you in a precise and effective matter, it won't make sense until you're ready for it. you could hear it every day of your life and it wouldn't matter a fucking bit until it finally clicks. there's very little you can do to influence when that happens, either

The fact that you're trying to group abusive men with actual oppressed minorities like that's a gotcha is disgusting.

Why is it that women's rights being protected more hateful to you than a violent man gleefully promoting violence against women?

Don't bother to answer, I know it's your misogyny.

They're going to have to build a statue of JRK when this is all over. The most successful author in history and one of the most impactful British feminists in history being the same person is insane.

Summer skies

I’m ready for the night drives

Seven Falls, Santa Barbara 𖦹 April 2025