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1st House: The Helm This is where your spiritual energy and identity take the spotlight. The 1st House governs your appearance, personality, and vitality—the essence of how you project yourself to the world. It’s your steez, your approach to life, and the first impression you make on others. The 1st House is all about beginnings, the mask you may unknowingly wear, and how you come to know yourself on a deep authentic level. The captain of this ship is the ruling planet of the zodiac sign residing there.

2nd House: Gate of Hades Your values, self-esteem, and ability to attract wealth are all tied to the 2nd House. This is where your personal resources, possessions, and financial matters come into play. The foods you eat, your saving and spending habits, and your sense of self-worth are all part of this house. It’s where your style and material wealth are rooted, reflecting how you value yourself and what you own. This house represents how you sustain for yourself, how you support all that the first house needs of you to be who you are.

3rd House: Goddess The 3rd House is the domain of communication, early education, and the mind. It governs how you gather and process information, your intellect, and your interactions within your community. This house also encompasses your relationships with siblings, short travels, and technical skills. It’s the space where your to-do list and daily mental activities take shape.

4th House: Subterranean Deeply connected to your roots, the 4th House represents your home, heritage, and ancestry. It’s where your inner life and sense of security are nurtured, influenced by your upbringing and relationship with your parents—especially the mother. This house also relates to land, generational gifts, and knowledge passed down through the family. It’s a space of femininity and the feminine energies in your life. This is the lowest point of the birth chart and can be fairly private and personal-as opposed to the 10th house. It holds up the rest of the chart and is incredibly important in terms of learning about our sense of security/stability emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

5th House: Good Fortune Joy, creativity, and self-expression flourish in the 5th House. This is where you experience the pleasures of life—love affairs, children, art, and entertainment. It’s the house of flirtation, play, and drama, where your passions come to life. The 5th House also governs leisure activities, fertility, and the pursuit of happiness through creative endeavors. A sense of nostalgia lives here too.

6th House: Bad Fortune The 6th House deals with work, health, and daily routines. It’s the space of labor, servitude, and the duties that never seem to end. This house also governs how you care for your body, deal with illness and injury, and interact with employees or pets. It’s where the unexpected challenges in life arise, requiring your attention and resilience. Look here for understanding on what great works you may find yourself committing to.

7th House: Setting Place Relationships take center stage in the 7th House. This is where you finally begin to truly engage with others, forming long-term commitments, whether in marriage, partnerships, or friendships. It’s the house of open enemies, where you face the other in life. The 7th House also governs relaxation, romance, and the deep bonds that define your connections with others.

8th House: Gate of Hades Death, transformation, and shared resources are key themes in the 8th House. It’s where you confront karma, contracts, and generational lessons. This house also deals with loans, debts, and the deep psyche—the mysteries and fears that lie beneath the surface. The 8th House is a place of soul material, where you explore the unseen and the unknown. Here, you face all consequences-positive & negative- of the 7th house and the relationships, contracts, and potential enemies made there. This is the house of others esteem of you, opposite of the 2nd.

9th House: House of God The 9th House is your portal to higher knowledge, philosophy, and spiritual exploration. It governs your worldview, ethics, and the pursuit of truth through study, travel, and discovery. This house is where you connect with religion, spirituality, and the higher mind, expanding your understanding of the world and your place in it.

10th House: House of Praxis Your public life, reputation, and career are shaped by the 10th House. It’s where you strive for honor, recognition, and achievements that define your legacy. This house also relates to your relationships with authority figures, particularly the father, and how you navigate the public sphere. The 10th House is where your goals, fame, and business acumen are realized. Sitting at the very top of the chart, like the sun at noon high in the sky, all can see you here.

11th House: Good Spirits In the 11th House, your hopes, dreams, and social networks come to life. This house governs your friendships, group affiliations, and the communities you belong to. It’s where you connect with humanity, receive sudden blessings, and find support in your aspirations. The 11th House is also associated with gifts, riches, and the imagination needed to dream big.

12th House: Bad Spirits The 12th House is a place of retreat, isolation, and self-undoing. It’s where you confront your inner shadows, secrets, and hidden enemies. This house governs institutions, mental health, and the need for solitude or seclusion. It’s also a space of psychological development, where you deal with endings, sickness, and the unseen forces that shape your life journey. This house is in a blind spot to the first house of Self and that is why we can be blind to the very things that reside here. Its not so much that these things seek out to destroy you but any area of your life your are deeply unaware of can come back and disorientate you from who you believe yourself to be.

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Hello A

Could you explain the term of out of bounds stuff? I'm quite new of the term of 'bounds '. Can any hypothetical point or asteroid out of bounds too?

Hi! Yes it's pretty simple. Beware that "Terms" in astrology can indicate 2 different things, what you're asking for is presumably the one who has to do with planetary dignities.

Each Planet (not asteroid or points) has its dignities - places where it's comfortable or not - and a planet is said to be "out of bounds" is one which doesn't fall in any essential dignity, is also called "peregrine".

You'll know that essential dignities are 4: rulership, exaltation, fall and detriment. So a planet is "out of bounds" when it doesn't fall in any of these 4. Here's a useful cheat sheet:

No, "out of bounds" do not apply to points or asteroids as they don't have essential dignities even though some new generation astrologers are trying to give them dignities as well.

example (¹) : Mars in Gemini is out of bounds because Mars doesn't have rulership, exaltation, fall or detriment in Gemini

example (²) : Moon in Leo is out of bounds because the Moon doesn't have rulership, exaltation, fall or detriment in Leo

example (³) : Saturn in Taurus is out of bounds because Saturn doesn't have rulership, exaltation, fall or detriment in Taurus

example (⁴) : Sun in Virgo is out of bounds because the Sun doesn't have rulership, exaltation, fall or detriment in Virgo

example (⁵) : Mercury in Aries is out of bounds because Mercury doesn't have rulership, exaltation, fall or detriment in Virgo

example (⁶) : Venus in Sagittarius is out of bounds because Venus doesn't have rulership, exaltation, fall or detriment in Sagittarius

example (⁷) : Jupiter in Libra is out of bounds because Jupiter doesn't have rulership, exaltation, fall or detriment in Libra

The cost of betraying one's self

For the last three years, I've felt like I had to relearn who I was, relearn lessons that were imbued upon me from childhood (through self-reflection as an adult), I've had to relearn societal rules (through awkwardly fubbling through social interactions), and whether I even want to abide by these social rules or not. More and more, I start understanding my past self and accepting her after years of rejecting and being embarrassed of her, as I come back into myself. But I feel like I began navigating this rebirth in the wrong manner.

I approached it in a manner in which I believed there were objectively a right and wrong way of doing "life", in part due to having befriended certain people that thought that who I was, how I thought and how I sought to navigate the world were wrong because it did not make sense to them, but also by accepting and internalising their critiques instead of recognising them as very strong subjective opinions. While I could be very stubborn, I also had a porous mind. I feel like it is in my nature to be attracted to anyone who wants to bestow me with any new knowledge or different perspectives that I can mull over, being a mrigashira native. The only issue was that instead of giving me new perspectives, they belittled and ridiculed my thought processes. And I knew that they were opinions to begin with, but the more I recognised that the world around me agreed with them, the more I started to question whether how I perceived the world around me was "correct".

I watched a video by Claire Nakti that spoke about people copying you/stealing your destiny, and she gave an analogy that went along the lines of, "when you decide to take in information that someone else has discovered, instead of eating the fruits of knowledge that they consumed, you end up eating the excrement of the people who ate the fruit" (I said it in a far my crass manner but you get the gist of what I'm saying). Not only do you not take in the full knowledge or wisdom, but you will also often misinterpret what you are hearing and seeing, and subsequently impose these incorrectly understood lessons and ideas onto your life, and potentially others, because you have not made sense of these lessons from your own point of view, nor attained the wisdom, through experience, attached to these lessons. But not only that, you end up not living out your own destiny by attempting to steal another's. This is probably why incredibly wise people are usually portrayed as very old in media. Someone that has lived that long has had many many experiences but also the time to learn and wisen due to them.

I'm not going to speak on this too much because ultimately, you could always just go watch Claire's video for more information on Ketu and Rahu, and it's relation to making sense of the world with the knowledge you came into the world with, and also your own acquired wisdom that one gains as you navigate the world. Going back to my own personal story, I will not say whether my friends interpretations of the world were "correct" or "incorrect", or whether now that I'm in a different state of mind, I agree with them. What I will speak on is the danger of betraying oneself in the pursuit of really anything. For me, it was the pursuit of social acceptance and assimilation into spaces that may not have been for me and in spaces, that I myself may not have wanted to be in, if I were being honest with myself.

We all likely have friendships in which we have much in common with our friends, and also differ in many ways from. I've always wonder why I had friendship groups in which we differed in many ways, and this always fascinated me, and I could never make sense as to why our friendships worked. Maybe I enjoyed these friendships because they always had people with differing ideas to that of my own that made me really "think" and question my own view points, that's these friendships were stimulating, as I am a person that loves to question. My friendship with these two particular friends hinged on a shared love of similar music and interests as most friendships do but differed in how we perceived the world greatly. Instead of agreeing to disagree, my friends sought to change my perspective through belittling, triangulation, and bullying. I recognised that I wasn't happy in the friendship, but I stayed in that relationship, longer than I should have, due to fear of being alone. COVID came around, and I thought I would spend the year 2020 "fixing" myself, as many other people sought to do. I threw myself into a ton of psychology content so I could psycho-analyse myself and effectively learn where I needed to improve in myself and my approach to my interpersonal relationships. What made the whole process near impossible, is that I was dealing with a severe case of moral perfectionism, in which I thought that the times in my past in which I had caused harm to people, were like blemishes on my being that I could never get rid of, like they would haunt me for my entire life, and would never be able to separate myself from having been that person. You can't move on from past versions of yourself if you think you'll always be tethered to them. Also, trying to take in all this knowledge, that didn't resonate with me at the time, was also incredibly overwhelming, but also useless, and I could never incorporate what I learnt effectively into my life, because it did not come naturally to me. I honestly blame myself for having bought into the ideas surrounding cancel culture, because if you're not willing to forgive and allow someone to move on with their lives after having made past mistakes, how can you do that for yourself?

I also really got into astrology, so I could learn how to read my birth chart with the sole purpose of understanding what my flaws and shortcomings were in this lifetime so I could correct them. I had spent a great deal of my adolescence being bullied by age-mates and even past friends and I think these experiences also informed this idea that there had to be something fundamentally wrong with me to have experienced all of it, and that if I could dig into myself and expel it from my being, I could subsequently be treated better by the world.

Slight sedgeway from the video, but I want to say that once, I was speaking to my mom, and I asked her if I should change my approach on a specific situation I was experiencing, and she told me not to allow people to change who I am, meaning don't allow other people's behaviour towards you change who you are, and how you would react to a situation. By allowing someone to influence your behaviour, or "matching their energy", you're giving someone else power over yourself, and how you would actually react to a situation if you were being your authentic self, which could be a big price to pay for simply wanting to stroke your ego. Also, when you have to answer for your behaviour or words, you'd feel a lot more confident in your past actions by actually believing in what you've done and said, instead of it coming from a place of fear, in some cases, or ego.

So, getting back to trying "to fix" myself; in trying to do so, I think I experienced the actual death of my mind and soul. I should mention that I have always had a habit of ridding myself of the past to make way for who I want to be in the present (I'm not sure if this is due in part to my heavy pluto influence in my chart), example, I always liked getting rid of old art because I had discovered a different art style. And so my nature of always wanting to start completely anew or on a clean slate had ultimately bit me in the ass, because in my bid to "fix myself", I found that I had rid myself of everything about my being; my personality, my opinions, my temperaments, the things I cared about, the things that drive me.

I really didn't know who I was or what I believed in. I had no idea what kind of person I was even trying to work towards being because I sought to destroy the foundations, that I had taken years, leaving me with no real basis to start with but also leaving me an empty shell or husk.

I spent a year and a half in a state of derealisation and depersonalisation. I existed in a state of limbo. When you experience depersonalisation and derealisation, it's like being underwater. You can't process information as well. I honestly don't know how I got through my third year in that state. You're never really present, and even when you perceive things going on around you, you sense these things, but sometimes you don't really process them in your mind. It's like the saying, "going through one ear and out the other." I think it's relevant to mention that I had no hobbies and I found that I struggled listening to new music, in fact I found myself wanting to listen to music that my dad would play when we were children, almost as a form of comfort, but also (and this ties back to the whole premise of this post) as if I had regressed to being a child again. When I came out of that state, I found that I had to relearn a lot of things, that I most likely knew before but just couldn't remember, almost like I was starting over again, from the beginning.

And by the way, this is not a sob story. I knowingly betrayed myself by being in a relationship with people who I knew did not truly like or accept me for who I was but I unknowingly betrayed my soul by completely destroying the growth that I had made up until I would said my 19th year. And why I mentioned Claire Nakti's video earlier is because ultimately, what I would like you take away from this message, is that on the one side, there is a lot to learn from others, but in your pursuit of knowledge, make sure that even when you seek to learn from others, that their messages resonate with you, so as not to be led astray. Also, become comfortable with walking the path less travelled, especially when it resonates with you. I was so set on being accepted that I completely neglected the voice that told me that the ideas being imposed onto me didn't resonate with me, that I didn't actually like the people I desperately wanted to approve of me, that who they were was not who I wanted to be, nor wanted to be associated with anyway. Essentially, if you've ever been through what I've been through, my advice to all of us, actually really for anyone, is to worry less about whether you're getting it "right", and to worry more about whether it feels right to you.

Subsequently, making this discovery also made me wonder how I would raise my children, like would I act as a guide or assistant. Growing up, my parents furiously imposed their beliefs onto us as children, which I subsequently rejected, not only because it didn't make sense to me at the time, but also because I needed to gain my own understanding to really develop these beliefs for myself. And so the way I think I'll go about parenting my children, is to gently advice them, so they would be more accepting of the advice but also try to ensure that I'm giving them these lessons in a manner that they can understand and make sense of for themselves, and not be frustrated when they decide to make decisions that go against my advice because ultimately, people learn better from experience than being told what to do, especially children. Life isn't a test, it's an experience, you're allowed to fuck up, you're allowed to become a different person overnight, don't rush the process, because ultimately, the destination will be there when you finally get there.

It almost feels like I am having a similar experience to Bella Baxter from 'Poor Things', in the sense of discovering the world, one' s self, how the world reacts to me and how I subsequently react to the world, anew. The only difference being that I had a detailed understanding of my past self, that made my relearning of myself and the world staggered, as I desperately attempted to cling onto who I once was, once I realised that I had completely destroyed the version of myself that I loved and respected. In pursuit of social acceptance and really, self-acceptance, I had completely forgotten how much had gone into me being who I was and how hard I had worked to become that person. Bella Baxter had the advantage of not having any reference for who she was "meant" to be. The friends she met on the boat and in France liked her for her uniqueness. It makes me very cognisant of the saying, "When you attempt to be like someone else, you're robbing the world of yourself." It's very true. So, while I would never advocate for complete isolation, I would say, try to process things on your own, without outside opinions or potential influences.

Do you ever wonder if the Idol you like is actually a misogynist because the sexism in Korea is so bad they now even have an anti-feminist president and every 1,8 days a woman dies through a sexual crime and korean women have literally formed a movement in which they boycott any kind of relationship with men regarding sex, dating, marriage and if southkorean men don't change the whole population is gonna be down by HALF by 2100 because women also refuse do procreate and have children and it's absolutely not possible that every member of every boygroup you like is unproblematic in this regard or are you ignorant?

This....hits home.🥺

091024 / 11.07 p.m.

"I gave you $10,

he gave you $20,

you felt that he was better just because he gave you more,

but he had $200 and all i had was $10"

What’s a piece of media (book, movie, song, etc.) that completely changed your perspective on life? How did it impact you?

"There is a kind of sadness that comes from knowing too much, from seeing the world as it truly is. It is the sadness of understanding that life is not a grand adventure, but a series of small, insignificant moments, that love is not a fairy tale, but a fragile, fleeting emotion, that happiness is not a permanent state, but a rare, fleeting glimpse of something we can never hold onto. And in that understanding, there is a profound loneliness, a sense of being cut off from the world, from other people, from oneself..."

Virginia Woolf 📓 To the Lighthouse

About planetary maturity

In Vedic astrology, the concept of planetary maturity, or Graha Pakvata (sansk.), refers to the specific age at which each of the nine planets reaches its full potential and begins to influence the native's life with greater clarity and strength. Once a planet attains maturity, it becomes more capable of interacting productively with other natal and transit planets. Such planets are considered "wiser," better equipped to counter malefic influences and mitigate negative effects.

It is important to note that changes after a planet matures do not happen suddenly. These changes unfold gradually, over the course of a year or even several years, after the planet reaches its full potential. However, if a planet is particularly significant in a natal chart, its mature effects will be more noticeable, both physically and emotionally.

Traditionally, the most important planets to consider are:

The Moon and the ruler of the Moon

Lagnesha (the ruler of the Ascendant, or Lagna)

Planets occupying the 1st house (where Lagna is located)

Important note: If, say, two planets are in conjunction and are located within 15 degrees of each other, the planet that matures earlier will be held back until the second reaches its maturity age as well. For example, if Venus and Rahu are within a 15-degree orb in a chart, even if Venus is strong and well-placed, you can expect the person to experience unstable relationships or a lack of desire to settle into marital life until Rahu reaches maturity (the maturity ages of each planet and the lunar nodes are listed below).

Estimated maturity ages of the planets according to Jyotish:

Jupiter: 16 years — by 16, a person begins to understand moral principles, distinguish between good and bad, and typically get a secondary school education. Jupiter, being the planet of expansion and wisdom, fosters further education and a deeper understanding of life. By this age, a person is no longer a child.

Sun: 22 years — Following Jupiter's maturity, the Sun reaches maturity at 22, bringing self-awareness and a sense of ego and individuality. People at this age begin to seek their place in society and explore their life purpose.

Moon: 24 years — When the Moon matures, emotions become more stable and grounded compared to the emotionally turbulent teenage period , particularly in water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces). This period is especially noticeable for young females, as many enter into their first serious relationships.

Venus: 25 years — Venus’ maturity brings a more practical and grounded approach to love and relationships. Romantic affairs become more meaningful, and this is often the time when some individuals settle into long-term commitments or marriage.

Mars: 28 years — By this age, Mars stabilizes. People learn to manage impulsiveness and aggression, replacing bold, impulsive actions with more thoughtful decision-making. They also become more competitive and are better at taking calculated risks.

Mercury: 32 years — At this stage, individuals become more analytical and practical in life. They gain better control over their finances, start businesses, or pursue higher education. Daily communication becomes more purposeful and refined.

Saturn: 36 years — One of the most critical ages in life, Saturn’s maturity marks the end of any lingering childhood attitudes. Real adulthood begins, where life philosophy, karma, career, and societal roles become established. If Saturn is prominent in a chart, significant life changes often happen around this time.

Rahu: 41 - 42 years — Rahu, symbolizing material desires, generally brings material success by this age. By 42, a person has typically achieved a certain level of wealth and understands their true desires in life.

Ketu: 47 - 48 years — Ketu's maturity leads to spiritual development and detachment from material concerns. By this age, individuals start focusing on spiritual growth, introspection, and deeper understanding. This period marks a shift toward spiritual realization and inner peace.

Respectively, the astrological houses where these planets are located begin to deliver their maximum results after the planets reach maturity.

𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐓𝐎 𝐏𝐔𝐓 𝐀𝐍 𝐄𝐍𝐃 𝐓𝐎 𝐉𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐘 𝐎𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐀𝐋𝐋.

"How nice is it to know that you are never ever in competition with anyone but yourself? No one could ever occupy the same space as you, emit the same energy as you, shine your exact life experience. I love knowing that the more truly me I become, the better everything becomes." - Dove Cameron

Introduction

This may be the first of a few posts related to rearranging your mindset specifically pertaining to confidence, so I won’t be covering everything in this one post about how to acquire absolute self love and whatnot. For now, we’ll just focus on jealousy and more specifically the feeling of inadequacy. Before we start, I’d like to quickly provide the definition of jealousy: Jealousy is the feeling of discontent due to the possessions, characteristics or merits of another. It comes from a place of lack because it is the understanding that you are missing something, which consequently harbors insecurity and self-doubt. I understand, it’s hard to be confident in oneself when you’re bombarded with milestone culture and beauty standards that constantly dictate what you should look like and what your life should be like; And when you’re constantly surrounded by people who embody those standards, it’s easy to believe that there’s something inherently wrong with you for not living up to them. I was once in that position, but I’ll touch on that later on. The first half will discuss changing the way you see others and the second will discuss changing how you see yourself (and my experience doing that). Without further ado, these are the mindset adjustments that I implemented into my life that helped me stop feeling inferior to anyone else.

No envy, just inspiration.

Instead of focusing on the fact that they are something you are not, start seeing people as motivation for what you aim to be. Other people are and should be seen as sources of inspiration because they are testaments to the reality of your aspirations. It doesn’t matter what the goal is, whether you want to be a top student or have your dream body, it is achievable and the decision to acquire it will always depend on you. Stop downplaying your capacity. If they can, why can’t you? What makes them more capable than you? The only difference between you and them is your mentality and the diligence to go after what you want. 

People are only what we know about them.

It’s easy to be jealous of someone - such as an influencer, for example - when all you see from them is the good parts of their life. You may think to yourself that you’d give anything to switch lives with another when the truth is everyone always has something going on behind closed doors. You see people for everything you want to have, do and be but it’s also important to remember that we only see people for what they choose to share with the world. 

Compare yourself to others… the right way 

If you’re going to compare yourself to another person, do it in a way that puts you on the pedestal. Instead of dwelling on what somebody else has that you don’t, switch the narrative into thinking about what you have that others don’t. It’s so easy to make list of everything you wish you had, but have you ever stopped to consider what you have that they don’t? Maybe they have your dream body, but they don’t have a contagiously endearing smile like yours. You may not have a captivating relationship like they do, but you have a best friend who loves and supports you unconditionally. They’re gifted at math, but they’re not as skilled at drawing as you are. Maybe you don’t have any of the previously mentioned qualities, but there will always always be something about yourself worth appreciating that they do not have. You’re so fixated on what’s missing in your life that you tend to forget about what isn’t. Picking up this habit will take away the feeling of lack because you’re remembering all that is in your possession right now and not only will it take your mind off of that but it’ll also feel reassuring to know that you aren’t below somebody else after all. Instead of letting them be the standard, you become the standard, which brings me to my next point:

Live by your own standards

I cannot emphasize how important it is to set your own standards and live by them. Socially, you will be told that matters such as beauty and success look a certain way and any deviation from it is undesirable. Why should you live your life according to somebody else’s rules or standards? Your perception of what it means to be beautiful or successful will never be exactly the same as somebody else’s, so it’s nonsensical to force yourself into a mold that wasn’t made for you in the first place. Humanity is not a monolith. Success, fulfillment, happiness and beauty are all relative. What one person regards as success is failure to another, what someone considers to be the epitome of beauty might be completely unappealing to another. Do not allow another person to impose what their ideal definition of any of these concepts is unto you. Your perception is the only one that matters and you are the one who gets to dictate what the standard for yourself should be. 

Your greatest competition and your worst enemy - yourself

This is the part where I talk about my experience with jealousy and feelings of inadequacy. I was once an incredibly anxious person who always felt like she was “behind” in comparison to everyone else. I would constantly compare my life to everyone else’s and feel guilty because I hadn’t accomplished as much as them. One day, I had the most enlightening epiphany: I realized that the only person who was imposing these expectations and pressure on myself was none other than my very self. Nobody in my life was telling me that I had to be doing this and that, it was always me who set that standard up because of what I heard elsewhere and as a result I was practically my own enemy. I never stopped to ask myself why that was a standard I chose to satisfy in the first place and because of that, I unintentionally created so much unnecessary stress for myself.

We constantly worry about what the correct way to live, be or do something is and what abiding by otherwise suggests about us but as it turns out, in the end it’s only you who will hold yourself to that. Other people are busy living in their own worlds, pursuing their goals, or even struggling mentally comparing themselves to the next person and we don’t even know it because we are too clouded by our own judgment to realize that. I was my own obstacle and my own bully. The only person who cared about what I was and wasn’t doing was myself and I wish I had realized this earlier because the moment I did I finally let go of that pressure. I learned that there is no correct way to succeed and as long as I was moving forward, the rate at which I progressed would never matter.

Sometimes you are your own worst enemy and you need to be the one to call yourself out for it. Entertaining imaginary one-sided competitions and enforcing baseless expectations will only impose frustration on yourself. If I could give my old self some words of advice, this is what I would say to her: Be more kind to yourself and make your life a little easier by not getting in your own way. You’re the one person who will always be by your side at any point in your life. Have your own back, be your biggest supporter and your own best friend. Appreciate yourself more and give yourself more credit for how far you’ve come. Take it one day at a time and trust yourself because success does not have a fixed trajectory. 

Your new mentality

When I had my epiphany and chose to switch the comparison narrative around, I started to truly change how I saw myself and what my thoughts looked like in respects. In the present day, my mentality is that I live my life for myself only and I have zero interest in living up to anybody else’s standards and expectations but my own. I don’t care about what anyone else is doing because I am my biggest priority and my attention is exclusively directed towards my ambitions. Upon appropriating this mindset, I completely let go of that old version of me and never looked back. It’s been one of the best personal decisions I have ever made and I hope this encourages you to do the same out of love for yourself as well.

Take a deep breath and relax, this is your life. Only your goals and who you aspire to be matters. Stop living by others’ rules and start living by your own. Become so fixated on yourself that you can’t be bothered to care about what anybody else is doing or saying. Put yourself first and do whatever it takes to preserve your peace of mind. Stay away from people who actively make you feel inferior and delete social media if it’s distorting your expectations and standards. Whatever means are necessary but take yourself out of situations that make you feel less than others and start shifting your mindset into one that sees you as a winner.

Final words

Only you get to decide if you’ve had enough of feeling like you’re not enough. Implement and think about what I wrote in this post. Live by it until it feels so natural to you that the idea of being jealous of another feels unbelievably silly (because it is)! The longer you sustain this state of mind the sooner you’ll be at peace mentally. I leave you with a final reminder:

It is never too late to become the person you have always dreamt of being. Find inspiration in other people, establish your goals and do what it takes to achieve every single one of them. Do it for nobody else but you. Be so loyal to the dream version of you that it inevitably materializes before your eyes. You are infinitely greater than you think you are. The world is far too grand and your life is full of too much potential for you to allow yourself to be suppressed by the expectations of others and the fictional competition you have placed upon yourself with another. There is nothing in this world that you cannot have, do or be and the only person you should be competing with is yourself. Every day is a new opportunity to be better than who you were yesterday. You’re not running out of time because your path is your own. Nobody could ever come close to imitating the excellence that is you and nobody ever will, that will always be your greatest blessing and your greatest brag. 

here's an article going into detail of each color and other herbs, usages in Vedic Astrology:

The Times of India

Colour of All Planets - What is the Colour of Rahu, Ketu, Mars, Mercury, Jupiter, Venus, Saturn | - Times of India

Kundali Dasha & Remedies News: Colour of All Planets in Astrology - he visible light which is a mixture of seven colors gets manifested in v