Oh God Dont Give Them Ideas /lh

constantly fronting host culture is here pal!! I made you a bracelet with your name on it! yeah, I know you're not gonna front, yeah I know you won't be able to wear it yourself, yeah I know I'll be talking for you and that's the closest you're comfortable getting to fronting, but I made you this bracelet anyways!! So that you can feel loved and welcome and recognized!!!

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Hey, system originals and hosts--or whatever word you'd use. And anyone else who needs to hear it.

It's ok if you want to put your headmates first, before even IRL connections you have. It's not wrong. You're not "cringe". You're not evil or selfish or "worsening your condition" by default. You share your body with your headmates. Whether you view them as parts of your'self' or not, you share a singular form you all have to coexist inside of. People outside your body shouldn't get a say as to what you do with it.

It's ok if you want to do things for them that you wouldn't otherwise do with your life. It's ok if you need to make compromises together about what path you wanna take, and change up some life plans until you can all agree or at least be okay with them. It's ok if the closest connections to anyone you have are those within your own body. It's ok to not want to be close to people unless they accept everyone in your system.

You're not anti-recovery. You're not "giving up" your body to some evil parasite. You're not "throwing your life away because of an illness". You're not bad if you "make everything about your system" because those people are a part of your life as much as any other friend or partner or coworker, you should be able to talk about them.

If you want to make decisions about your body as a collective, please do. You can live a happy and fulfilling life, connected closely with your headmates and all being happy together. It doesn't have to be a struggle 24/7. There will be good days, there will be bad. You won't always agree easily. Things can be difficult, but you aren't wrong for wanting your system to be as big of a part in your life as you yourself are.

Honestly I love super niche origin terms. The why and how you exist is something that can be super duper important to someone – just look at how many religions try to answer that question about the human species or individual people, as well as all the philosophical debate about the meaning of life, or even just the personal family stories of why someone's parents decided to have/keep them – and it's no surprise that we (plurals and headmates in general) like to answer this question for ourselves when we have such unique paths and causes for existence. I just finally figured out how to put into words my own reason for existence and I'm really happy about that! I hope all headmates out there who are struggling with "why do I exist" are able to find a satisfactory answer too, whether that means you find a specific origin term that fits you, you coin your own term, or you decide to forgo origin terms and describe yourself in a freestyle way. You're not alone in searching for answers – not in this community, and not in general, either. A lot of folks out there are asking the same questions you are.

if i didnt have headmates then who would remind me i can take paracetamol to fix the headaches caused by my headmates?

about a month ago when i started to question if i was a part of a system i was really panicing about it and i remember thinking to myself "i could still repress this"

i know it probably wouldnt have worked, but even so im glad i didnt. im so very glad i didnt.

as weird and as difficult as plurality can be i like the others in here with me, i like the conversations we have and how we work together as team. i like being a part of a system.

the future is plural and so are we!

struggling with your identity?

try dissociation!!

dissociating from my identity worked great for the last 20 years.

i mean i am 6 people now but im sure thats completely unrelated.

Defined by joy, Not my pain

While we have moments of pain, undeniably we have struggled both now and in the past, defining ourselves by our worst moments will only lead to us struggling further instead of allowing ourselves to grow as a person. Defining our existence by pain hinders our ability to heal. I will not be defined by pain, whether my own, or others.

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Presenting, my life for the past 6 years

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'I always wanted to fuck him' caption under a picture of a dark room with nothing in it