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Will not risk.

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What a shame it is to see peaceful protests where students are asking for an end to the genocide being met with force. We need an end to the occupation and an end to the genocide.

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Important rules/tips I've learned as an adult that helped with anxiety

If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you

If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

People are allowed to be wrong about you

If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect

Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it

The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something

You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it

Most things are better after you sleep on them

Most things are better after you have a meal

Most things are better after you shower

Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"

If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction

If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction

"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier

If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two

You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction

When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery

People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves

If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it

If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable

If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it

If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it

Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step

Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary

If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike

Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP

No one cares what you look like

If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"

People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company

You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you

If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly

You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will

Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable

Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it

Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier

And again, to reiterate: If someone is mad at you, it is THEIR responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

WHOA

You said bullying was abuse. Can you expand on that a bit more?

Okay so...

 Bullying is a term we throw around a lot but the truth is that a bully is just a term a lot of people use to try and go: it’s not that bad when kids are beating each other up or hurting each other.

 I might just be very cynical but in my experience, plus a few documentaries plus my own education, schools do NOT want to have to admit that kids beat each other up because it makes them look bad. As well, if a kid is popular, skilled in some competition, smart or draws some sort of popular attention, teachers and school admin do not want them to be punished.

 Teachers and school admins will not side with the bullied kid. They will ‘talk’ to the child but that’s it. They won’t do anything.

 One documentary, in particular, stands out because the bully would flip the seat up on the bus, put their victim’s head in the seat hole, put the seat down and sit on the seat. The principal acted as if stopping that was enough.

 It wasn’t because the bully continued to hit, punch and choke the other kid out.

If a school admits they have a bullying problem they look bad, so they hide it and say the victims are lying or faking it or being dramatic. And suing them won’t work. Sorry, but schools have good lawyers and school boards will back them up.

 But that’s a rant. Bullying is a term used here because actually calling it what it is sounds worse.

 Assault. Abuse. Harassment.

 A boy snapping a bra strap? Bullying according to teachers.

 In truth? Sexual harassment.

A bunch of boys destroying someone’s stuff? Bullying?

No, destruction of private property, vandalism and emotional abuse.

A child being ganged up and beaten by bullies? Boys being boys or well, bullying.

The truth? They could be charged for assault.

Bullying is a term used to try and smooth over the harsh facts that bullies are just abusers who are young enough people don’t want to admit they are committing criminal acts.

 But if you don’t stop it? Well, sometimes they do straighten out.

 Other times they continue those actions and hurt others. Now it’s called abuse and assault when they’re still doing the same damn fucking thing they did as a kid.

 So... yeah. Bullying is abuse and assault.

alternatives to debates we should use more often in elections

candidates have to take a standardized test about government, economics, and current events. no cheating. their answers are published.

candidates have to draw countries out of a hat and play model UN together

candidates have to play as contestants in a political version of the old game show “The Dating Game”, with a random citizen serving as the “single” person looking for their representative match

candidates are given a simulation problem to solve in a limited time, with real political allies and experts potentially on call for them to reach out to. at the end of the time limit all candidates propose their solutions.

candidates have to take a conflict resolution seminar live on stage, and do team building exercises together

a debate, but like in debate club where the candidates don’t know which side they have to argue until the moderator tells them

candidates each have to participate in an “undercover boss” scenario where they do a normal job for a week. the normal job is selected by an independent panel and secret from the candidate until they show up in makeup

a one-shot d&d session

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