Respectfully, Bisexuality Is A Sexuality And Not Automatically A Political Performance.

Respectfully, bisexuality is a sexuality and not automatically a political performance.

A woman can't "claim" bisexuality and then have sex with both women and men. She just is bisexual.

Considering patriarchy, the way that men pressure and coerce women to "settle down with a man," the common self-hatred that bisexual women feel - including the fear that by existing and having feelings for other women, we might harm them because being bisexual is somehow "unclean" in some way - it's not fair at all to squint at bisexual women accuse them of being "exploitative and fetishistic."

There is also the very simple, very human situation of a bisexual woman having consensual, no/low-strings attached sex with another woman, that fizzling out, and then coming across a man that she clicks with and starts a relationship with.

Or are we saying that a bisexual woman who is rejected by a lesbian and then who eventually partners with a man is somehow offensive for... some hypothetical lesbian hypothetically thinking, "Actually, she's not for me because I want a girlfriend who loves rockclimbing and she prefers walking on the beach"?

I don't know how there's anything feminist about accusing bisexual women, the ones who are fetishised by men as being hypersexual and forever consenting, about being sexual deviants who exploit other women.

Even as a straight woman looking in from the outside, I can't help but be offended by women who claim bisexuality but say they are attracted to women and will fuck them but will only be in a committed relationship/partner up with a male. It seems exploitative and fetishistic.

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1 month ago

I embroidered a Monstera leaf as a gift.

I Embroidered A Monstera Leaf As A Gift.

Here it is twinning with the Monstera in the gift receiver´s house 🥰

I Embroidered A Monstera Leaf As A Gift.

See how close I came to running out of green thread under the cut:

I Embroidered A Monstera Leaf As A Gift.

It was so close, I´m glad I made it 💗

3 weeks ago

POV You wanted to read more about endometriosis :

POV You Wanted To Read More About Endometriosis :
from biomedcentral. com. 

"Conclusions: the male partner should be taken into account when counselling or treating women with endometriosis..."
from obgyn.onlinelibrary.wiley.com : 

Aim: 
 this study aimed to determine how endometriosis affects the quality of life of partners of women who suffer from this disease and how it impacts their relationships, finances, mental states, and daily living.
an excerpt from an article from the WHO's official website about endometriosis 
"pain from endometriosis can lead to interruption or avoidance of intercourse and affect the sexual health of affected individuals and their partners."
from reseachgate : 

"Study question: what is the impact of endometrioses on male partners of women with the condition? summary answer: endometriosis significantly impacts men across several life domains and can negatively impact emotional well-being."
National institutes of health (HIV)

  "a qualitative study of the impact of endometriosis on male partners - pmc"

I hate it for all the women with endo so much.

All the articles are different. The oldest is 2013-2014, the freshest is December 2024.

1 month ago
I Don't Know What Makes Me Sadder; The Bimbofication To Become Famous, Or The Fact That It Worked.

I don't know what makes me sadder; the bimbofication to become famous, or the fact that it worked.


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1 month ago
The Beautiful Remains Of Some Stained Glass In The Old Church Burned Down During The World War In Coventry...
The Beautiful Remains Of Some Stained Glass In The Old Church Burned Down During The World War In Coventry...

The beautiful remains of some stained glass in the old church burned down during the world war in coventry...

1 month ago

There's been tension between women of different sexualities in feminism from the beginning.

As a bisexual woman, over the years it's made me feel that there's more suspicion of us in feminism because there's this strange belief that bisexuals can turn off part of our sexuality if we want to (which we can't), so if we don't do that then we're traitors or fetishists or something else damaging or harmful, but if we're perceived as being able to turn off part of our sexuality (which again, we aren't), then we're treated with suspicion because what if we decide to turn it back on and betray everyone.

I'm too old and too tired to jump through hoops and beg other women who are supposed to be equally supportive of me and others like me please, please, I'm one of the good bis, I promise! I'll help tear down those evil bi women to prove I'm good! I won't say a thing if there's biphobia, aren't I a good girl?!

The patriarchy already demands enough out of women, and biphobia already damaged me enough when I was younger, I'm not carrying that burden too.

3 weeks ago

I guy in my fyp said today

“Actions taken by men are favors and actions taken by woman are duties”

And I have been just sitting staring into space for about an hour now.

Because this applies to every aspect of woman’s life. Every single one.

I knew this. I just hadn’t given it the proper sentence.


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