Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

important !! please read and reblog !!

it’s unfair of us to have platforms and not use it to speak up for palestinians. i have resources provided below for how you can educate yourself on the ethnic cleansing that is happening in israel right now and how you can help.

educate yourself

thread on what is occurring in sheikh jarrah, another thread

thread of infographics about misconceptions regarding israel and palestine

tw bombing video of al aqsa mosque being bombed

tw violence, tw bombing, tw shooting video of palestinians in al aqsa mosque

tweet explaining importance of al aqsa

a website where you can learn more about palestine

a video breaking down the history of the israeli oppressing palestinians

video of palestinian explaining the importance of spreading awareness

tw violence video of 16 yo palestinian boy being forcefully evicted from his home by israeli solders

tiktok of palestinian speaking about what is going on in her country. please see the links in her bio for more information— tiktok will not let me copy and paste her linktree

tiktok of palestinian speaking on situation in gaza

instagram page for jewish voices for peace, an organization working for liberation and justice for palestine

infographics explaining how to be an ally for palestine

some of the posts are triggering instagram of journalist sharing what is happening in palestine

free ways to help if you cannot donate

do NOT sign petitions !! they are not accounted for in the middle east and do nothing.

go to this website and simply click. update: i have heard from some people that this helps and from other people that it does not. please be wary with this source and do not depend on it.

watch this video to donate, it’s 3 hours long but just playing it in the background can help

watch this video to donate, it’s 1 hour long but just playing it in the background can help

if you are from the U.K., follow these instructions to call local MPs into action

if you are from the U.S., text RESIST to 50409 to urge congress to help palestine

thread of dua’as muslims can make to pray for palestinians

boycott israeli products

donate— it is better to donate directly to people rather than organizations, but i do have a few organizations listed.

do NOT donate to change.org

help children and hospitals affected by gaza bombing

help hungry children in palestine

donate to palestine child relief fund, known to be reputable

donate to united palestinian appeal, a direct charity

donate directly to journalist injured in gaza

ramadan zakat fund for palestinians in gaza

raise money for palestinian woman escaping toxic household

buy palestinian goods

i’ll add more links as i continue to find reliable sources and proper donations. please dm me other resources and i can add them to this list. if anything here is not trustworthy, please let me know immediately and i will take it down. free palestine until it’s backwards, pray for palestinians who do not know whether they will be safe in their own country.

last but not least, if you are a zionist, unfollow me immediately. i don’t need you on my tumblr. and do not use what is happening in palestine right now to be anti-semitic.

Jshshhdjjahs I was watching my love enlighten me and in the last ep when he whispers in her ear asking her to marry him ik it's supposed to be a sweet moment but I'm like I'm reminded of the SpongeBob whisper meme hdhdusjkwial

I'm tired of living upto expectations. I want to run away to somewhere where I can truly be myself and I'm not forced into a mold.

Here's a digital painting I made! Constructive criticism is appreciated😊

My Manga List (2019) Part 6

Momochi-san Chi no Ayakashi Ouji

Summary:

Momochi Himari after being an orphan inherited a house out of nowhere. She decided to occupy that house despite of the warnings she received. According to the folks the House of Momochi is haunted. There she met three guys who live in the house, Aoi, Yukari and Ise. Then she discovered something unusual about them. What will happen to Himari’s peaceful life when she decided to stay there?

WHY YOU SHOULD READ:

- a personal favorite

- f a n t a s y

- m y s t e r y

- plot = 5/5

- art style = 4/5

- ml is a sweet, handsome, softie 

-mc is love

- it will keep you going

- interesting read 

- soft

- lovable characters

- to conclude,  you are gonna love this story bcoz it’s so interesting, and the characers and plot are lovely

Watashitachi wa Douka shiteiru

Summary:

Kougetsu An, a well-established Japanese-style confectionary store where Nao’s mother worked and lived is where she met Tsubaki. However, after a certain incident, Nao’s mother was accused of murder and is arrested. Because of that, Nao was banned from Kougetus An. Fifteen years later, Tsubaki revisits a disapproving Nao, which make the two compete at a showdown for their skills. The hateful Tsubaki who once made Nao’s life a crazy mess approached Nao later to marry him since he has yet to notice that his long-lost childhood friend is Nao. How will Nao react to this unexpected proposal?!

WHY YOU SHOULD READ:

- m y s t e r y bcoz who killed the owner?

- plot = 4/5

- art style = 5/5

- ml and mc are a match in wickedness

- conclusion, only has a few chaps but the entire premise are pretty and the suspense is killing me

Itoshi no Ko, Charlotte

Summary:

Orphans Charlotte and William finally confess their feelings for each other and promised to be together forever. Yet, Charlotte is suddenly killed in a motor accident, leaving William devastated. Death is usually the end of most relationships, but it seems that Will has other plans…

WHY YOU SHOULD READ:

- plot = 5/5 

- art style = 3/5

- resurrection stories

- i n t e r e s t i n g read

- goosebumps

- characters are interesting

- to conclude, this only has like 2 chaps but its too interesting and promising.

The Revelation of Spring and Sons of Snow

Summary:

“As Yuki-onna-sama’s living sacrifice, you shall call upon the arrival of Spring.”

In Fuji Village where the legend of Yuki-onna remains, preparations begin on the morning of New Year’s Day for the ritual to be held on the coldest day of the year. The young men who have inherited the blood of Yuki-onna thus named the Three Houses of the Gokusho, spend their days until the ritual aiding the living sacrifice, the Revelation of Spring. In this enclosed world bound by laws and tradition, the young men uncover mysteries of the village and its rituals. Before long, the village is faced with a situation never before seen.

WHY YOU SHOULD READ:

- plot = 6/5 this story is that good

- art style = 5/5

- can i just say that i love the fact that they incoporated a legend/folktale here?

- characters are lovable

- who is the killer why the sacrifices

-  i n t e r e s t i n g

- conclusion, highly recommended!!

Hakoniwa no Soleil

Summary:

After visiting her deceased teacher’s grave, Asahi Sena ends up saving a man falling from the stairs. The man, Itsuki Tobari turns out to be her deceased teacher’s younger brother. They start to talk about things from the past, about the death of Itsuki’s sister and the 11-year-old boy, Sena’s best friend from the past, who killed her. Where and how is the boy now? Together, they start to find out what actually happened during that tragic day.

WHY YOU SHOULD READ:

- plot = 5/5

- art style = 4/5

- w h o k i l l e d t h e s e n s e i

- m y s t e r y

- both mls are considerate

- mc is strong willed

- super interesting

- conclusion, this bored me at first ngl but this is really good! there’s a lot going on and the characters has their own story

hello~ i recently hit 6k on this blog so thank you all for following me and this little blog where all i do is throw gifset after gifset at y’all 💛 i have no idea where you all came from but i am appreciative nonetheless! and with the very exciting news that the three mxtx novels are getting official eng translations, i’m going to be doing a giveaway for the vol 1 pre-orders. 

as you may have noticed, i’m not actually in any of the fandoms for the mxtx novels lol but i still wanted to do something to show my support. also, if publishers see how well these sell, it may open doors for future official eng translations of all the other many wonderful c-novels we all love! 

✨giveaway rules✨

there will be three (3) winners - each person gets their choice of one vol 1 pre-order

reblogs only, likes are bookmarks (each user gets one entry regardless of how many times you reblog so please don’t spam)

you don’t have to be following me! i’m doing this because i want to support the translators and i’m happy that the books will go to someone who will love and appreciate them

book depository must be able to ship to you

ends August 20, 2021 at 11:59PM pst - i will use a random generator to pick the winners the next day and dm you

if winners don’t respond within 48hrs w/ their choice of book and address then i will pick someone else

yeee ok i think i’ve covered everything i needed to and hopefully this won’t flop lmao but if you have any questions, feel free me to send an ask!

Misc readings pt. 9

Interpretation of dreams, paromita vohra, mumbai mirror

The original goths: why women write gothic horror, the book habit

My grandfather's cult, nathaniel g. moore, toronto life

Our lives happen in restaurants, new york times

Love’s contradictions: catullus on the agony of infatuation, armand d'angour, psyche

The skeletons at the lake, douglas preston, the new yorker

YouTube's lo-fi music streams are all about the euphoria of less, jason parham, wired

On memorizing poetry, connie pan, bookriot

How the clouds got their names and how goethe popularised them with his science- inspired poems, maria popova, brain pickings

Crush, larissa pham, believer

Century old marathi-hindi kirtans get revived in mumbai, mohua das, the times of india

The crow whisperer, lauren markham, harper's magazine

Mugger much love from a one-armed priest, excerpt from wild and wilful: tales of 15 iconic indian species by neha sinha

stopping the void: ottilie mulzet on how her adoptive heritage lead her to a life of and in translation, the paris review

How facebook got addicted to spreading misinformation, karen hao, technology review

The new gwen stefani is a lot like the old one, anne helen peterson, buzzfeed

How a secret european language ‘made a rabbit’ and survived, martin puchner, psyche

The trouble with charlotte perkins gilman, halle butler, the paris review

The limits of the lunchbox moment, jaya saxena, the eater

How the new yorker fell into the “weird japan” trap, ryu spaeth, the new republic

Camping the canon: matthew lewis, milton & the monk, colin broadmoor, blood knife

Why contemporary women artists are obsessed with the grotesque, tess thackara, artsy (article has graphic images)

Haphephobia, olly nze, the audacity

The anxiety of influencers, barett swanson, harper's magazine

My octopus girlfriend, sophie lewis, n+1 mag

Nigella lawson wants everyone to experience the (thoroughly guilt-free) pleasure of food, nigella lawson, lithub

K-Drama Recommendations: Soft/Beta Male Leads

Beta males are my main character trope of choice:  A soft boy who lets the woman take charge or who defers to her. He is dedicated, doesn’t play mind games and doesn’t worry about taking on traditionally masculine roles. He puts the leading lady’s needs first, remains loyal and kind, and allows the woman’s personality to shine. Sounds perfect right?

K-Dramas that features soft male leads:

Because This Is My First Life

Nam See is an introverted and thoughtful beta male with a fondness for his kitty (bonus!). He’s smart and capable but also honors his contract marriage with Ji Ho, and treats her with an overwhelming amount of respect. He is the first character I’ve seen in a drama that truly understands consent. When this show aired, everyone was smitten with Nam See because he was the “perfect boyfriend material.” As a side note ironically, Lee Min Ki (the actor who played the perfect Nam See) had his own personal scandal which seems the total opposite of his character and I’d feel weird not mentioning it.

Healer Swoon-worthy Park Bong Soo is not only a super capable action superhero behind the scenes, but has total puppy eyes for Chae Young Shin. This couple makes the show one of my favorites even if the plot isn’t 100%.

Ho Goo’s Love / Fool’s Love

Ho Goo is in my opinion the poster child of the soft male lead and Fool’s love is one of my top five favorite dramas (it covers sexual abuse and has a gay storyline - I know, shocking for a k-drama). When people ask me for examples of non-problematic boyfriends, this show comes to mind first. Ho Goo is quiet, really sensitive, caring and puts everyone before himself. He’s a bit naive to the world’s workings, but when he falls for a medal winning athlete with a troubled past and an unwanted pregnancy, he’s willing to drop everything to be with her. It’s one of the best dramas I’ve seen though it does have a small bit of slapstick.

Flower Boy Next Door

Enrique Geum is a creative and kooky character who falls for an introvert. He’s soooo goofy and adorable, it’s almost like watching a cartoon character interact with real live people (plus he cuddles with puppies and look at his panda hat!). He sets his sites on an introvert and works hard to build a friendship (and romance). The show is a bit trying at times due to the annoying SLS and what I like to call “k-drama nonsense” but he’s so soft!

The Happy Loner/ Individualist Ms. Ji Young

This mini drama features a puppy-like boy trying to befriend a “cold” female. He is persistent in winning her over but not overbearing by any means. I had a couple of issues with this show but overall it’s one of the better mini dramas I’ve seen. 

Reunited Worlds

Hae Sung, a senior in high school dies and through k-drama magic, travels twelve years into the future to solve the mystery of his death. He reunites with his high school sweetheart (a now 31 year old woman) and the two fall back in love. He’s really smitten with her regardless of her age, and works hard to make her feel comfortable with their age difference. He’s a lovely friend with a pure heart and is completely adorable. The SLS is also incredibly beta (though not a very charismatic role - people complained about his acting skills). I don’t know a lot of people who liked this show as much as I did, but Yeo Jin Goo melted my heart and I felt all of the feels (plus I love the fated lovers and time travel tropes).

Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok-Joo 

Joon-Hyung is a sweet and doting beta male who falls for Bok-Joo really hard, like puppy dog hard. He loves her for the tom-boy she is and respects her athletic prowess. These two are adorable together and there are TONS of cute scenes with them on dates and cuddling, though his immaturity/nick names for her annoyed me sometimes (maybe I’m sensitive).

The Package

This show aired without much notice but I happened to really enjoy it. The lead had a sweet and open personality and I just honestly loved that about him. When the couple argued they actually used their communication skills! If you’re looking for a quiet slice-of-life drama that’s a little different, check it out. You can read my review here if you’re curious.

Honorable Mentions (A.K.A Good Solid Boyfriends)

Fight For My Way/ Fight My Way

Fight my way is one of my top three favorites shows. It has an amazing strong female lead (like, really strong but also realistic) and uses the friends to lovers trope really well. It also has a solid group of friends who are regular people struggling to make a living - what can I say, I love it! Dong Man isn’t a truly beta male because he doesn’t become super soft until he realizes he is falling for his best friend. However once that happens, he’s all about Choi Ae Ra and in total support of everything she does (and he should be because she’s amazing). Plus if you look at the flashbacks, he’s really a beta male in training so… As a side note there is one single scene where he says something I don’t like, but I won’t say anything and you probably won’t notice because of the chemistry.

Just Between Lovers

I debated putting this show in my beta males post because both leads are dealing with trauma, PTSD and mental illness, so Kang Doo has some violent tendencies and anger issues which made me hesitate. But make no mistake, he is in love with Moon Soo from the very beginning and lives for her. He cares deeply and gives 100%. He goes out of his way to keep her safe and tell her she’s loved. Plus she’s someone I think of as a strong female character but is strong in a quiet way which I love. So since there is the strong female/mostly soft male it deserves a mention.

Also if you want a few more beta male dramas, @overthinkingkdrama has a great list with more soft leads here.

xoxo, Shana

To the imperfect tomorrow