Sirius Black was a bitch fyi
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My problem with Lily and James being seen as a super couple has nothing to do with Severus Snape but rather with the fact that when we look at the relationship between James and Lily through a feminist lens, itâs hard not to notice some pretty glaring issues that go beyond just whether or not theyâre an âOTPâ couple. Sure, on the surface it might seem like a story of two people finding love amid all the chaos, but scratch beneath the surface and you see a whole lot more about toxic masculinity, objectification, and the erasure of a womanâs agency. James is celebrated as this charming, rebellious âbad boyâ with a roguish smile, while Lily gets stuck playing the role of the sacrificial, moral compass womanâsomeone who exists largely to balance out and even redeem the male narrative. And honestly, thatâs a problem.
James is shown as this complex, active character whoâs constantly surrounded by friends, enemies, and drama. His life is dynamic and full of choicesâeven if those choices sometimes involve manipulation and deceit. Heâs the kind of guy who can easily slip out of confinement with his Invisibility Cloak, leaving Lily behind in a narrative that, over time, turns her into a background figure. This dynamic isnât accidental; itâs reflective of how our culture often values male agency over female independence. Lily, on the other hand, is repeatedly reduced to her relationships with the men around her. Instead of being a person with her own dreams, opinions, and friendships, she becomes a symbolâa kind of emotional barometer for how âgoodâ or âbadâ a man is. Her character is used to validate the actions of others, which means her individuality gets smothered under the weight of a trope thatâs all too common in literature: the idea that a womanâs worth is measured by her ability to tame or save a troubled man.
This isnât just about a lack of depth in Lilyâs character; itâs also about how her portrayal reinforces harmful gender norms. Lily is depicted as this kind of sacrificial mother figureâa person whose primary virtue is her selflessness, her willingness to suffer and sacrifice for the sake of others. While selflessness is often celebrated in women, itâs a double-edged sword when that selflessness is the only thing we see. Instead of having her own narrative, her role is defined by how much she gives up, not by what she contributes or the inner life she leads. And itâs not just a narrative oversightâitâs a reflection of a broader cultural pattern where women are expected to be nurturing, supportive, and ultimately secondary to the male characters who drive the action.
Whatâs even more frustrating is how Lilyâs isolation is used to further the narrative of Jamesâs redemption. Over time, we see Lilyâs network of friends and her connections outside of James gradually disappear. Itâs almost as if, once she falls in love, her entire world is meant to shrink around that relationship. And hereâs where the feminist critique really kicks in: this isnât a realistic depiction of a balanced, healthy relationshipâitâs a story that subtly suggests that a womanâs fulfillment comes from being dependent on one man and his circle, rather than cultivating her own identity. Meanwhile, James continues to be portrayed as this larger-than-life figure whoâs got a whole world beyond his romantic entanglement, a world filled with vibrant interactions, rivalries, and a legacy that extends beyond his relationship with Lily.
Another point worth mentioning is the way in which the narrative seems to excuse Jamesâs less-than-stellar behavior. His manipulation, his lying, and his willingness to trick Lily into situations that serve his own interests are brushed off as quirks of a âbad boyâ personaâa kind of charm that, in the end, makes him redeemable because Lilyâs love is supposed to âtameâ him. This kind of storytelling not only normalizes toxic masculinity but also puts an unfair burden on Lily. Itâs like saying, âLook how amazing you are, youâre the only one who can fix him!â Thatâs a dangerous message because it implies that women are responsible for managing or even reforming male behavior, rather than holding men accountable for their own actions.
The imbalance in their character development is glaringly obvious when you compare how much more we learn about James versus how little we know about Lily. James is given room to be flawed, to grow, and to be complicated. His friendships, his rivalries, and even his mistakes are all part of what makes him a rounded character. Lily, however, is often just a name, a face in the background who exists mainly to serve as a counterpoint to Jamesâs narrative. Her inner life, her ambitions, and her struggles are rarely explored in any meaningful way, leaving her as a one-dimensional character whose only real purpose is to highlight the moral journey of the man she loves.
Itâs also important to recognize how this kind of narrative plays into broader cultural ideas about gender. When literature consistently portrays women as the quiet, isolated figures who are only valuable in relation to the men around them, it sends a message about what is expected of real-life women. It suggests that a womanâs worth is determined by how much she sacrifices or how well she can support a man, rather than by her own achievements or personality. This isnât just a harmless tropeâit contributes to a societal mindset that limits womenâs potential and reinforces gender inequality. The way Lily is written reflects a kind of âtamedâ femininity thatâs supposed to be passive, supportive, and ultimately secondary to the active, adventurous masculinity that James represents.
At the heart of the issue is the lack of balance in their relationship as depicted in the texts. The idea that Lily âfell forâ a man who was clearly not a paragon of virtue is problematic, but whatâs even more problematic is how her role in the relationship is so narrowly defined. Rather than being seen as an independent character who makes choices and has her own voice, she is constantly portrayed as someone whose existence is meant to validate the male experience. Even when the texts mention that Lily had her own issuesâlike hating James at times or suffering because of the way their relationship unfoldedâitâs always in a way that underlines her weakness compared to Jamesâs dynamic, active presence.
Looking at the broader picture, itâs clear that this isnât just about one fictional coupleâitâs a reflection of how gender dynamics have long been skewed in literature. Male characters are given the freedom to be complex, flawed, and full of life, while female characters are often stuck in roles that donât allow them to be fully realized. This isnât to say that every story with a sacrificial female character is inherently bad, but it does mean that when a character like Lily is reduced to a mere symbolâa moral compass or a measure of male worthâitâs time to ask why and what that says about the society that produced that narrative.
So, whatâs the way forward? For one, we need to start reimagining these relationships in a way that allows both partners to be fully fleshed out. Lily deserves to be more than just a side character or a moral benchmark; she should have her own narrative, her own dreams, and her own agency. And as much as it might be appealing to think of James as this redeemable rebel, itâs equally important to hold him accountable for the ways in which his behavior perpetuates harmful stereotypes about masculinity. A healthier narrative would be one in which both characters grow together, where mutual respect and equal agency are at the core of their relationship.
In the end, the story of James and Lily, as it stands, is a reminder of how deeply ingrained gender norms can shape the stories we tell. Itâs a cautionary tale about the dangers of allowing toxic masculinity to go unchecked and of confining women to roles that donât do justice to their full humanity. For anyone whoâs ever felt frustrated by these imbalances, thereâs hope in the idea of re-writing these narrativesâof pushing for stories where both men and women are seen as complete, complex individuals. And really, thatâs what literature should strive for: a reflection of the messy, beautiful, and often complicated reality of human relationships, where no one is just there to serve as a prop in someone elseâs story.
Ultimately, if we can start imagining a world where characters like Lily arenât just defined by their relationships to men, where their voices and stories are given as much weight as those of their male counterparts, then we can begin to chip away at the outdated tropes that have held us back for so long. Itâs about time we celebrated the full spectrum of human experienceâand that means giving women like Lily the space to shine on their own terms, without being constantly overshadowed by a âbad boyâ narrative that has little to say about their true selves.
Now I have the urge to read Tonks/Snape for the first time in my life.
When Snape told Tonks her man was weak and she could do better, he ate.
Harry Potter who was outraged when the magical community wouldn't accept a werewolf at Hogwarts
Harry Potter who regularly had tea with the half giant groundskeeper
Harry Potter who at 12 years old freed a house elf from his abusive master and then five years later insisted on giving that same house elf a proper burial
Harry has his flaws, but what always stood out to me about him was how tolerant and accepting he was. There were plenty of people he didn't like, but that was always because of who they were as a person. It's even made a point in the series that he maintained relationships with groups who were not usually friendly with wizards (probably because of past mistreatment) like ghosts and centaurs. So, how such a bigoted and close-minded person created him is beyond me.
RECLAIMING OUR WORTH. DEFINING OUR SPACES.
PURPOSE: TO AVOID MALE-CENTERED SPACES, ENHANCE WOMEN'S SAFETY, PRESERVE WEALTH, AND FOSTER GREATER ECONOMIC INDEPENDENCE FOR WOMEN.
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But he is the best chaser and quidditch requires a lot of training. It's also the equivalent to football. You also don't have to be buff to be very athletic, you can be lean and slightly muscular. I think all the adventures and quidditch training does tell the readers that Harry is an athletic person. Everyone who does quidditch is an athlete. Quidditch is the main sport and Viktor Krum, one of the most popular quidditch players, is very masculine.
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describing harry as "an insanely athletic man" while all he does is sit on a flying broom is crazy work
fanfic authors b like âhaha this chapter got a little out of hand itâs a little longer like 60k wordsâ
babes thatâs a novel. you wrote a novel.
âShe wasnât a good motherâ great are we evaluating this character trait as one of her many facets or are we just damning her for not being the most maternal womanliest woman who ever womaned
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He spent his fucking adulthood imprisoned.... He never had a chance to have a job or a family..... And then he died!!!!!!!!
For me, itâs all the popular ones in the current fandom. They all create a version of Sirius that feels sanitized of his complex original traits. I donât have an issue with the fics themselvesâtheyâre great contributions to fan writingâbut I take issue when fans are so influenced by these characterizations that canon appreciation gets sidelined.
I love reading fics, so it frustrates me that so much focus in this fandom is placed on these fanon versions, and that the popular fanfictions available often feature these portrayals. Most fics you find now include them. I wish more people writing Marauders fics would focus on canon. Iâd even read a Jegulus fic if it portrayed the characters well. I just find it strange that this fandom has such a huge divide in how it interprets its characters. It feels weird to completely strip them of their personalities but still call them the same names.
How do they think Sirius Black is portrayed in fanon?
Who is this referencing? Crimson Rivers Sirius or Choices Sirius? ATYD Sirius or TCOPTP Sirius? Only The Brave Sirius or KYD Sirius?
I don't really understand.
It's like a cult who creates an imaginary enemy and fights them with wooden swords. Or the enemy is children. It's worrying. I hope they get well.
Finished Squid Game 2 and I'm obsessed. It got me so hooked I literally cried so hard at the most random moments because of how impactful and meaningful everything felt and the metaphors for capitalism and class and omggg. Season 1 was great but this one just meant more for me and I'm so excited for this thing to become my new source of dopamine for the unforeseen future.