Fighting The Demons That Tell Me That Being Cringe Is Bad

FEMA is doing an emergency alert test on all TVs, radios, and cell phones on October 4, 2023, at approximately 2:20pm ET.

If you live in the US and you have a phone you need to keep secret for any reason, make sure that it is turned off at this time.

Yes, I'm doing this months in advance, and yes, my blog has very little reach, but I figure better to post about it more than less.

Please reblog and add better tags than mine, I'm bad at tags.

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Lost a friend today because he refused to listen about how harmful the concept of narcissistic abuse is, despite knowing I have NPD and that I'm a victim of the exact same kind of abuse he was (literally, he described my experience down to the letter).

He was one of my and my partner's closest friends, so today has been really rough.

Please listen to people with NPD about how this harms us. We're neurodivergent people with a largely traumagenic disorder, usually from abuse and/or neglect. We're not monsters, predisposed towards an abusive nature, or capable of a unique kind of abuse. We're just people who struggle with self-esteem because we base our ego primarily on our perception of what others think of us.

We're not saying this can never influence toxic behaviors, we're just pointing out that that's not more true of our disorder any more than any other health condition, from autism and ADHD to OCD to PTSD to addiction to eating disorders to bipolar to depression to anxiety.

We're also not trying to take language from other abuse victims. We're asking you to not be ableist (a form a structured societal abuse) towards other abuse victims. Call it what it is: emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is such a wider category than people realize, and it's important to talk about that. I hear what people are saying when they say they're wanting to describe a specific subtype of emotional abuse, so let's make words for that!

Manipulative abuse, coercive abuse, gaslighting abuse, guilt-tripping abuse, even safety abuse - that last for when people use their own mental health state and threaten self harm or suicide to get their way.

These can all be factors in emotional abuse - what's commonly described as narc abuse is what's standard for emotional abuse, involving a wide variety of tactics to exert control in the absence of physical or sexual abuse - which also can and usually are partly emotional in nature as well.

I'd love to open a conversation about terms that better describe what we went through! I'm just asking that we don't use the ones that further demonize a badly misunderstood disorder, and that people be willing to recognize that their understanding of it is based on a LOT of misinformation.

Just, please, listen to us. Be willing to be open-minded. We aren't your abusers, and we know that you deserved better and deserve a chance to heal to the fullest extent possible. We do too. Please, help make a safe space for us all to do so together.

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happy pride month to all the

-asexuals

-aromantics

-aroaces

-aromantic allosexuals

-asexual alloromantics

-aroace flux

-people who don’t fit the traditional aspec definitions but still identify as aroace

-poc aspec people

-young aspec people

-old aspec people

-romance/sex favourable aspecs

-romance/sex repulsed aspecs

-romance/sex indifferent aspecs

-romance/sex ambivalent aspecs

-romance/sex averse aspecs

-neurodivergent aspec people

-neurotypical aspec people

-disabled aspec people

-chronically ill aspec people

-aspec people with contradictory identities

-aspec people who do not fit any of these categories listed

-you are all valid 🏳️‍🌈

literally seconds later AHAHHDJS

THE DREAM KEEPS GOING!!!

AHHH, IT'S BEEN DONE

thank you to all that have contributed, your efforts are sincerely appreciated!

although, even though i hit the max... I AM NOT STOPPING!! IM KEEPING THE BOOPING ALIVE AS LONG AS I POSSIBLY CAN!!!

i will say also, absolute shout-out to YOU!

crown of boops goes to you, frankly -- couldn't not have done it without you 🫶

Reminder that:

Neopronouns are entirely valid.

It doesn't matter if neopronouns are "cringe" or "weird". In the eyes of someone who dislikes a group of people, everything about them will be "weird". Why not have fun while being weird?

Neopronouns can be hard to use or understand, but they do get easier with time.

Neopronouns being confusing or new does not mean someone can insist on referring to others with the wrong pronouns. (Of course, don't get hung up on calling someone the wrong pronouns by accident, but especially don't hateful.)

Neopronouns are not limited to anything at all. They aren't exclusive to nonbinary people, they aren't only for people who present a certain way, they aren't for people who also use xenogenders. They're not closed. They can be used by whomever.

Neopronouns can be anything. Nouns, consonants, vowels, entirely new words, symbols, emojis - they're what you make them.

Neopronouns are constantly evolving. Their entire existence is based around being new. You can use neopronouns for yourself, learn about the history behind neopronouns, practice using neopronouns, create neopronouns - everything is free to do forever. Be cool and have fun.

CUTE PEOPLE LOVE LOGGING ONTO THIS SITE. cute people love reading this post. cute people love drinking water

the thing about working on childcare these days is that I'm blown away by how open minded and genuinely curious these kids are. there are multiple openly queer kids, who are aware of the intricacy of the queer community and the multi-faceted nature of queer identity.

none of that was around 10 or 20 years ago. queerness wasn't even necessarily taboo during my childhood experiences, it just,,, wasn't taught or talked about, even from one child to another. I just didn't know it was a thing. but these little kids know about intersectionality!!!

and then when I was in high school, kids used 'gay' as an insult, but these kids at my job don't even blink differently when I told them the little queer flag pin on my messenger bag was the aroace flag. some of them ask what it means, because perhaps they've only heard of gay lesbian and trans. (and they've heard of gay lesbian and trans!!!!) I explain my flag and what it means, and it makes sense to them. that would have been alien for me as a ten year old.

some of these little lesbian girls and aroace and bisexual boys, the pan, poly, demigirl and nonbinary little ten year olds are the best friends that little me needed.

it's refreshing and heartwarming to see that the young ones of today are the kind of people this world needs.

PROTECT QUEER KIDS!!!! EMPOWER QUEER KIDS!!!!

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