It Was Pure Love - "pure" Not As The Opposite Of Filthy, But Pure In The Sense That Pure Uranium Is Pure.

ADHD is finding yourself washing the dishes, your upper body cold, when you just got up to pick up a sweater, but then remembered that you forgot to apply deodorant, so you do that first ... and somehow you smell nice, wash dishes and you're still cold, and then you remember why

my mythology pet peeve is when someone describes a scenario in which they keep nearly getting something and then having it snatched away, and everyone's like "one must imagine sisyphus" no!!! one must imagine TANTALUS!!! sisyphus = being made to perform a pointless, aggravating task over and over without ever making any progress. tantalus = being offered a glorious reward only for it to vanish as soon as you reach for it. they are NOT the same

I've come realization that I'm an empath and keep suffering with the above mentioned points under self abandonment. Healing from this is f%$!ing hard but it has to be done. Just gotta keep moving forward!!

Yay!

Give love to people,

to do that you must be there for them,

To be there for them you must take care of yourself,

To take care of yourself you must know your needs,

To know your needs you need to be open but also sometimes it means stopping talking to someone who wants to use you etc. and not looking back

To do that you must know your priorities

And time is one of the things you don't get back so put it up there

One thing I’ve noticed about people in or entering their 30s is they don’t make as many compromises anymore. If someone doesn’t meet them halfway, is not up to standard, is just not where they’re needed to be, they’re just like “ok cool” and they move on from the person. Which is not to say they’re less empathetic or understanding, but more that they have learned that time is their most prized possession and they’re not willing to make massive compromises on it. They are not obsessed w the idea of fixing someone (bc the concept of fixing a person doesn’t really exist). They simply move on to someone who is up to par. I want that. I want to always move w the awareness that time is my most priceless belonging and I can never buy it back. Ever. So I have to use it wisely

Fun little thought experiment. What would be the worst superpower to have with X disability?

writer’s block (dry) = no desire to write, no ability to write (bearable)

writer’s block (wet) = HUGE desire to write, no ability to write (very evil)

I want to own pets no other human wants because that's exactly what will help them help us when we get there.

In the future, children will think our ways are strange. "Why do old people always grow so much milkweed in their gardens?" they'll say. "Why do old people always write down when the first bees and butterflies show up? Why do old people hate lawn grass so much? Why do old people like to sit outside and watch bees?"

We will try to explain to them that when we were young, most people's yards were almost entirely short grass with barely any flowers at all, and it was so commonplace to spray poisons to kill insects and weeds that it was feared monarch butterflies and American bumblebees would soon go extinct. We will show them pictures of sidewalks, shops, and houses surrounded by empty grass without any flowers or vegetables and they will stare at them like we stared at pictures of grimy children working in coal mines

Please, please remember:

The term “neurodivergent” describes people whose brain differences affect how their brain works.

It is not only autism and ADHD.

It's many many many things!

Including personality disorders, foetal alcohol syndrome, Downs Syndrome, Tourette's, dyslexia, dyspraxia, dyscalculia, bipolar disorder, Irlen syndrome, and more then I can list here.

If it's your brain differences that is affecting how your brain works...it's a neurodivergence!

My love goes to all neurodivergents outside of US and few select other places. where you can get diagnosed and expect some kind of support

self diagnosing is okay

and if you were wrong that’s okay too

figuring yourself out is hard

go easy on yourself please