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Good Read: How NOT to parent

Hello my beautiful followers…

I hardly ever rant, but I’m going to today and the subject matter is parenting.

I don’t know if any of you guys out there are parents, but if you are, I hope that you listen extremely closely. If you’re not yet a parent, I think some of you will identify with this and be glad that somebody told the fucking truth.

I’m going to point out a few things that parents should NEVER do and why they should never do it, here we go:

1. Don’t set rules. I know this sounds crazy to some of you, but bear with me. When you set a rule, the kids just wonder why you set it and then they go exploring. Rules are pointless and lead to your kids hiding things from you. Rules just cut off all chances for conversation; they basically say “this is what I believe and you have to believe it, too. Period. End of story.” You’re giving your kids no reason to feel like they can talk to you. Why not just have an open relationship with your kids? Tell them your experiences with a certain thing, ask for your kid’s thoughts on it, and make them feel like they can talk to you. If you start teaching your child to have an open and honest relationship with you when they are young and you don’t freak out about anything, they will be more likely to want to talk to you.

Rules = poor relationship between parent and child, lying, and no communication. 

2. DO NOT SPANK YOUR KIDS. This is the most important thing that you need to read out of this whole post. SPANKING YOUR KIDS TEACHES THEM THAT ABUSE IS OKAY. Some of you will roll your eyes at this. Go right on ahead, but mark my words that your kids will pay for your mistakes and your choice to spank them. Let me spell this out for you stupid heads out there that think spanking is okay. When people spank their kids, many parents say that they still love them but HAD TO DO IT to teach them a lesson. Really? Fast forward 10 years later and your son or daughter gets raped and their rapist says, “I love you, but I had to do it.” Hm. Sounds kind of similar doesn’t it? Spanking teaches kids that they deserve to be abused for their mistakes or even for doing nothing wrong at all; it teaches kids that abuse is done out of “love”. I’ve never heard such a load of shit in my entire life. Now I’m not perfect, before I understood all of this I would spank my siblings when they would do something that was really bad while I was babysitting, but I haven’t spanked them ever since I started remembering what happened to me. When I realized what I was doing, I just couldn’t do it. I think you have to be heartless to spank your child or the child of someone else. How can you listen to your child cry and scream or hear them say “Mommy please stop” or “Daddy you’re hurting me” without dying inside? Now don’t even get me started on those parents who take it even further to the point the kid has a hand print on their butt or that their cries and screams turn from pain and sadness to literal anxiety, fear, and death screams. The logic behind spanking children is even stupid. I mean, come on, “if you make a mistake, let me hit you”. Really? 

Spanking = children thinking abuse is okay, fear of mistakes, and abusive tendencies.

3. Don’t force your beliefs on your children. I understand that your life went a certain way, but don’t force that on them. Just because your marriage at 18 failed, doesn’t mean mine will. Your story is not mine, so stop trying to force it on me. If your kids are gay and transgender, its okay if that’s not what you would have chosen, but it’s not your choice. You’re not going to have a kid that likes you very much if you keep trying to force them to be you.

Forcing your beliefs on your children = insecurity, anger toward the parents, and no relationship with your kid after they move out

4. Do not spew hate at your children. There is a song that I LOVE called “Honest” by TFK and it says “Love is still the answer more than hate could ever know.” I wonder how much different the world would be if we stopped yelling and started listening. LOVE YOUR CHILDREN. It’s YOU who sets an example of love for your children. If you don’t show them a good example of love, when they get older they are going to go to what you showed them. You need to love your kid whether they are LGBTQ, pregnant, depressed, mentally ill, have an eating disorder, were abused, are being bullied, or are perfectly fine. You need to love them. Parents need to love more and talk less. Do you think giving your pregnant 15 year old a “talk” is going to do anything? NO. At that point, you need to love her. You need to be excited for her. You need to show her that its okay to be excited. You need to HELP HER. Please, for God’s sake… love your kids.

Hate spewing at your children = depression, anxiety, fear, hatred of parents, insecurity, and your kids never telling you about anything.

5. Don’t freak out about your kids wanting to use technology all the time. Technology is not going to brainwash your children. We are in a constantly evolving world that is moving FORWARD. We have to move forward with it to be successful. Believe it or not, technology breeds creativity it doesn’t make it disappear. Let your kids learn and discover new things; let them play Minecraft, watch movies, read E-books. They are going to turn out fine.

Taking away technology = less creativity, alienated from society, and kids feeling like they aren’t allowed to be who they are and express themselves in their own way.

6. DO not tell your kids what they can and can’t watch or read (within reason, of course). Just because you’re a Christian, shouldn’t mean your kids can’t read and watch Harry Potter. The author is a magnificent writer and the story is so imaginative and captivating. Just because life isn’t a fairy tale doesn’t meant that your kids shouldn’t be able to read them and dream big. And just because Disney Channel isn’t your favorite doesn’t mean that your kid shouldn’t be able to make their own opinion. If you’re worried about it corrupting them then you probably didn’t raise them right anyway. If you had raised them right, you wouldn’t be worried about stuff like that; you would trust them to know what’s okay and not okay and to talk to you about anything they’re confused about.

Reading/Television restrictions = less imagination, blinders to the world, feeling alienated from their friends who get to do what they want, and less educated.

7. Please don’t act like all of your kids are the same because they are NOT. What helped one kid could hurt another, what another kid likes could be hated by another. Let them be individuals and listen to their needs. One kid might do great at public school and thrive, while the other could be super introverted and want to do school at home. Let them have choices. They know what they need better than you.

Treating your kids all the same = anger toward parents, depression, and kids feeling like they aren’t important.

Rant over…for now.

I’m sure there will be a part II to this at some point, so stay tuned. 💜

Love,

Mica Kenzy

what he says: I'm fine

what he means: Honestly the idea of men not being able to have emotions other than anger is really upsetting and an issue that needs to be addressed in our society. The hyper masculinity in our society that we teach to male children starting right as they are able to speak is an issue, we should be teaching kids that feelings are okay and that they should be able to express themselves in a healthy manner instead of bottling it up because "crying isn't manly"

I’ve watched this for 30 minutes straight and it never gets old

Tom Hardy making noises

PSA: BPD

BPD:

Is not multiple personality disorder

does involve extreme reactions to abandonment whether real or perceived

does involve unstable and intense interpersonal relationships

does involve impulsivity

does involve recurrent suicidal tendencies or self harm

does involve affective instability due to a highly reactive mood (i.e. periods of intense anxiety for example will last for a couple of hours and rarely more than a couple of days)

does involve chronic feelings of emptiness

does involve intense feelings of anger/difficulty controlling anger

does involve stress related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms such as feeling cut off from oneself. 

You also only need to display 5 of these symptoms. Thus people can have bpd without the unstable relationships that is stereotypical of bpd. I know they are common symptoms but they aren’t aren’t the only ones. Also please learn the difference between multiple personality disorder (dissociative identity disorder) and bpd. Just because I dissociate sometimes doesn’t mean that I have DID. Learn the difference and stop saying the only way to be bpd is to have unstable and intense relationships. 

Kinky

My kink is that fresh book smell

witches protecting trans boys

Witches drawing a sigil on trans boys’ binder labels to make sure they stay safe and healthy while wearing them Witches helping trans boys to destroy their dysphoria by getting them to stomp their feet and shaking it all out, quickly sweeping it away with their broom

Witches enchanting a necklace to give trans boys happiness in their hair cut and jaw line Witches taking trans boys for a calming walk in the forest, making them an antler crown from broken twigs and saying they look like a very handsome forest Prince Witches giving trans boys a piece of Carnelian to squeeze every time they take a deep breath and prepare to speak to give them confidence in their voice Witches making up specially charged cups of tea to send positive energy from head to toe as a substitute for T when trans boys are really down for not having it yet, as a magical “tea” shot Witches cursing transphobes and not letting anyone harm their trans brothers Witches falling in love with trans boys and being so excited to watch their boyfriends grow into charming young men full of star dust Witches protecting trans boys

Breaking Astrology Down

Your Sun is about yourself. Your Moon is your heart. Your Rising is how you look. Your Mercury is the way you think. Your Venus is how you love. Your Mars is how you deal with life. Your Jupiter is your luck. Your Saturn is how you discipline yourself and your responsibilities. Your Uranus is how unique you are. Your Neptune is your imagination. Your Pluto is your transformation. Your Chiron is how you heal. Your Ceres is how you take care of yourself. Your Pallas is your relationships. Your Juno is beauty and Influences. Your Vesta is your potential and your organization. Your North Node is how you develop in your current life. Your South Node is how you developed in your past life. Your Midheaven is your career, how others view you. Your Lilith is your hidden emotions.

PSA FOR AFAB PEEPS ON TESTOSTERONE

THE FOLLOWING IS IMPORTANT, BUT INCREDIBLY TMI AND NSFW. 

Nevertheless, we need to talk about something that they don’t tell you when you start taking that sweet sweet testosterone… DICK CHEESE

There will come a point during your transition when your clitoris will grow into something resembling the uncircumcised dick of an infant. It’s great, but with great dickage comes great responsibility. Little Peen Peen will wanna come out and see the world every now and then, and he will take all the grossness from outside back into his little hood with him. 

YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE YOU PULL HIS HOOD BACK AND CLEAN HIM OFF T H O R O U G H L Y.  If you don’t clean him, he will develop DICK CHEESE, otherwise known as smegma. This is a white-ish substance that gets hard and builds up over time. Dick cheese isn’t really visible unless you pull the hood back, but you HAVE TO CLEAN IT OR IT WILL HARDEN AND HURT. 

For the life of me, I will never understand why doctors and nurses don’t teach you this stuff when you start hrt, but they really should. 

Reblog to save a Peen Peen. I know this is a really disgusting thing, but it’s IMPORTANT.