Lemme Make You Shift / Enter The Void

25 Questions for a Fresh Start

Reflect and take the next step toward your goals!

1. What are my top three priorities for 2025?

2. What is one habit I want to create this year?

3. What personal qualities do I want to develop?

4. What will success look like for me in 2025?

5. What is one bold goal I've been hesitant to pursue?

6. How will I take care of my mental and physical health this year?

7. What do I need to let go of to move forward?

8. Who in my life supports my growth and goals?

9. How can I add more joy and fun to my daily life?

10. What financial goal do I want to achieve by the end of the year?

I1. What new skill will I commit to learning in 2025?

12. How will I organize my time to stay productive and balanced?

14. How will i track my progress and celebrate small wins?

15. What does my ideal work-life balance look like?

16. What experiences or adventures do I want to have in 2025?

17. How can I be more present and mindful in my daily routine?

18. What will I stop doing that no longer serves me?

19. What is one relationship I want to improve this year?

20. How can I contribute more to my community or causes I care about?

21. What are three books I want to read for self-growth?

22. What limiting belief do I need to challenge and overcome in 2025?

23. How will I make time for rest and self-care throughout the year?

24. What is one risk I'm willing to take for personal growth?

25. What legacy do I want to build or continue this year?

I can’t even build a normal one and he’s out here doing this

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want to have a detailed pinboard for your desired reality? here are section ideas along with some ideas for their names! some sections may be shorter than others but it's mainly because i didn't wanna repeat the same ideas. also i am exahusted. i am not proofreading this. i will mind beam you the correct version pinky promise. also feel free to send questions about clarification or more fun titles. idk. eeee

VISUALS. visuals are where you'd put things like your face, hair, or body claims, pictures that you feel resemble you, anything that aligns with your physical appearance. here are examples of what you could categorize and name these sections with examples!

first letter of your first name + your last name A. MONTELLO. job / title of your dr self LEAD DETECTIVE / MIU MIU AMBASSADOR. the handle you use DEERDOEFAWN. character / person you're related to TASHI'S YOUNGER SISTER. biggest accomplishment in that reality YOUNGEST BEST DIRECTOR. album / song / movie name AALIYAH'S BODY. color you are most known for THE FACE OF PINK. a quote or two THERE'S AALIYAH / WHAT IS SHE DOING HERE? just your name, maybe? AALIYAH MONTELLO. how about their birthcity/state/country? WESTPORT GIRL / CALI MADE. or keep it simple VISUALS / AALIYAH'S FACE / THE FACE OF LIYAH. and of course, things like CAMERA ROLL / PHOTO GALLERY what about the face card? TRANSACTION ACCEPTED / TAP TO PAY. if you like any of these but you have multiple claims ( art, handwriting, eyes, hair, nails, etc ) for a reality and wanna keep them separated by section, just send me an ask and i'll answer !!!

CLOSET. this is where you'd stuff your wardrobe like a dramatic cartoon character! if you plan on stuffing everything in one section, here are names and the example board. i don't have the energy for multiple separate items, but i put a few ideas. something silly FITS ARE FITTING / FASHION YOUR SEATBELTS. favorite designer / brand DIOR SHOPPING BAGS / MADE BY YLS. questions WHAT'S THAT BRAND? / WHAT ARE YOU WEARING? another quote / lyric DRESS ME EVERYWHERE. the name of your aesthetic SOUTHERN GOTHIC GIRL. the person you're styled by LAW ROACH MADE IT. shoes SLIP ONS / BOOTS AND ALL / SOLE MATES. bags, purses, etc WHAT'S IN MY BAG? / EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE. accessories FINISHING TOUCHES. hairstyles LACE WHERE? / HAIRDO YOU DO? / FLAT IRON BURNS. makeup CAN'T MAKE THIS UP / MUGSHOTS. nails CLAW MARKS / FRESH SET.

MUSINGS. this may or may not be a new word to some of you. musings is primarily used in the roleplay community to express images, actions, songs, etc that give you inspiration for your characters. this can be things like poses, photos, memes, pictures you can imagine fans taking, whatever it is that gives you that itch for your dr self that isn't connected to your aesthetics there, but you can just feel that it's so you in that reality. you can totally see yourself doing that, posing like that, maybe even having the same image in that reality's pinboard. you can just feel that it's you. if you're confused, here is an example from my personal musings board. you can divide this by memes, poses, images, do whatever you feel is best.

YOUR HOME. pretty straightforward. i don't need to explain homes. do i? i don't think so. hopefully. ask if you need an explanation. here is my personal board for a dormitory. if i really like a room but don't like how small it looks, i typically include a picture of what i feel fits my desired layout of the room.

PERSONALITY. okay, so. i know you can't exactly find a bunch of words to throw into your board so i personally like to use quotes, characters i could relate to in that reality, and memes, because you know what you act like. here is my example board!

LIFE. i typically break this up a bunchhhh. like i split this via a bunch of sections. rumored exes. scandals. movies you're in. movies you made. albums. soft launch photos. get nuts. get simple. text messages. their best friend. their second best friend. their sixth best friend. their significant other. i literally go insane with this because the possibilities are endless. i will not share an example of my board because it is genuinely too much but go fucking nuts. bananas even. get white girl wasted for youR reality board. "hobbies?" sure. "photoshoots?" yeah! "tweets about me?" i said yes!!! "what about-" I AM CUTTING YOU OFF!!!

ITEMS. i love love loveeee this part of my board. i like to stuff everything into one but still have some level of organization. this is why my boards often have 60 sections. oops. who gaf. you can use this for your phone cases, keychains, cars, computers, handheld consoles, blah blah blah, modes of transportation, all the good stuff. i have vs pink mannequins in one of my boards. they are so cute. i need to get my hands on them BAD.

SCRAPS. okay look. have you evert been in asituation where you realized that yes this is so me. but wait. where do i put it. not here. nope not here. this shit doesn't even go musings. maybe you know this is your but don't have the time to organize it or just simply don't want to. this is basically my recycling bin because yes but no but yeah at the same time. i got like 200 images in one of the boards. like organize some of these omg.

COLORS AND PATTERNS. see some colors that are just so you? maybe a fun polka dot pattern? section it. do it. i am the evil bug on your shoulder.

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Become Your Dream Girl in 2025

Defining your dream girl persona

The first step into becoming your dream girl is to have a clear picture of her in your mind. Imagine her life in detail; her aesthetic, her habits, and even her energy. This is the time to get specific.

Visualization Exercise: Sit in a quiet space, close your eyes, and visualize your dream girl persona. How does she dress? What places does she visit? What are her priorities and goals? Let yourself feel her confidence, luxury, and elegance.

Create a Vision Board: Gather photos, quotes, fabrics, and colors that represent this version of you. A physical board can go in your room or closet. It can even be a mini collage you can put on your driver's side mirror in your car. The goal is to see your dream girl's life as real and achievable.

Setting New Year Goals

Your dream girl's life needs structure, so let's break down goals into categories and map out the steps to make it happen.

Categorize Your Goals: List your goals under personal growth, style & beauty, health & wellness, and career & financial. For example, under "Health & Wellness", you might set a goal to try Pilates or to cook more at home.

Monthly Check-Ins: As you go through the year, check in with your goals to celebrate your wins, and adjust as needed. This keeps your transformation on track.

Mindset Makeover

Confidence & Self-Worth

Your dream girl is confident, magnetic, and knows her worth. Let's build those habits and thoughts that help you embody that energy daily.

Positive Affirmations: Every time you look in the mirror, say things like "I am worth everything good that can happen to me" or any affirmation that you feel suits you best.

Confidence Rituals: Small, daily actions add up to huge shifts in confidence. Make it a habit to dress up on casual days, speak kindly to yourself, and embrace good posture.

Let Go of Insecurities: Identify any insecurities and practice reframing them. Instead of "I wish I was more confident", say "I am becoming more confident every day". Over time, you'll notice how these subtle shifts impact your self-worth.

Mindset for Success

Your dream girl is resilient and always growing, so let's make success part of your mindset.

Growth Mindset: View challenges as chances to learn, whether it's a career move, a new hobby, or even a social situation.

Visualizing Success: Each morning, spend a few minutes visualizing yourself living your dream life. This will keep you focused and motivated.

Morning & Evening Routines: Start each day with intention by setting small goals and expressing gratitude. At night, reflect on the day and celebrate your wins; even the small ones.

Social Life & Relationships

Social confidence comes from feeling at ease in your own skin.

Elegant Etiquette: Show appreciation with thank you notes, and make an effort to remember names. The vibe for 2025 is to go for traditional, rather than modern. Think classic early 1920's-1950's Hollywood.

Curate Your Circle: Surround yourself with supportive, inspiring friends who uplift you. Leave the ones who don't elevate themselves or try to keep you behind.

Networking Lifestyle: Turn social gatherings into chances to meet like-minded people and to elevate your circle.

(Dating) Standards First: Don't settle; know what you deserve in a partner and communicate it confidently.

(Dating) Playful Energy: Be confident, flirty, and assertive (with yourself, not them). Stay in your feminine energy and let them earn your time and attention.

(Dating) Relationship Goals: Keep dates special and playful. Dress up, go out, and enjoy yourself.

Finances & Career Goals

Your dream girl values luxury, but also financial security. Your career is part of your dream girl identity, so elevate it.

Budgeting: Set aside money for luxuries and self-investment, but keep savings in mind.

Multiple Income Streams: Consider side hustles that align with your lifestyle.

Savings Goals: Whether it's for a designer bag, a trip, or just building wealth, make sure your goals are concrete.

Luxury Workspace: Make your workspace a vibe with candles, flowers, and chic decor.

Network for Success: Connect with mentors and people who inspire you.

Grow with Intention: Set milestones in your career or business, and keep pushing for the next level.

Health & Wellness

Your body is the vessel of your dream girl, so let's treat it with love and care. Mental clarity and peace are essential for dream girl energy; so let's focus on overall wellness this year.

Exercise: Try Pilates or Barre classes for a toned, elegant look. If that's not your thing, find workouts that create your dream body.

Healthy Eating: Focus on whole foods, lots of veggies, and drink tons of water.

Weekly Reset: Plan a mini detox day where you relax, hydrate, and reset for the week.

Mindfulness Practice: Try a short meditation or breathing exercise every morning.

Stress Relief: Whether it's a quick walk, journaling, or a creative outlet, find a stress relief that's all you.

Boundaries: Say no when needed, and make sure your energy is protected.

Beauty & Style Upgrade

First, a dream girl has that glow, and it all starts with a skincare routine that feels luxurious. You also need to find a style that captures your dream girl vibe, and commit to curating it. Then, you need to develop habits that will help you better your appearance.

Simple Skincare Routine (For Starters): Start with a cleanser for your skin type, followed by a hydrating toner, a serum (like Vitamin C for brightness), moisturizer, and SPF.

Luxury Treatments: Invest in facials or try gentle at-home treatments like dermaplaning once a month for an extra glow.

Nightly Routine: Keep your skin hydrated at night with a heavier moisturizer or an overnight mask.

Personal Style Icons: Think of someone like Serena van der Woodsen from Gossip Girl or a high-fashion model off-duty.

Curating Your Wardrobe: Focus on high-quality staples in neutral tones, like blazers, silky blouses, and tailored bottoms. Invest in timeless pieces that make you feel like a billion dollars.

Signature Look: A dream girl has her thing, whether it's an accessory, a makeup look, or a scent. Find what makes you feel like you and stick with it.

Self-Care Rituals: Prioritize manicures and pedicures, hair masks, and bubble baths. Set aside time every week to pamper yourself.

Polished Look: Even on your most casual days, aim to look put together.

Signature Hair & Makeup: Pick a go-to glam look that embodies your dream girl; maybe that's glossy lips and loose waves (for example).

Lifestyle & Daily Habits

Your routine should feel luxurious yet practical, setting the tone for each day. Small daily habits can transform how you feel and present yourself.

Weekly Pamper Sessions: Set aside Sunday evenings for facials, skincare, and champagne baths! (Be careful and make sure you're of legal drinking age)

Journaling and Reflection: Each morning, write down 3 things you're grateful for and 3 intentions for the day.

Goal Reviews: Every Sunday, celebrate your wins and see if any goals need a refresh.

The Basic Routine: Make your bed, wake up early, and put on an outfit that feels like you.

Energy-Boosting Habits: A quick stretch, a healthy breakfast, and a moment of quiet can make a huge difference.

Wind-Down Ritual: At night, unwind with tea, a bubble bath, or a short meditation to recharge for tomorrow.

Indulge a Little: Get a weekly coffee treat or a luxurious candle that makes your space feel cozy.

Luxury Experiences: Plan for a special outing every month, like a fancy dinner or spa day.

Signature Scents and Cocktails: Find your go-to perfume and a signature drink like a dirty martini or a bubbly glass of champagne.

Conclusion:

Becoming your dream girl is a journey; one that's glamorous, fulfilling, and full of growth. Each step brings you closer to living the life you deserve.